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Verysubmissive -> Life as a sub (10/26/2005 2:24:07 PM)

i want to please, as a sub, a slave, what is putting people off me?



MasterCook -> RE: Life as a sub (10/26/2005 2:39:29 PM)

U may just have asked a question that is impossible for anyone to answer, unless they know you !



Kasia -> RE: Life as a sub (10/26/2005 2:44:05 PM)

Too general question. Give some examples of "people getting off you".



Verysubmissive -> RE: Life as a sub (10/26/2005 2:47:22 PM)

fair point. i am 44, submissive cd/tv with a wish to please. I have plenty of male friends who love one night stands but i often lay awake on my own at night and then get an out of the blue phone call for love and sex. how do i turn that into something more regular?



fastlane -> RE: Life as a sub (10/26/2005 3:12:54 PM)

If you find the answer....bottle it....sell it.....get rich....and I'll make you my 24/7 slave.

However, in the mean time, you can only be yourself and hope the right person finds you and you, He.

Good luck

Kevin



OscarHargraves -> RE: Life as a sub (10/26/2005 9:54:23 PM)

Let's see, you know what's NOT working, .......... so I guess it's time to try a new approach. I don't know you but think about this, "What people do you know who have been like you and are now successfully involved in a relationship?" Then, "What did they do to achieve this?" Did they go different places than you go? Did they 'hang' with a different crowd? Are they more/less hip to the current fashions?

Don't change who you are. That NEVER works. Try changing what you wear or where you go or even where you advertise yourself. Always try to be upbeat and friendly. Try to be that one special person that everyone wants to be with. That doesn't mean spend money to 'buy' friends with drinks or dinner. It means being a good friend to those around you and an interesting person to those who have seen you but not met you yet.

Good luck. I hope you find that special someone in your life.



Padriag -> RE: Life as a sub (10/26/2005 10:04:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Verysubmissive

fair point. i am 44, submissive cd/tv with a wish to please. I have plenty of male friends who love one night stands but i often lay awake on my own at night and then get an out of the blue phone call for love and sex. how do i turn that into something more regular?

My first thought upon reading this... stop being a booty call and start expecting more and don't settle for less. Sounds like at least some (and I'm being kind here) of those male friends are just using you, you want more... so... expect it and don't settle for less. That's undoubtly going to piss some of them off, so what, let them get pissed. If you want a long term relationship, you have to make that expectation known and you have to pursue it and not settle for less than that. It may require you change your friends and seek out people who are interested in more than one night stands. Might be scary at first, but if you want more you have to reach for it.



RiotGirl -> RE: Life as a sub (10/28/2005 9:26:48 AM)

my thoughts too padriag



plantlady64 -> RE: Life as a sub (10/28/2005 9:37:00 AM)

Hello There,
I feel your profile is weak for starters. For example you say "and yes, as you can see, i love to dress up and be a woman. ", but you have no photo's to be seen. What does that mean?
Maybe if you mention more about your life and the kind of lady you seek instead of what fetishes you have it would be a better start.
Remember first impressions matter a lot and I'm sorry to say it, but your profile is not impressive.
Good luck finding thejoy and peace you seek.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne



sub4hire -> RE: Life as a sub (10/28/2005 1:03:00 PM)

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fair point. i am 44, submissive cd/tv with a wish to please. I have plenty of male friends who love one night stands but i often lay awake on my own at night and then get an out of the blue phone call for love and sex. how do i turn that into something more regular?


I have to agree with what other's have said. Stop being a whore if you don't want to be just a whore.
Raise your standard's and start valuing yourself. What do you have to offer a person right now? Could you offer more if you valued yourself a bit more?

I was searching for a dom once. I had literally thousands of men on the hook for quite a while until I found who I was searching for. Yet, not a single one of them I had sex with. Not one of them got anything but a kiss goodbye at the end of the day.
I was seeking a monogamous committed relationship. I would settle for no less.
I got what I was seeking. I set my standards as high as I needed to until I reached my goal.
You need to the same.



RainGod -> RE: Life as a sub (10/28/2005 5:30:47 PM)

Possibly the hardest part of searching is being able to go slowly and wait. It is difficult to win the affections of someone when your need and urgency are readily apparant.

My advice is to reach back into the very beginning and learn how to flirt again. Practice being seductive, yet alluring... make yourself desirable without sounding like a Toyota Salesman on television.

I, for one dearly love a flirty submissive... maybe other Doms and Dommes feel similarly?



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