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Celeres -> RE: Becoming better at fulfilling both roles (6/5/2008 10:58:10 AM)
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First off, welcome to this site!! (You joined CM the day before my birthday, so that's doubly exciting for me anyway). Secondly, welcome to the forums! Before I go on to give my 2-3 cents about what I feel about it, I feel the need to tell you that the Forums and the way people act on CM are very different. By and large, people in the forums are much more thoughtful and much more personable, whereas people are inclined to be rude and send unwarranted photos from the regular site.
As for your question at hand, it is not so much a matter of "transitioning" but what you like to do. From what I've read from your life, (please correct me if I am wrong), I would classify you as a Dominant with submissive tendencies and your job/work reflects that. I do not see it so much as it has been difficult at home because you are fighting this duality but you are breaking out of the norm. I am hesitant to "classify" people because with any classifications, people tend to force others into pre-determined groups. However, everyone is unique, even twins have slight differences that differentiate them from each other.
So with that said, I think being a restaurant manager definitely takes a certain mind set. At my last job, I was responsible for scheduling 70 people on a 24/7/365 schedule, working around birthdays, parties, and school work. At the time, I felt very submissive at home, wanting to do whatever it took to "please" someone else. I felt the need to submit because I had so much control and power at work. The transition for me was not quite as extreme, partly because I never found anyone, and partly because after work, I would be so drained, all I wanted to do was sleep (and not complete all my homework--whoops). So, it came to pass that during the weekends (when I often pulled 2 or 3 shifts to make up for those who want to party), I would be pretty dominant but during the evenings during the week, I would long to be in the service of another.
With that said, perhaps a better classification for you would be a "Switch with predominantly Domme tendencies" and you have transcended your previous mental state of solely being a sub to your Master of three years. Perhaps I would go so far as to say you two have now become a Dom/Domme couple, instead of a Dom/Switch couple, where the Dom is still the Alpha Male, and the Domme is still submissive to him, but to everyone else is equally "in charge" This is not that uncommon, as I have several friends on CM that run that form of a household. The Male is in charge of all aspects, and the Female is submissive to him, yet in charge of all the submissives.
Does that kind of make sense? I hope I have been helpful and haven't pissed anyone off too much. That's just my opinion on the matter. [:D]
Please take care and I wish you two the best of luck!
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