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Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 3:19:57 AM

delilou

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Hello
this is my first post on anywhere in the forums except for the introduction, and I am seeking some advice.
My dom, whom I havent met for a couple of weeks due to life interfering, suggested that we switch roles next session and see how we both feel about it, the idea really intruiges me but honestly, im a sub through and through, so would like some pointers, nothing too extreme cause im quite sure he would freak out :) but just some suggestions of what you guys usually do on first sessions?
Thanks in advance
Lou

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 3:44:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: delilou

Hello
this is my first post on anywhere in the forums except for the introduction, and I am seeking some advice.
My dom, whom I havent met for a couple of weeks due to life interfering, suggested that we switch roles next session and see how we both feel about it, the idea really intruiges me but honestly, im a sub through and through, so would like some pointers, nothing too extreme cause im quite sure he would freak out :) but just some suggestions of what you guys usually do on first sessions?
Thanks in advance
Lou

Hello lou,

Do you know what he likes as a switch/bottom?
That's where it starts to know what the otherone is into,
and then it most certainly depends on My mood,
what I love to do that day.

So talk about the things he would want you to do!

I wish you enough.

GoddezzT`

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 4:10:00 AM

delilou

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Thank you GoddessTeaze, I am working on that as subtly as i can

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 4:45:42 AM

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I wouldn't be sublte about it, ask him out right. If you don't, how are you going to know what he enjoys? Ask him what is it that you enjoy? what are your limits? What are his fantasies?

On the safety side do you know how to handle a flogger? Do you know anything about bondage? (If he wants these things) Can you get inside his head and make him feel "dominated" if thats what he seeks? Or is he just looking to tell you what he wants as you two go along? If so he should start teaching you these things so when you do have your play session you are aware of what to do and how to do it.

Good luck,
~Lashra

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 12:43:42 PM

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Try not to do anything stupid so that you are both laughing uncontrollably...(not that this ever happened to me...

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 12:50:21 PM

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Yes, i agree with talking it through. Your dom may not enjoy being topped, he may simply be giving you a new perspective on the relationship y'all are in... seeing things from the other side.

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 1:35:34 PM

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Personally I like laughing like a maniac....

And I do recommend asking what he would like to try.....CBT is always a good one! Guys love it when you touch their units! Plus, it is too funny what you can get away with....

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RE: Ideas:) - 5/29/2008 8:30:26 PM

malloves69

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a little strapon play sounds like fun

maybe locate his prostate for him to see if he enjoys that

love golden showers by my lady my mistress

some tease and denial can be lots of fun as you get him close to the edge of cumming then back off when he is ready to explode

how about some face sitting to see how his tongue skills are in pleasing you

tie him up and blindfold him before you start always adds to it i think

just thinking about all the yummy things my mistress does to me

have fun and enjoy ..mal

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RE: Ideas:) - 6/4/2008 11:13:45 AM

delilou

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I thank you all for your input, has helped me alot.
I did ask and it went well, although eventually it turned out that i do not have enough guts to do all that I had planned, I had him blindfolded all the time, I honestly could not look in his eyes, felt so strange.
I still have no idea why we had to do this, I will let you all know as soon as I do
Thanks again
(and and we almost did burst out laughing but not quite!)

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RE: Ideas:) - 6/5/2008 3:18:07 AM

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I'm glad to hear that it worked out well! =)

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RE: Ideas:) - 6/5/2008 3:27:19 AM

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