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Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 1:42:03 PM   
Aanakaris


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Status: offline 		I was inspired by Fungasms 30% post to ask this question.

Do you plan out your play or let inspiration reign? Without resorting to calculus, how much of your play is a preplanned activity (after all, some toys do take prep time - ice dildos anyone?) and how much is spur of the moment.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 2:15:34 PM   
IvyMorgan


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Status: offline 		I plan.  In a "first I'll do this, then this, then that" sort of way.  But, I'm not sure I've ever followed the plan completely.  So, I guess I'd say preplanned spontinaity?

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 2:18:57 PM   
Asherdelampyr


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Status: offline 		I plan what toys to bring... thats as far as I get

Also Aanakaris, great avatar!


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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 2:35:46 PM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		This was my response on a thread on the same topic just a week or so ago. I was really surprised because it seems that there are very few dominants who put a lot of thought and planning into their scenes.

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mistoferin:
Most of our scenes are impromptu and just sort of happen out of a desire that pops up on the spur of the moment.

Some of our scenes are well planned by Sir. He will literally sit down over a period of time and write a detailed outline of the scene. I never really know much about it...other than he is planning a future scene. I think he has several in the works at any given time. He will write a basic outline of the different stages of the scene, different props or equipment, lighting, what music he wants to have playing at what part of the scene....even some variances that depend on different possible reactions on my part. These scenes tend to be very elaborate and they will sometimes lead into things that were not planned out....new ideas that pop up in the middle of doing something else. When that happens he will explore that new road but then he eventually gets us back to the original plan. These scenes, for that reason, can sometimes be very lengthy.

He will usually plan a time for the scene and will inform me that on ______ we will be scening. He usually drops little hints or will "tickle" at my fear buttons leading up to the scene to build the anticipation. Sometimes I love that....and sometimes it overwhelms me and by the time the day gets there I'm wound tighter than a three day clock.

I LOVE that he does this. Not necessarily because of the elaborate nature of the scenes but because if just feels damn nice to know that he has invested so much thought and planning into making some really special times for us to share.  


Here is a link to that thread in case you are interested:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1872295/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1872295

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 3:08:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aanakaris

I was inspired by Fungasms 30% post to ask this question.

Do you plan out your play or let inspiration reign? Without resorting to calculus, how much of your play is a preplanned activity (after all, some toys do take prep time - ice dildos anyone?) and how much is spur of the moment.

Howard


Depends. With Val, not anymore. It's pretty much spur of the moment and I suppose it's always been mostly. It helped that we started using my toys and I never saw a need to buy something I didn't like.

At play partners there is more planning. We'll talk about what we both like and dislike and go from there.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 3:11:44 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		Master generally has a plan which he shares with me on occasion, but I know that he rarely stays on track - it's more of a guide and he goes with the flow of the moment rather than worrying about sticking on plan. 

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 3:17:02 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		It depends on my intent. If I'm going in it for the fun, it's usually not planned, I just do what I feel I want. Unless it's a specific activity we're going after, in which case, the degree of planning is related to what's being done. A blood scene needs more planning than a flogging.

For spiritual things, I usually have a pretty good idea of the ritual structure and the intent but only a vague idea of what will happen. Planning spiritual things is a fairly bad idea, in my experience, unless you are specifically doing a spell or particular ritual.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 4:09:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't conciously sit and plan a scene, there is an idea, and rough thought of how and where that will end. That might change along the way, there's something of a change in attitudes with Me right now, there's an adjustment going on and more planning may be required.

Having said that I do write scenes ..... it's a personal pleasure of Mine to get a response with just the written word and from the response, she enjoys getting them and where they take her. There can be a single email with the barest of ideas or there can be a full blown "story" (and I use that term loosely) that can cover three or four emails as things build. That sort of writing definitely requires My planning, can take many days to complete and can also leave me feeling as exhausted as a real scene.

One of the other parts of writing that is a bonus is the ability to explore mental and emotional limits very safely if there is good communication. Spending hours after the arrival of a story exploring the feelings and the responses allows Me to learn more about her, to find the good triggers I want and to learn the bad ones that I want to steer away from.



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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 4:46:09 PM   
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quote:

Do you plan out your play or let inspiration reign? Without resorting to calculus, how much of your play is a preplanned activity (after all, some toys do take prep time - ice dildos anyone?) and how much is spur of the moment.


He plans and tells me when and where. Sometimes I love what he's planned and sometimes..his pleasure is what's important. Regardless, he makes these decisions and i submit to him.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 4:52:25 PM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		Sometimes there's loads of planning (buying of props, clothes, food, etc.), other times play is so spontaneous that I'm issuing orders that have just popped into my head and I've barely got my toys out of their storage space before I'm using them.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 5:10:05 PM   
pinkwind


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Status: offline 		From what i have gleened over the years my Master Andy has a very basic scenario in his head that has within it plenty of scope to build on that basic plan or to ad lib around it and follow unlooked for tangents as the play and the mood unfolds.

There are a few basic core elements to our sessions that neither of us would like not to be included if the session flows that way, but neither of us is ever disappointed if we only succeed in expanding on just one element, exporing and finding new twists on old touches and techniques.


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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 6:04:28 PM   
PsyVamp


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Status: offline 		Since my household includes 2 um's.. one of which is still in the single digits, there is almost no spur of the moment anything...
Heck, even finding the time for just reading a book takes planning and negotiation...
OY


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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 7:58:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I top, I feel the need to sort of outline things in advance in my head.  Sometimes this is not possible, if it is a spur of the moment event at a club or something, but if I know in advance, and I am playing in private, I need an idea of what I want to do beforehand. 

If I don't do that, somewhere in the middle, I tend to lose focus.  Part of that is because I don't top as often as I submit, so ... it's not second nature to me anymore. 

When I sub.... He plans, and I am along for the (glorious) ride. 

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 9:12:18 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		That depends on which boy I am with.
With Angel things are planned becasue we have major time contraints and I have to bring certain things with me in order to play, as well as dress "the part".  His playtime is hours long, and we usually sleep after becasue it takes a lot out of him.
With Fox, it just sort of flows. We can scene, then go shopping, have ice cream and then scene again.

DV


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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 9:28:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Several mentioned earlier the idea that it depends on several things.

Is there something I want to reinforce in the relationship because it's something we are working on. If so often the scene can be planned to have a higher chance of achieving the desired result.

Am I seeking to provide Elegant or myself with a transendent experience to open new avenues of self exploration? Again you cna plan things to improve the success rate.

Am I seeking specificly to build trust, influence behaviors, influence values, just enjoy the trip, how much planning will be determined by how complex the result I seek is.



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RE: Planning a scene - 6/1/2008 11:18:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do both.  When planning, it usually comes from an inspiration not by design.  The inspirations plays like a movie in my mind.  I’ll make a mental note of what gear is needed and that gives me my list.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/2/2008 1:27:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Usualy from inspiration not planning. We keep things like ice on sticks (No cold hands for Master)  ready to go in the frezzer so we can use them when we want them.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/2/2008 1:50:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have had planes in my head but then it all comes down to what i need at the time i want to have have with it more than any thing i love taking care of my boy thats what makes me happy more than any thing
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RE: Planning a scene - 6/2/2008 2:51:26 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		Some scenes need to be planned because of safety issues, otherwise, I don't like t plan too much-it just doesn't feel real enough. I also like the element of surprise-to have something to react to.

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RE: Planning a scene - 6/2/2008 4:40:26 AM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		I plan and sometimes I don't.. .its definitely a mix for me.. it depends on a million things.. some are:

who I am playing with, including how many and gender
where, is it an event?  home? a regular Sat night dungeon party, Sunday afternoon small get together? private party?  women only space?  mixed space?
my mood
how I am dressed

blah blah blah.. the list is endless...

often times I'll bring quite a bit with me if I'm going out (though my rule is, if I can't do it with one toy bag, then I should quit) because I might change up midstream...

I have an idea of what I'm going to do most of the time, but I never follow anything slavishly...


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