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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 10:41:43 AM

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The first time he did it, I coiled up and reverted to being little and hit, with that ugly, awful pit in my gut. And then I looked at him, saw it was Master who did that, not another evil, former sorce of anger, and I picked myself up and thanked him.

Now it seems he can't hit me hard enough or fast enough. Sometimes he'll rapid-fire my face and I just dive into it, losing myself in his power. It's awesome. I get this animalistic urge for him to beat the crap out of me. He'll forehand, backhand, whatever he feels like doing, and I go wild.

Other times he'll give me a quick slap to get my attention if he thinks my focus isn't right, and bang-zoom, I'm right there, centered and focused.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 10:43:52 AM

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My malesub loves to be slapped in the face, he says it throws him deep into subspace. He finds it a very humbling experience thats very erotic.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 10:51:35 AM

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I have been slapped across the face in the past as punishment and abusively thjough the first face slap by a dom took me by surprise and shock , I did come to enjoy...but if just any dom did that and I did not have a good mental connection with ...it would not go over very well to me it is very initimate

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 11:24:34 AM

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i've gone through many different phases and thoughts on face slapping. the first time a Dom slapped me the connection and focus was immediate. it was wonderful.

then he used it has punishment. after the repeated slapping which i barely withstood until i was beyond hysterical i was sick for 3 days with a minor concussion.

after that if one started to raise a hand to my face i would immediately go into a protective position. it is only with much time and patience that i can finally accept, appreciate and enjoy the immediate focus and connection that comes with a well timed face slap.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 11:44:45 AM

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ORIGINAL: summersprite

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

i was in an IM with a very dear Dom friend of mine when he said He was slapping my face...hard. My reaction was out of proportion, considering all He'd really done is type. i felt immediately like closing the IM and never speaking to Him again...an impluse i wisely controlled.

i wondered if anyone else has such a violent and bad reaction to face slapping. To me it's just total and instant degradation.

pinksugarsub

I think there is a slight but significant difference between face slapping online and face slapping in real life.... IMHO. My Sir started to face slap me in real life tonight.... and if it is done with tenderness (yes, it's possible) and with the right intention within the scene He is creating.... then face slapping is erotic, loving and mind-blowing.
Face-slapping online??? Sorry, just don't get it.... By the way, I'm kicking you in the shins while I write this.....

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 12:42:57 PM

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I love to slap, and I love to be slapped. It's instant wet for me either way.

It probably comes down to the experiences you have had, or felt before in the past.

I try to always remind myself that what I go through now, is not the abuse or anything from the past. It does help me, though I have triggers I stay away from.

Do what makes you feel good, and scrap the rest.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 1:39:23 PM

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total and instant degredation huh? .... yum

I love face slapping .. from a gentle affectionate tap .. to the ones where you wonder if your jaw got cracked

I cant explain why .. it just gets me right in the sweet spot

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 1:54:55 PM

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i can identify with what the OP says regarding face slapping.. The first time somebody actually did it to me i freaked out. It touched me somewhere deep inside that i didn't feel safe going to. Left me feeling on edge, degraded and violated in a bad way. Bearing in mind it was done in a situation where i had been set up to fail in the can't do right for doing wrong kind of way, for the smallest thing in the world.. At which point i now recognise that it became abuse and not BDSM.

However, in the right context and circumstances, when enough trust and respect is built i have found face slapping can be a very pleasing and almost erotic thing. In that situation the degredation becomes a positive thing in my experience and it becomes very enjoyable. With my Master - an instant turn on.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 2:56:46 PM

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Hello pinksugarsub,

I can understand your immediate reaction to the suggestion of face slapping. I think that given the society we live in and have been reared in, the idea of a person slapping your face is quite beyond the pale. I also think that, were it anyone other than my present owner who were doing that, it would (and always has, previously) cause serious reactions in me which would not be at all good.

It is a very personal, very intense and very powerful power-taking experience. This is not smacking on the ass, legs, arms, tits, etc...it is the most direct and personal invasion of your space... your face.

It was never something I liked the idea of; it somehow conjuring up ideas of abuse rather than 'play' and invasion rather than 'healthy' power exchange. I suppose it is an invasion of sorts, but then I have always maintained that there are some things, when you are in a surrendered relationship, that you give, freely, gladly and eagerly, and then there are things which, no matter how much you want to give by yourself, must be taken by your master.. (I have found that those things tend to be controversial and provocative to me, when considered and confronted...or at least, at first.)

There is something about being slapped that way that very much falls into that category of having to be taken (or at perhaps facilitates that taking?). It is also a sort call to total and immediate focus, without any subconscious thoughts or tapes playing in your head, as well as a complete recognition and surrender to dominance....like a little jolt of "this is who we are, Master and slave."

It can be a very intimate, very very emotional and deeply insinuating experience. However, having said that, it is not something I would approach, accept or even consider from someone unless I had come to a place within myself (and I am sure that that journey takes not only myself but my Master) where it was not something I was 'conceding' to him, but something that seemed natural, right and loving (if one can really understand the grasp of loving sadism), if always a bit of a shock when it happens! It certainly is not something I could engage in casually or willy nilly with any Domliest-Dom who strutted by, or even with people within the lifestyle that I liked or trusted. It is a very personal and profound gesture, in my mind, and when it is done in the context of a genuine dominant and submissive relationship (as opposed to casual play, I suppose) it has lost all the negative thoughts and reactions I had to the mere idea of it beforehand.... of course, out of that context, I still reserve the right to knee the jackass in the balls.

Good luck.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 2:58:14 PM

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I adore it. It's a definite tough line to cross as a couple - that first slap. We were together, and my mind was calling out, begging, 'hit me, please,' ... but I just couldn't get the words out. They sounded crazy to me - what was inside me wanting this, no, craving it? While talking later, I confessed my secret wish, and he told me he'd wanted to slap me at that moment, but held back, not sure how I would receive it. So we were both on the same wavelength and in the same moment.

The next time we were similarly connected, he slapped me and wow ... god, it was so friggin' hot. As others have said, it centered me - and in a way I hadn't felt before in such a quick way. Bam... and I was in my headspace. Gorgeous. It has made me cry, but overall it's a general good thing for us. It's a pure dominance thing for me...and very powerful for us.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 3:48:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i don't like face slapping because i will fight back and (my pov) it's abusive rather than "instant degradation"

To EnglishSubgirl & CuddlyParrotGirl,

I think sambamanslilgirl summed it up perfectly. I see face slapping as abusive, and abuse is not erotic, nor does does being abused turn me on. Just my own preferences. YMMV.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 3:52:27 PM

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I have had face slapping. Its really hot. But its been done responsibly without leaving a mark. It should be researched to do it right and not leave a mark.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 3:54:48 PM

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We do face slapping very regularly and I don't find it remotely humiliating. Its attention getting, connecting, intimate, and just hot.

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totally agree!!!!!

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 3:56:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

I have had face slapping. Its really hot. But its been done responsibly without leaving a mark. It should be researched to do it right and not leave a mark.

He's never left a mark ... but the tender areas on both sides of my jaw for a few days make me wild for more.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 3:57:02 PM

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Agreed. If face slapping is a turn on for anyone, they should take extra care to do it right....no marks, etc. that might lead to uncomfortable questions from others. It's also important to make sure one doesn't slap so hard as to cause nerve damage or other neurological damage. I know of a man who lost his hearing in one ear because he was slapped as a child.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 4:02:58 PM

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I have a major - major addiction to face slapping, hard, soft, forhand, backhand (carefully) does it for me every time :D

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 5:20:12 PM

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i absolutely love love love being slapped. Especially if i am being grabbed by the throat at the same time. Like others, it instantly puts me in my sub space if done right.
i'm lucky enough that i can get my face marked up and nobody would need to ask uncomfortable questions, because i work part time as security at a nightclub that's a little on the rough times, so if somebody did ask, i would just tell them i got it at work lol.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 6:03:08 PM

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I had to be taught how to be...slapped in a way that left very few marks and when done properly, it was never a jaw busting experience...

I liked....it, after a period of time...I liked it alot and I like to...slap.

One of the drawbacks of being taught is I had to subject myself to...it.

Tsk Tsk....

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 6:08:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

i wondered if anyone else has such a violent and bad reaction to face slapping. To me it's just total and instant degradation.

Fox has a very negative idea of face slapping. Becasue of what he associated it with, that and spitting were some of the few hard limits he came to me with.
He has been slapped once, by me, and it was in public of al places. HE was joking with me in the grocery store, and I slapped his face very gently and playfully. And it turned him on. We have not scaled up from there yet, but it is possible to have those reactions to it and still find that face to face it is not the aweful negative thing you think.

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RE: Face Slapping - 6/3/2008 6:58:54 PM

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The thing I love most about face slapping is that nobody is lukewarm about it. People either hate it with a passion or love it with a passion. There are very few fence straddlers when it comes to face slapping.

Oh, and I love face slapping itself, too.

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