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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/2/2008 9:41:36 AM

LadyHibiscus

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Nerds, Geeks, and Browncoats. Why else would I stay?

Oh yeah, the hot chicks!

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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/2/2008 7:54:51 PM

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What follows is only my opinion, and only has value as such.

Alison's 30% Rule: I will do anything a partner asks of me that does not damage myself, my partner, or anyone else and doesn't violate the laws of my country or the laws of physics. That said, I don't want a relationship where more than 30% of our sex life is spend engaged in any single activity.

So I've found that there are certain kinks which almost always will violate that rule: things that if that is what someone craves, that is what they always crave. So I tend not to enter long-term relationships where that is what is really wanted, because I feel it's not going to end well. Not that there is anything wrong with these, it's just that they aren't what I want to be doing all the time sexually- and sexuality is really important to me. Examples: feminization, erotic lactation, adult babies, humiliation in servitude, watersports, etc.

On the other hand there are things which it's very rarely for a partner to want all of the time, which makes them more fun to explore: strap ons, TENS units, bondage, nipple clamps, rope bondage, spankings, canings, etc.

How does this fit in your experience?

Sorry....allow me to catch up here....

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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/3/2008 10:52:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Nerds, Geeks, and Browncoats. Why else would I stay?

Oh yeah, the hot chicks!

Oh LadyHibiscus I think I love you, you've just confirmed what I suspected that the River mentioned in your sig is from Firefly / Serenity. Fabulous!

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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/3/2008 12:51:56 PM

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I don't do any math or list keeping. I just go with my feelings. If I FEEL I'm getting too much of X, or not enough of Y, then I fix it.

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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/3/2008 1:01:17 PM

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As a submissive, my biggest fullfillment is to serve. Luckily for me, i've been fortunate enough to have a Domina that was very creative, and loved a variety of kinks.
i'm really more of a go with the flow kind of guy, how i feel about the person i'm with is the most important thing. Sex is something that can be improved upon if something isn't working right for me in a relationship through communication and the desire to fullfill eachother's needs.

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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/3/2008 3:19:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

(Who's Alison?)

Erm, this childhood sweetheart and next door neighbour to the lead singer of Smokie who apparently got collared to a Dom with a limosuine and moved away.

Or was that Alice?

Either way it probably wouldn't have worked as he was a sub too (the lead singer of Smokie) because he sang about it in 'If you think you know how to love me'.

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RE: My 30% Rule - 6/3/2008 3:25:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: fungasm

What follows is only my opinion, and only has value as such.

Alison's 30% Rule: I will do anything a partner asks of me that does not damage myself, my partner, or anyone else and doesn't violate the laws of my country or the laws of physics. That said, I don't want a relationship where more than 30% of our sex life is spend engaged in any single activity.

So I've found that there are certain kinks which almost always will violate that rule: things that if that is what someone craves, that is what they always crave. So I tend not to enter long-term relationships where that is what is really wanted, because I feel it's not going to end well. Not that there is anything wrong with these, it's just that they aren't what I want to be doing all the time sexually- and sexuality is really important to me. Examples: feminization, erotic lactation, adult babies, humiliation in servitude, watersports, etc.

On the other hand there are things which it's very rarely for a partner to want all of the time, which makes them more fun to explore: strap ons, TENS units, bondage, nipple clamps, rope bondage, spankings, canings, etc.

How does this fit in your experience?

Man i wish i had read of this rule back when i was dating vanilla. i had way too many lovers who only wanted bjs; they didn't even wanna f**k. And i put up with it...sad to say.

This makes sense to me in D/s as well; i was a little surprised by yr list of activities that would likely exceed the 30% rule...i had never really thought about it. i've been asked about lactation quite a bit and it's something i have a mild interest in, but i'd certainly not be willing to spend hours on.

Thanks for a great Op.

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