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cinnfulhussy -> RE: The one syndrome (10/25/2005 8:43:15 PM)
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Actually, I have seen what the OP describes, to a rare. degree. Some submissives, whom, before they found their Master/Mistress would "Sir, Ma'am", "Master/Mistress" everyone in sight, suddenly decide that now that they have been claimed, they not only can drop the facade of being generally polite, but can now be as rude as they like to whomever they please. I think it might stem from their own insecurities, wanting to make sure everyone knows that they are now "owned", and have advanced beyond such actions. Some people seem to feel a need to make a strong distinction between their owned and pre-owned status <sounds like a used car commercial>. Some, when not owned, are obsequeous to all, defferential to all, polite to all, aware that their actions are being watched possibly by potential owners. Once that onus is removed, their true colors show. On the other hand, some are aware that their actions, when owned, reflect not only on themselves, but on their owners. Those that are aware of this, I've noticed tend to be polite in general to all, not just a specific subset such as Masters or Mistresses. Our definitions of polite, of course, may differ.
I am a member of our local Gorean community, though Master and I do not consider ourselves Gorean. Our philosophy is closer to that of the Goreans that it is to most of the BDSM population, however. I can see where a Gorean, who expects a certain type of protocol, could be rather put off by the lack of it, from the general BDSM populous. But, on the other hand, I don't think that its realistic to think that all will conform to the protocol you prefer. One learns to develop a thicker skin, if one is to comfortably interact with those from all walks of life. Those who do not, tend to be insular and stick to that which makes them the most comfortable. Nothing wrong with either way, I don't think.
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