littlesarbonn -> RE: The Perfect Sub (6/1/2008 12:51:58 PM)
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I'm not sure I'd ever strive to be "the perfect sub" because it seems more of an elusive target that would probably keep changing on me so that it would be an endless process of never quite living up to the desires I would have for myself. However, with that having been said, I'd definitely go out of my way to make my owner (for the sake of argument, let's just assume I'd have one at the time) as happy as she can be, doing whatever makes her happy and satisfied. I once tried to be "perfect" in my early days of submission, and let me just tell you that it was a lesson in humility (but not in any good, constructive way). I always saw myself as not living up to my potential, and I'd become more and more frustrated, even while the woman I was serving at the time didn't seem to have the same concerns from her end. After awhile, you start to create problems where there are none because you keep imagining that she's not getting the service she deserves, and that ends up becoming one of those self-fulfilling prophecies to which you may never emerge. These days, I try to figure out what she wants and needs (and I've started using this miraculous new technique called "asking"), and I try to be the best I can at that sort of thing. Does this make me perfect? No, not even close. Does it make me "more perfect" than anyone else (which seems to be the bizarre direction of this thread I just happened to come across)? No, it doesn't. I don't really care if there are others who are better at being subs than I am, or if someone has actually attained the level of Supreme Submissive of the Universe. Let em have those titles. The rest of us will just continue trying to be the best at what we can do, CONSTANTLY learning from our many errors of our ways in hopes that one day we might just be really good for the right woman who comes along. If she thinks we're perfect, great. If not, there's a reason she's the dominant in the first place; I'd like to think that the molding of a submissive has to have some impact on how perfect a submissive is to the appropriate dominant woman.
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