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littlebitxxx -> RE: Breaking stubbornness! (10/26/2007 2:39:53 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MasterJoeseph
Hi all..I'm new to posting but have been lurking for a while now. I found a wonderful slave about 5-6 months ago and I adore her dearly. she is so eager to please and serve me...except in one little area. Blowjobs. she hates them. I want her to be to the point where I don't have to demand she does this act. I want her to want to do it willingly...to look forward to it. When she hesitates I punish her, but it seems to be the only time that punishment doesn't works... I'll try the blowjob again and she hesitates, gives me the sad pouty face/puppy dog eyes, and I hate it. she just really does not like giving blowjobs. she says that she gets tired easily (her mouth muscles/jaw/neck and her throat begins to hurt when she gags a few times), and she HATES having my cum in her mouth/swallowing and gets really anxious/nervous when she knows it's coming. she hates this all so much that even though I punish her and she genuinely feels bad about disappointing me, she still hesitates and resisits blowjobs. she is really headstrong on this and even she wants to break the fear/stubbornness/unwillingness, but she doesn't know how, and apparently neither do I... any advice would be greatly appreciated.
-Master Joseph
I'm going to try a whole different spin on this, and it is all my opinion only. She wants to please you but is hesitant (not disobedient) for the reasons she mentioned above. I can understand totally. Questions: how big are you? how small is her mouth? what positions have you tried? how long do you make her suck you? till you cum? how long does that take?
My answers: I have a very small mouth (pediatrics utensils at the dentist) and I find anyone larger than average to slightly below average is too big to do an effective job. Being on hands and knees while he's laying down is very very hard on the neck and jaws for any more than a few minutes. It's like a gym workout for those specific muscle groups, you need to take it slow and work up. If you stood up with her on her knees before you? Or kneel over her face (69) but let her hands guide your weight so you're not forcing into her mouth? Maybe have her concentrate on licking and nibbling, pumping the shaft while mouthing the head? Or push her away after just a very short time NICELY and maybe with the phrase "Oh, I so want to be inside you" (then fuck her royally) and then slowly increase that time judging by her reactions when to cut it short. Gagging does hurt the throat so that tells me either you may be pushing too hard or she's trying too hard. A very nice blowjob does not have to include throating.
Punishing obviously doesn't work coz now she's turned off totally. Maybe if you sit down and explain that you want her to learn how to suck cock effectively because you like it and want it but that you will let her go at her own pace. Encourage her, teach her with words as she's doing it, what you like or don't but maybe lay back and let her play at her own speed with no pressure to perform. Yes, she is a slave and is supposed to be obedient and without hesitation but....where's the pleasure in it for either one of you?
As with all the above posts, cleanliness, trimmed or shaved, lots of water or pineapple juice to make you taste good...all good points. You can have your slave PM me if you wish, maybe I can help. I used to hate it myself, for most of the same reasons along with a few others and now I love it.
In the meantime, hugs to ya both, good luck.
sage
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