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ORIGINAL: WalterRego

I have been going through a similar quandary on the male side. Mistress a while ago suggested that She'd like to see me wear an earring. Now, I've never cared for them on men to begin with. But I'm almost 60.
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ORIGINAL: Sundowner

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ORIGINAL: WalterRego

I have been going through a similar quandary on the male side. Mistress a while ago suggested that She'd like to see me wear an earring. Now, I've never cared for them on men to begin with. But I'm almost 60.
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Wow. I sympathise. I could imagine how I'd feel if I was asked to wear an earring (in my case it'd be by a sub, but same difference).

And your post helped me understand the op quandary better.

It's not just "how do I put make-up on". It's how do two people handle quite different perceptions of issues. An earring - what's the problem? Make-up - what's the problem?

From my (dom) perspective it's easier (easier, not easy). Most ppl want to please their partner, but I could at least try to explain "it may be desirable for you, and no big issue for you, but while I'd like to please you it's a BIG issue for me". And then, in twue domly style, "so fuck off with your daft idea".

But actually I'm a failure dom and I don't like telling a sub to fuck off. So I'd discuss it.

So to the point - is it practical to discuss this sort of problem? Maybe along the lines of "if you really want it of course I'll do it (earring, make-up, whatever). But - for me - it's a significant problem, and I'll feel humiliated. If you want, I'll humiliate myself for you, of course I will. If that pleases you".

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ORIGINAL: Kittypurrs

That's a tough one but my thoughts are maybe you can offer a compromise.  Perhaps you agree to go heavier on the make-up when you are going out on the town but for everyday wear you can go more minimal.  I also feel it's very important for you to explain to him how you are feeling about his request and why you are uncomfortable with complying.  In my limited experience, most Dom's would care enough about their sub's feelings to not want to make them feel uncomfortable in the vanilla world.  If they don't give a damn about your feelings and your happiness I would question your choice in your Dom.   I also agree with the suggestion of seeing a good make-up consultant and bringing him along with for the meeting.  He can then see how you would look and the COST associated with achieving that look. 

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

and always wear sunscreen.  You can find tinted sunscreens that take the place of foundations and you can find foundations with sunscreen,  Even in the midst of winter or on a cloudy day, your skin will thank you.

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ORIGINAL: SeeksOnlyOne

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ORIGINAL: OmegaG

and always wear sunscreen.  You can find tinted sunscreens that take the place of foundations and you can find foundations with sunscreen,  Even in the midst of winter or on a cloudy day, your skin will thank you.

where can you find these? i have never heard of them, and it sounds like something i would love!