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Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 3:06:25 PM

atUrMercy

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Greetings Mistresses,
I am a male who has been suffering from back problems since the last 4 years due to which I can't get complete erections and not as intense orgasms as before. Alongwith this my will to serve women has increased and I've become more attracted to dominant women. Especially the activities of orgasm-denial and chastity belt interest me because I am in a kind of a natural orgasm-denial and chastity form myself. I was wondering if this would be of attraction to a dominant woman who likes to keep her slave in chastity and deny orgasms to him. I suffer in agony whenever I see beautiful and sexually attractive women anywhere because I can't bring myself to orgasm and this I find similar to what slaves in chastity go through and which their mistresses enjoy subjecting their slaves to. Also I am very keen to use my tongue for oral service while not having any sex myself at all as many mistresses like.

What is your opinion respected mistresses on this forum, am I material enough to be liked by a dominant woman ?

My complete respects to you madams.

Thanks.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 3:22:28 PM

Kasia

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Since you say:

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ORIGINAL: atUrMercy
Also I am very keen to use my tongue for oral service

...... my answer is.......

quote:

ORIGINAL: atUrMercy
am I material enough to be liked by a dominant woman ?

.... oh, definitely

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 3:46:41 PM

atUrMercy

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Thanks a lot for the reply ma'am

. I am very thankful to you that you took time to respond.

I like using my tongue very much to please a woman because for me the woman's pleasure is everything. I like to have her writhe with pleasure and would do my best to make her feel as if she's in heaven. I would devote myself completely to orally serving a dominant woman.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 4:05:43 PM

fastlane

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That's all well and good and hope it's gratifying to you too, coz if your cock aint hard, you'll watch as someone else's is and Ma'am becomes thoroughly pleased.
Are you prepared for that?

No offense intended, just making you aware.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 4:22:52 PM

LadyAngelika

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Actually fastlane, some Dommes don't want to be penetrated. I think that in this case, there might be potential for a good match, providing of course that they find matches on other levels.

I don't know if I would enter a relationship with someone knowing that they could not be erect. I know it sounds harsh but I'm upfront and honest about it. I would also be sensitive and not make someone feel awful about it neither. Then again, if I fell madly in love with him...

I will tell you however that in one past relationship, I was with a man in his mid-30s who, because of chemo therapy, was not able to have an erection for about 6 months. And when he did, it hurt a lot (because of where his cancer was located). It took patience on my part but I did love him and we found ways around it.

I think that in this case, like in any, you have to realise that you are worth more then just your penis or your tongue.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 8:27:55 PM

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quote:

Greetings Mistresses,
I am a male who has been suffering from back problems since the last 4 years due to which I can't get complete erections and not as intense orgasms as before.

Wondering is this an untreatable problem?
Your profile says you're only 22yo, what do your doctors say? M

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 8:35:36 PM

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quote:

Actually fastlane, some Dommes don't want to be penetrated. I think that in this case, there might be potential for a good match, providing of course that they find matches on other levels.

This is very true, because I have met submissives who don't expect intercourse ever because their previous dominants were never interested in intercourse.

I'm with you in that I don't think I would become involved with someone who couldn't become erect, unless I did fall madly in love, than I could probably find ways to get around that problem, but admit it would be an enormous challenge for me. M

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/26/2005 8:40:58 PM

thetammyjo

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quote:

ORIGINAL: atUrMercy

Greetings Mistresses,
I am a male who has been suffering from back problems since the last 4 years due to which I can't get complete erections and not as intense orgasms as before. Alongwith this my will to serve women has increased and I've become more attracted to dominant women. Especially the activities of orgasm-denial and chastity belt interest me because I am in a kind of a natural orgasm-denial and chastity form myself. I was wondering if this would be of attraction to a dominant woman who likes to keep her slave in chastity and deny orgasms to him. I suffer in agony whenever I see beautiful and sexually attractive women anywhere because I can't bring myself to orgasm and this I find similar to what slaves in chastity go through and which their mistresses enjoy subjecting their slaves to. Also I am very keen to use my tongue for oral service while not having any sex myself at all as many mistresses like.

What is your opinion respected mistresses on this forum, am I material enough to be liked by a dominant woman ?

My complete respects to you madams.

Thanks.

I don't think anything above makes you attractive.

In fact, focusing so much on this one condition makes you less attractive, at least to me.

Being submissive isn't about the penis, in fact, in my opinion, it has very little to do with the penis at all.

In order to be more attractive to anyone focus on what you can give and on your strengths not on your "weakness" or how you play into said preceived "weaknesses".

< Message edited by thetammyjo -- 10/26/2005 8:42:05 PM >

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/27/2005 10:27:07 AM

Kasia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: thetammyjo
In fact, focusing so much on this one condition makes you less attractive, at least to me.

Focusing on anything too much makes person less attractive - to me as well.
But still, it is no wonder either, being less "male" for man can be quite a painful subject and he can unwillingly focus on it. Takes really strong personality with lot of selfesteem to overcome something like that.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/28/2005 12:23:16 AM

atUrMercy

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Thanks a lot for your replies everyone.

quote:

That's all well and good and hope it's gratifying to you too, coz if your cock aint hard, you'll watch as someone else's is and Ma'am becomes thoroughly pleased.
Are you prepared for that?

Yes fastlane, I very much like watching a woman get pleased, either by me or by someone else. A woman's pleasure is what I could live for. I know and agree with your words, thanks.

quote:

Wondering is this an untreatable problem?
Your profile says you're only 22yo, what do your doctors say? M

Thanks for your concern BlkTallFullfig ma'am. It just needs that I do my back exercises regularly (which I have been slacking off) to resolve it. Even now I can get a normal erection if I don't move the lower part of my body or move it slowly. I was just wondering how much would I qualify for a dominant woman in my present form while I get around to make myself fit again so I asked your opinions :).

quote:

I don't think anything above makes you attractive.

In fact, focusing so much on this one condition makes you less attractive, at least to me.

Being submissive isn't about the penis, in fact, in my opinion, it has very little to do with the penis at all.

In order to be more attractive to anyone focus on what you can give and on your strengths not on your "weakness" or how you play into said preceived "weaknesses".

Thanks for your input thetammyjo ma'am. I know it's not all about the size of the penis or even sex. They probably are among a 100 other things which are important and I agree with you ma'am that they count for probably the least important for a sub. It's just that I wanted to get the opinion of some mistresses about this specific thing so I decided to ask here. I agree with your words completely ma'am and they are very valuable.

Thanks a lot for your valuable answers everyone and for your kindness and understanding. I am very thankful.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/28/2005 1:56:58 AM

MistressDior

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Yes, definitely:)

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 10/28/2005 5:13:32 AM

Oumae

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Thats what the boards are for, atUrMercy.... asking questions. As has been said before some Mistresses will not want sex and you can serve in other ways.

If exercises can help why not show some discipline by doing them? It might even impress.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/15/2005 12:20:03 AM

atUrMercy

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Thank you for your replies ma'am MistressDior and ma'am Oumae

. Sorry for me replying back so late. My sincerest apologies

.

Yes ma'am Oumae, I will behave and do my exercises regularly as you say

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/15/2005 7:09:49 AM

HeavenlyCeleste

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OF course each person is different and some Dominas would not care one way or the other what your penis does or doesn't do. Others may find it frustrating. Others still may find it a point of pleasure to humilate you because of it. Be very cautios when deciding on a Domina, and know what you are getting yourself in for.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/16/2005 4:27:41 AM

interestinglyme

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I agree totally with Celeste,

I am in the same position as what the original poster described, having had major surgery trat left me with a pretty severe case of ED. I have contacted many dommes, and I have found that being totally up front about it saves alot of time. Unlike the original poster though, my condition is more lasting unless some way is found to increase the bloodflow to that area. It's frustrating to know you can have all the feeling and sensation, but you just can't get an erection.

I've never kept score, but I'd say the response to my telling a domme of my problem is pretty much split. Since I am looking for a partner to share the rest of my life with, it can be a more difficult problem to deal with, unless the domme is either not interested in conventional sex for whatever reason, or she prefers oral sex from a sub. I've had many that said they won't consider a sub who can't service them in the conventional manner, and many that say it doen't matter that much and thank me for my honesty.

I agree with Celeste again when she stated that many like the idea, especially if they want a man in a chastity belt. Some just think that if an erection is impossible, then there's no reason for ever removing it except for hygenic purposes.

Being a little older I find helps my situation also. I would think a younger lady would have more of a problem with it than a more mature domme. (I mean chronologically) The only problem a domme would have with me is in developing a way to keep masturbation out of my control.

Hang in, and I'm sure you'll meet the domme that will understand, and support you until your problem is corrected.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/16/2005 6:32:05 AM

atUrMercy

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Thanks ma'am HeavenlyCeleste, I understand and realize the points you mention. Thanks for the input

Hi interestinglyme, thanks for sharing your experiences. I am sorry about the things you are having to face. I agree with you on the point of being honest because there's really no way to hide it. But I realize it's not the end of the world and I am very encouraged by and thankful for all the replies posted here by the considerate mistresses. Thanks a lot again, wishing you all the best and a happy life too

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/16/2005 6:09:05 PM

ruthfw

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My last pet was apparently incapable of having an erection that was hard enough for intercourse...I regretted it, but we did find many other things to do. He was useful.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/19/2005 12:44:26 AM

APhacetoSit

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Do you cook? can you serve dinner? can you clean? can you give a massage to die for? do you know how to draw a perfect bath, select and serve wine? find the perfect nail polish for Mistress's toenails? notice, find and remember Her favorite confection(s), flowers, and fragrances?
each of these things, as well as other "little" things will bring a smile to Mistress's face. Not necessarily all of them all of the time, but each in their own time. Do not limit yourself or your Mistress to one source of giving and receiving pleasure. There are so many alternatives and solutions.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/19/2005 6:19:56 AM

Rowena

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My mistress has had my penis pierced a number of times and uses the vertical rod through the helmet to hold a hollow wand inserted into the ureatha in place to that even when spent she can still use me as this wand makes a flaccid penis rigid.

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RE: Is a male with not so hard a penis of any use? - 11/19/2005 7:29:17 AM

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There are always toys!

A.S.

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