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RE: service oriented - 5/30/2008 2:11:03 AM

StormsSlave

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So, I'm not so service oriented, but not because I don't want to be. I thoroughly enjoy looking after My Lord, but find I am usually too worn out or at work. Here's my list.

Survival: Work 10-14 hour days to keep the bills paid.
Personal: I wash him head to foot in the shower. I shaved him once and will do it again. I bring him orange juice and caffeine if I am here when he wakes. I care for his hair, including brushing and cleaning, as well as protecting it from himself. I care for his laundry,and also dress him for special occasions. I take the dogs out when I get up, so he doesn't have to worry about it. I bake for him, and occasionally make small meals.
Household: I wash the dishes on my days off, but not on work days. I take care of the checkbook, but I would do that anyway.

There are many things that are listed here as "subly" that we do for each other. Getting drinks, cleaning up, etc. He does the cooking, for the most part, since he is much gooder at it than I am. Generally, we look after each other, which works for us.

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RE: service oriented - 5/30/2008 2:29:46 AM

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Why dont you send the mug to work for a change???!!!

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RE: service oriented - 5/30/2008 4:39:36 AM

slavegirljoy

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quote:

ORIGINAL: StormsSlave
I care for his hair, including brushing and cleaning, as well as protecting it from himself.

This one made me wonder. If it's not too personal, could you please say a little about what it is that you do in "protectecting it [hair?] from himself"? Just curious. Thank you.

joy
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RE: service oriented - 5/30/2008 5:27:39 AM

xbutterflyx

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Massage, i took a course and learned some very nice techniques..grins
Cleaning, i have my specific areas i clean for Him.
Coffe, latte...
Dressing..i shop with him in mind and dress in the manner he likes (even the spike heels that make me wanna growl sometimes) lol
Recipe research..so we can cook together..
oh and caring for his boots..

Just like relationships are different, the service for each relationship is different.
It (service) is an ongoing process. learning what He enjoys and listening to Him.
For me, what is most important is asking to give service, so that Sir isn't telling me what to do etc.
When i ask to give a particular service, it's even more meaningful to Him and me.

xx

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RE: service oriented - 5/30/2008 6:12:03 AM

chamberqueen

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Anything that you are good at can become a service. I have looked up information online for Him from finding articles related to what He is interested in to finding a better price on a new car He was looking at. We went shopping together once when He wanted to buy a new wireless router and gave a better explanation to Him than the clerk could. I find His cigarettes and lighter for Him if He has misplaced them. Next week I will cook a meal for Him for the first time. I sometimes write erotic stories for Him.

I am mostly a sexual servant, but I do look for other ways to be of service. If you take a look at your own talents you will start to see many ways that you can be of service. Just think about what may make His life easier, or more enjoyable, and let your imagination wander. Sometimes it is the small things that mean the most.

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 5:23:17 AM

blueskyboy

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buy a digital camera and sign up for a yoga class ..... oops other way around...
if you have ever modeled you know this is a non erotic service...it is hard work and flexibility can create some beautiful photos ... and create quite the nice dialogue between you as you push yourself to stretch further and hold positions...

once my arms tethered behind me to an eye hook in the ceiling, kneeling, legs together, head down and turned away, she stretched my arms up until just south of shoulder separation - we talked our way through this...
not domme to sub though...like model to photographer
"i want you to go more, two inches, will you do that ?"
"yes, slowly please"
giving the two inches more was easier than holding it while she snapped the photos
no, really it was hell...
the photos were incredible though - not of my arms though but of the back - in B+W - the dark and light - the muscles taunt, beads of sweat - dark depth of the valley of the backbone - the best was a close up of a single innocent rivulet of sweat that ran around from my underarm around to almost my nipple, formed a crystal drop that was full and round but had not dropped...we were both surprised when we looked at this on the computer as she had intended to shoot the strain on the shoulders and the ribs..but that single stream of sweat spoke to us - a microcosm
dommes that i know are often proud of the knots they create...both ones with the rope and with you - but don't be shy...it is not about you - they are shooting the dynamic
be willing to allow this pride and be a canvas and you will learn mountains
be ready to work when the muse strikes her/him...no faces that say now? again?
in the the car, after dinner, early when the light is new...when the juices flow - be open and willing
watching the light...noticing it... makes it fun
thinking together and working together on a project that expresses your dynamic - that allows for this dialogue is necessary
you can speak to him forever without words
go to yoga - work hard at that

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 6:13:52 AM

fairerthanshe

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Greetings blueskyboy,

That was absolutely beautiful. Thanks for sharing your experience with us in such rich detail and depth of emotion.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 8:45:23 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: janigrey

I'm not service oriented. More correctly stated He has never asked me to learn anything above and beyond the norm.

jani

Whats the norm?

And what does that mean when you're not service oriented
as sub, what kind of aspects of Bdsm do Yyou've?

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 8:55:09 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fairerthanshe

Greetings,

Here are some of the things I do for SJ as part of my service to him.

I think the most important service I perform daily is that I listen to SJ. I hear what he says to me, so that when he mentions something from his childhood which he particularly enjoyed and hasn't had in 20 years, I can get it for him. I listen so I know what he does not find attractive in other women. I listen so I can engage with him in conversations about a wide variety of topics. I listen because he likes it when his girl hears him.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

Hello fairerthanshe,

I truly adored your reply.
Your owner is fortunate to have found such
a beautiful and well trained submissive.

(ofcourse I don't know if He did all this or that you're a natural talent)
I asume it's a bit of both.

And it's great to read it.

I wish Yyou both enough.

GoddezzT`

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 8:56:47 AM

GoddessTeaze

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quote:

ORIGINAL: blueskyboy

buy a digital camera and sign up for a yoga class ..... oops other way around...
if you have ever modeled you know this is a non erotic service...it is hard work and flexibility can create some beautiful photos ... and create quite the nice dialogue between you as you push yourself to stretch further and hold positions...

go to yoga - work hard at that

~ The beauty lies in thee ~

very beautiful indeed blueskyboy

Warm Greetingz

GoddezzT`

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 9:08:47 AM

fairerthanshe

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Greetings GoddessTeaze,

Thank you very much - I shall pass your compliments along to SJ.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 9:53:40 AM

DiurnalVampire

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I dont know that Fox's modeling is considered one of his services to me. His learning to take photos is. He is also learning to be my asistant when *I* take photos, since I will be working with other models eventualy and having an able assistant is a wonderful thing.
Anything i have him do, I assume he wil learn to a high level of ability, or else why would I bother letting him do it? He has learned to make coffee exactly the way I like it,even if that is a touch off the standard. He cleans to my specifcations, and washes dishes and puts them away exactly how I want them done.

DV

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RE: service oriented - 5/31/2008 10:21:04 AM

celticlord2112

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quote:

If you're a 'service' oriented submissive/slave what services do you offer?

My slave is "service oriented" and she serves very well--she makes sure the coffee is hot in the morning, she keeps my place clean and habitable....in short, she strives daily to make my world a better place.

Take care of your master; do the "little things" that make HIM happy, in bed or out of it.

That is the essence of service.

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 4:02:43 AM

blueskyboy

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thank you fairer than she...thanks for reading that and being kind enough and open enough to feel the emotion

and goddess teaze thanks - it was a beautiful moment...i just put the words to it ...

a wonderful compliment coming from either of you

thank you

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 5:05:46 AM

sublizzie

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No one mentioned driving. I have a Dom friend who is blind. I've been his "seeing eye driver" on a few occasions. My Dom is a professional driver but he prefers to have me drive him when we are together. I'm a good driver he trusts. He likes to be able to relax and not worry about finding places when we're going out.

I work to fulfil services that are needed and wanted. I look for opportunities to help him with things that are important to him, whether it's things for his job, his hobbies, or his family.

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 10:39:14 AM

Archer

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New way to put the thought of high level service.

If the service is of the same level you would expect if you hired someone to perform the work in question then you're certainly performing it in a high level.
If the level of service is more along the lines of the house wife/ house husband then you're functioning on that level.

So when you're looking at service opportunities don't forget that most people can improve the level of the services they already supply easier and with really wonderful results.

Go from playing mom's taxi service to providing a chaufer's level of driving service.
Go from doing the laundry to providing complete wardrobe care
Go from cooking the meals to being a personal chef
Go from doing the shopping to managing the houshold inventory and accounts.

Not ony will this type of thing increase the level of service you provide but it will tend to also increase the self esteem of the service person having them inprove their perspective of what their role in life is.

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 10:53:50 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Yeah Archer, but most kinky people get really freaky if you try to compare what they do to any "paid profession." It becomes verboten. Also don't you know doms are supposed to accept and love and cherish their subs just as they are? Training them to be different is what domineering insecure control freaks do and why so many slaves lose their identity.

Or so I hear on the internet...

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 11:00:53 AM

RCdc

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Anything that one does is service.
Tailoring it to a specific preference or way of it being done (other than ones own way) would be submission.

the.dark.

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 11:04:21 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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Does that mean a dom who changes their oral sex techniques to provide a happier and more enjoyable sexual experience for their sub is submitting to them?

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RE: service oriented - 6/1/2008 11:09:46 AM

RCdc

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Abso-fucking-lutely (too much SexintheCity)
Really, it does depend on the the reason behind the action. I don't have an issue with knowing a dominant serves or submits to anothers pleasure, in the same way I don't have an issue with a s-type showing initative and taking control. Males sucking cock doesn't make them gay, mff interactions doesn't make the s-type bi and submission doesn't mean a loss of authority.

I am editing to also add that I totally believe that dominants can be service orientated or do serve as well.

the.dark.

< Message edited by Darcyandthedark -- 6/1/2008 11:16:27 AM >

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