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public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/4/2008 11:12:15 PM

burningdesires47

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Alright, so I have a "date" to play at a party with a friend of mine. We're not interested in each other sexually, just two friends. He specifically asked if I would bottom for a "non-ouchie" scene, because so many of his scenes involve pain play.

I tried to get some ideas what he's looking for or planning, but he says he doesn't like to plan out his scenes ahead of time, and he's not very experienced in this area anyway. I'm a little experienced in it, especially since I have a lot of limits involving pain play due to some chronic medical issues.

So we agreed to just grab everything we could think of, throw down the drop cloth, put me on a table, and have at.

This is what I have so far:
paraffin wax (food-grade--partylite brand!) candles, and a couple decent holders for them.
wortenburg wheel
velvet clothes
rubber bands (small, and I can get big)
yarn (and we will have some rope available)
wooden clothes pins (and we can have access to some clover clamps but I dunno about that)
ice

Obviously since this is a public play party, I'll have nipple tape and a thong on; no insertables. I may be willing to consent to being blindfolded, but I'm not sure I trust him that much--I may end up snagging someone I trust a LOT to stand by and keep an eye on things. Plus, obviously, safe words, but I doubt that it will get too out of hand.

Any suggestions for things to bring for fun public-play-party sensation play? slightly painful is OK, but I think paddling and flogging are more than he's looking for, altho I understand that's not always painful...

(and for the record, I did do a search on sensation play, most of it wasn't terribly helpful.)

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 12:04:24 AM

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I find sensation play is heightened through sensory deprivations , so remove the sight with a blindfold , add some music bring your ipod .,silk gloves , leather gloves , feathers , add some abrasive items for contrast. .have no expectations instead enjoy what s being done .

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 1:13:15 AM

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Why would you play with someone you don't trust enough to blindfold you at a public event who isn't into your form of play, you aren't sexually attracted to and on and on ? Is there some social pressure to play with this guy or something?

As for sensation play, feathers, ice, sandpaper, dull knife, sharp knife, and one I love...leave a pinky nail long and cut it into a sharp point, ear plugs, ball gag, rope, jar full of spiders and the list goes on.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 2:55:36 AM

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What about different grades of sandpaper?.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 3:11:53 AM

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Personally i hate this...but tickling could be a good one here.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 4:31:26 AM

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jar of spiders?...oh Michael!

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 4:35:05 AM

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Hot/Cold packs
Rabbit Fur
Vampire gloves
Grill brush
Toothbrush
Backscratcher
Roll Cotton
Kabob Skewers
Three pronged gardening rake
Scotchbrite green pads
wet sponges
Rubber bands
Rolling pin
etc.
etc.
etc.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 4:39:07 AM

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More thoughts....

In addition to the questions Michael asked, why are you bringing the "props"...a big part of sensation play is not knowing what is being used to create the sensations. Also, why food grade Partylite wax? Canning paraffin is so much cheaper.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 7:35:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Why would you play with someone you don't trust enough to blindfold you at a public event who isn't into your form of play, you aren't sexually attracted to and on and on ? Is there some social pressure to play with this guy or something?

You seem to have misunderstood... where did I say this is my kind of play, and where did I say it wasn't his? I said I have more experience with it than he does (by nature of the fact that I have more experience than him in general), and that most of his scenes have involved pain. HE approached ME to do this scene, and as a friend, I agreed. It's a public play scene, so there's no pressure for it to be overtly sexual. Now granted, I'm a sexually charged person and will probably get quite a bit of sexual energy and enjoyment out of it, but I wanted to point out the fact that we're not doing this for sex, that we're just two friends, because I was hoping to avoid suggestions like "have him play with you thru your panties" and "wear a butt plug for him" and other misconceptions that this is in any way D/s or sexually related.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 7:40:12 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

More thoughts....

In addition to the questions Michael asked, why are you bringing the "props"...a big part of sensation play is not knowing what is being used to create the sensations. Also, why food grade Partylite wax? Canning paraffin is so much cheaper.

I'm not bringing ALL the props. But as stated before, I have a little more experience, and he doesn't like to plan ahead. Besides, I will know what is being used to create the sensation. I have to inspect everything before it can be used on me and OK it before the scene (unless I get my ex there who knows my body inside and out and whom I trust to make those decisions for me for a night). So it doesn't matter whether or not I bring it, I'll know what's available to him.

As for why partylite paraffin wax? because using what I have already is a hell of a lot cheaper than going out a buying it of course.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 7:50:54 AM

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Well I can certainly understand taking things you have on hand instead of going out and buying new.

As for the rest, I think that Michael was keying in on the part of your post where you stated that you didn't trust this person enough to blindfold you in a public setting. Certainly, being in a public setting should give you a bit of comfort as far as your safety. You further reinforce your distrust of him when you say that you have to inspect and OK every item he uses. As for it not being D/s or sexual...if you are allowing him to bind and possibly blindfold you and allow him to use various implements on your person...you are submitting and he is dominating even if it is not in a relationship context and only for a short period of time. As for it being or not being sexual...you, yourself said that you will likely get sexual energy and enjoyment from it. I don't know your friend but I would guess that having a bound and naked woman at your disposal would be a bit of a turn on to most men....even if they are just friends. I mean, the reason we do kinky things in the first place is because we get a sexual charge out of them.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 8:06:53 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Well I can certainly understand taking things you have on hand instead of going out and buying new.

As for the rest, I think that Michael was keying in on the part of your post where you stated that you didn't trust this person enough to blindfold you in a public setting. Certainly, being in a public setting should give you a bit of comfort as far as your safety. You further reinforce your distrust of him when you say that you have to inspect and OK every item he uses. As for it not being D/s or sexual...if you are allowing him to bind and possibly blindfold you and allow him to use various implements on your person...you are submitting and he is dominating even if it is not in a relationship context and only for a short period of time. As for it being or not being sexual...you, yourself said that you will likely get sexual energy and enjoyment from it. I don't know your friend but I would guess that having a bound and naked woman at your disposal would be a bit of a turn on to most men....even if they are just friends. I mean, the reason we do kinky things in the first place is because we get a sexual charge out of them.

yeah, you're just totally not getting it.

shoving ginger up my snatch? not happening. totally part of sensation play. Wanted to circumvent the most obviously ill-matched ideas. Also wanted to avoid people assuming that we're going to go home together and fuck afterwards. Just stating the lay of the land

Also, no, being in public doesn't make me more trusting it makes me less trusting as people are more likely to go too far to impress people. Whether that means the top taking it too far or the bottom accepting more than they normally would. GREAT for people trying to push their limits. NOT great for those of us who have fears of being blindfolded in general or who haven't played with a person yet--I don't trust someone in a scene unless they've already proved themself TO ME in a scene WITH ME that they're trustworthy. So, no, I don't trust him, and yes, I think people who DO trust without having ever scened with someone before are idiots who deserve every bad experience they get.

Now that we're done dissecting my emotional state, let's get back to... SENSATIONS! Fun things that can be done IN PUBLIC!

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 8:10:55 AM

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but what's the etc. etc. etc.? inquiring minds want to know...

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 8:13:33 AM

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I think she is saying she wants to know what is being used on her, because he is new to play. Every single person I have bottomed to, I have taken a look at their toys. Not one had a problem with that. The few people I have topped, took a look at my toys. I don't have a problem with it. As for blindfolds, it took me a long time to be okay with wearing a blindfold. It wasn't that I didn't trust the top. (who is a dear friend of mine.) to me, there are degrees of playing. And it can vary depending on the relationship with that person, feelings for, and so on so forth. taking things slow, imho is always a good thing.

My concern about the candles, (I don't know much about this subject.) is will it be too hot? maybe test it out, alittle on your leg. If it is too hot, (if you really really want to do wax play.) then please go get the appropriate wax. I believe the wax that mistoferin suggested would be good for it.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 8:16:42 AM

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mistoferin, keep in mind that not everyone gets aroused by playing. Most of my bottoming is cathartic, a way to deal with my stress, and other issues. My topping on occasion acts the same way, though usually sexually.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 8:44:38 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyLynx

I think she is saying she wants to know what is being used on her, because he is new to play. Every single person I have bottomed to, I have taken a look at their toys. Not one had a problem with that. The few people I have topped, took a look at my toys. I don't have a problem with it. As for blindfolds, it took me a long time to be okay with wearing a blindfold. It wasn't that I didn't trust the top. (who is a dear friend of mine.) to me, there are degrees of playing. And it can vary depending on the relationship with that person, feelings for, and so on so forth. taking things slow, imho is always a good thing.

My concern about the candles, (I don't know much about this subject.) is will it be too hot? maybe test it out, alittle on your leg. If it is too hot, (if you really really want to do wax play.) then please go get the appropriate wax. I believe the wax that mistoferin suggested would be good for it.

Thank you for your thoughts, LadyLynx. Apparently I just can't get the point across as eloquently as you do :)

I've used this wax before for wax play and actually, the wax that she suggested is the exact same thing, just without the colours and scents. Paraffin wax melts at a lower temperature than most other waxes, which is why it's so popular for wax play--it isn't likely to burn much, if at all. This is the same stuff that's used for therapeutic hot wax baths.

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 9:07:56 AM

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dam you guys making me hot need to play

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 9:13:32 AM

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azropedntied: ohhh I hadn't thought of some of that, thanks!

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 9:42:44 AM

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Fabulous for increasing sensations- however, they work better in more sexually intimate places... both with regard to the setting and the genetalia.

Raw Ginger- peeled - bring a peeling implement with you for the most sensation.
Peppermints and peppermint oil.
Cinnamon Oil. -If you bring this- bring ice for aftercare
Icy Hot - Bring wet wipes to remove it
Ice Stones - take smooth, clean stones about 1-2 inches in diameter and put them in with your ice for an hour or so. It's really eerie.
Thistles - raffia works too.
baby oil.
The usual suspects: rubber, latex, silk, satin, leather, rope

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RE: public scene--sensation play ideas needed - 6/5/2008 9:44:23 AM

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Sometimes on the forums, it can be difficult to process what someone is saying. I sometimes have that problem on here. And I occasionally have that issue in person. My ears will hear what someone is saying, but my brain just won't process/compute it.

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