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I just became a sub, but have always been one in hiding. I have in the last few years realized that I get off on being a sub, but I have to admit that I am not that good at the whole worship master thing. I actually like the more gentle loving, sweet master type of guy. So eventually I was told that I needed a Daddy by one master, I thought yuk, I hope he doesnt want to play diapers, cause you know ick. Anyway, there are some that think they are masters and are just mean assholes, and then among the throngs of men who stalk me was a Daddydom.
Ummm... throngs of men stalk you? Sounds like a problem, unless simply contacting you equates to "stalking". Please check your word usage, as stalking is an illegal behaviour with a rather specific definition. 

It is so nice to have one of these instead of that grumpy old fart who keeps telling you to get on your knees. A DaddyDom is not a real daddy and for those who think like a piece of concrete,at 52,I am not really a little girl. However, I am a sub of sorts and like submission as long as my knees are spared. So when you have a Daddy it is just much more gentle, there are no orders, you can mention what your needs are, and Daddy listens. It is just so loving and kind and as for punishment, well, we all know that is just to make the sex better right? So instead of being so uncomfortable and miserable and lonely, I felt loved and cared for and comfortable and listened to and of course if my Daddy says do this, I want to do it for my Daddy cause he is my world. As for diapers and pacifiers um, no it is not age play,it is a more loving form of Dominance/submission. It is a nice way to have a relationship. In a way when we find our lifemate, we do parent one another and in a way I remember mothering my ex a little in our vanilla life.
How nice for you. That said, those who identify as "Daddy" Doms aren't the only ones who listen when their s-type speaks, take care to meet their s-type's needs (and often their wants), and make their partners feel loved and comfortable. I won't even address the "grumpy old fart comment". As for ageplay, SOME Daddy/Mommy Ds and their partners are VERY into that, and it works for them. On punishment; for many of us, punishment has NOTHING to do with sex, and is something we seriously avoid. You are making absolutes based on your own experience, and coming off as seriously "one twue way". It's not attractive, and highlights your lack of experience in the myriad ways that D/s relationships can work.

I am perturbed that people have these sort of sick relationships where one person thinks about the other and never reveals that she even has any wants or needs. I have decided that that is the kind of relationship a truly clueless guy has to have. I have dated the clueless and they would never in a million years realize that a woman needs to cry, to be held etc. A Daddy Dom is like an evolution of that, to a more civilized relationship where sure she may do all sorts of kink and like alot of pain, but she is not a slave or a nonperson, she is his little girl and he treasures and loves her. I for one, love it!
Wow! Way to judge someone else's kink! Well done. Has it ever occurred to you that many people think a relationship where the submissive partner calls the Dominant one "Daddy" is sick? Has it ever occurred to you that, for some, objectification is a kink? That some women are actually happy in a dynamic that you judge (through your own perceptions) as sick?

As for a more "civilized" relationship, you are once again showing your ignorance of the myriad types of D/s relationships by categorizing them as "Daddy Dom" = "good, sweet, nurturing, etc"; "every other dynamic" = "bad, abused woman, neglected, etc". Stop it. Take the time to read the boards and learn a bit before you make sweeping, judgemental statements about what a D/s relationship should be, and what a loving D/s relationship should "look like" to those not in it.

One more thing, to be honest, the stuff that I read on here that makes me want to turn off my profile and run, is this stuff where a woman is degraded and hurt or branded or made to talk about herself in the third person, or as if she is an object, to me incest is a step up from treating a woman like a wild animal! And what you are doing to this woman is against the law to do to an animal. So ladies,  I know you are very much submissive and love it all, unfortunately,so do I , but,just be aware there is another way and you might find it more fulfilling. I know that D/s is a thrill,but some night when you are on the floor with that chain around your neck , you might want to consider a daddy who will scoop you up and lay you on a comfy bed and cuddle you and tell you you are his princess. When he asks you to get on your knees and whatever, the pleasure is much greater.
You really have NO idea what you are talking about here, and it is quite obvious that you have collected a number of unrelated things that "offend" you together under the label of "Not something a Daddy Dom does".
The fact that you say, "I know you are very much submissive and love it all, unfortunately,so do I" says quite a lot about you. Some of us don't consider being submissive and loving WIITWD in any way "unfortunate".

As an aside, you DO know that "Daddy/daughter" is just another flavour of D/s, right? Or is it somehow different (and superior) in your mind?

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. So ladies, I know you are very much submissive and love it all, unfortunately,so do I , but,just be aware there is another way and you might find it more fulfilling. I know that D/s is a thrill,but some night when you are on the floor with that chain around your neck , you might want to consider a daddy who will scoop you up and lay you on a comfy bed and cuddle you and tell you you are his princess. When he asks you to get on your knees and whatever, the pleasure is much greater.

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ORIGINAL: secretsub1957

I just became a sub, but have always been one in hiding. I have in the last few years realized that I get off on being a sub, but I have to admit that I am not that good at the whole worship master thing. I actually like the more gentle loving, sweet master type of guy. So eventually I was told that I needed a Daddy by one master, I thought yuk, I hope he doesnt want to play diapers, cause you know ick. Anyway, there are some that think they are masters and are just mean assholes, and then among the throngs of men who stalk me was a Daddydom. It is so nice to have one of these instead of that grumpy old fart who keeps telling you to get on your knees. A DaddyDom is not a real daddy and for those who think like a piece of concrete,at 52,I am not really a little girl. However, I am a sub of sorts and like submission as long as my knees are spared. So when you have a Daddy it is just much more gentle, there are no orders, you can mention what your needs are, and Daddy listens. It is just so loving and kind and as for punishment, well, we all know that is just to make the sex better right? So instead of being so uncomfortable and miserable and lonely, I felt loved and cared for and comfortable and listened to and of course if my Daddy says do this, I want to do it for my Daddy cause he is my world. As for diapers and pacifiers um, no it is not age play,it is a more loving form of Dominance/submission. It is a nice way to have a relationship. In a way when we find our lifemate, we do parent one another and in a way I remember mothering my ex a little in our vanilla life.
I am perturbed that people have these sort of sick relationships where one person thinks about the other and never reveals that she even has any wants or needs. I have decided that that is the kind of relationship a truly clueless guy has to have. I have dated the clueless and they would never in a million years realize that a woman needs to cry, to be held etc. A Daddy Dom is like an evolution of that, to a more civilized relationship where sure she may do all sorts of kink and like alot of pain, but she is not a slave or a nonperson, she is his little girl and he treasures and loves her. I for one, love it!
One more thing, to be honest, the stuff that I read on here that makes me want to turn off my profile and run, is this stuff where a woman is degraded and hurt or branded or made to talk about herself in the third person, or as if she is an object, to me incest is a step up from treating a woman like a wild animal! And what you are doing to this woman is against the law to do to an animal. So ladies,  I know you are very much submissive and love it all, unfortunately,so do I , but,just be aware there is another way and you might find it more fulfilling. I know that D/s is a thrill,but some night when you are on the floor with that chain around your neck , you might want to consider a daddy who will scoop you up and lay you on a comfy bed and cuddle you and tell you you are his princess. When he asks you to get on your knees and whatever, the pleasure is much greater.