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Quin -> RE: Submissive or Slave (6/10/2008 8:30:43 AM)
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First of all, you are what you and your Master decide you are...though, in my opinion, one can't, really, be a slave if the two are separate. For me, a Master/slave relationship requires a long-term commitment, close contact, and lots of knowledge and trust in one another (not something entered into lightly).
What I'm getting from your posts is that you WANT to be a slave and have him take control of everything...communication, play, and so on...but even a slave has responsibilities in the relationship...most importantly to communicate with his/her Master/Mistress. We are not mind readers and cannot determine if something went wrong in a scene if you don't talk to us and tell us.
As for the safeword...this is one reason that I don't use them. I prefer to start out slow and get to know the slaves body reactions. Too many submissives/slaves equate safeword use with failure. It isn't. It is a tool that your partner uses to know how much you can handle. Given the newness of this relationship, I think you need to let go of your "desire" and use it...otherwise he will never know what you truly can and cannot take.
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