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ORIGINAL: URFarmPet

I am a bi/fem sub and recently meet with a Dominant Couple through CM.
The first thing Mistress wanted to do was fist me, after she gave me a complete
inspection.  With no foreplay I was wet but certainly not ready to be fisted, it
was painful and she was unable to get her fist in me.
It bothered me because I had not been fisted in a very long time but had read up
on it, since I didn't have much experience, I know it is something that takes time
and the one being fisted needs to be very wet.  Seemed strange to me that they were
very experienced but tried this at the point in play that they did.
She stopped and we moved on, but fisting is very important to her and I would like to see
them again, so how can I address this without appearing to top from the bottom??

Since this was your first time together for play, it would seem to me that you'd have wanted to negotiate the scene that all were comfortable with, which includes expressing what your needs are from a scene (including warm-up and aftercare). 

Fisting is something that one normally doesn't do until there's a fair amount of trust that's been built between partners.  It seems to me that perhaps you needed to start with something less intense before moving on to things that are of higher intensity which require more trust.  Regardless of what they said their experience was, you have a right to set initial limits for yourself which you can change and expand upon as your relationship develops.

I'd make an analogy to working out with weights or even riding a bicycle.  One doesn't start out with the heaviest weights in the gym or at the fastest speed they can ride.  Instead they begin with lower weights or a slower speed as they warm-up, in this case to each other, before they move on to something heavier or faster.  I suggest you do the same with this couple.

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

You see, i'm a Master with 35 years of experience and i say that nomatter the preliminaries, your ass should always be prepared to take both arms to the shoulder if any D-type so chooses to use you in that way.  Any discomfort or pain is the s-type's fault, you're lucky that your partner was merciful enough to stop at all.

See how that works?  Just because i'm a submissive and only 32 years old, i can have as much experience with anything as i say i do.  That doesn't mean anyone should ever consider letting me do anything extreme to their body on a first meeting.

Bullshit is only good for farming; it doesn't add any kind of experience, knowledge or integrity.

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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

You see, i'm a Master with 35 years of experience and i say that nomatter the preliminaries, your ass should always be prepared to take both arms to the shoulder if any D-type so chooses to use you in that way.  Any discomfort or pain is the s-type's fault, you're lucky that your partner was merciful enough to stop at all.

See how that works?  Just because i'm a submissive and only 32 years old, i can have as much experience with anything as i say i do.  That doesn't mean anyone should ever consider letting me do anything extreme to their body on a first meeting.

Bullshit is only good for farming; it doesn't add any kind of experience, knowledge or integrity.

uhmmm... this isn't in response to me is it?  if so.. you've misread me...

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ORIGINAL: MladyHathor

On a first meet??????