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monaliza -> About new Master,advice (6/6/2008 12:38:00 AM)
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I met a new Master here on CM for soon a month ago.
I told him from the start, that I wanted to go slowly and get to know the other. That was fine.
But he started to push me towards a decision. Slowly,increasing. He fell in love with me instantly.
I was slow at the start. I wanted to get to know him. He couldnt understand,that I said to him,
that I really liked him, but wanted to take it slow also. he got confused. He thought, sometimes
it just goes fast, that people can know each other for long time but not even then be able to work it out.
that there are no guarantees. things like that. It ended with,that I fell under the pressure, and couldnt
deny my feelings. But still... I refuse to be stupid.
well then he started to make demands and dominate online about everything. In some degree I dont bother.
We live in two different countries. We talk to eachother all the time. When hes at home from work, all we do,
is to sit and talk. and text eachother. From an early time he gave me his phone number,said i could ask him for
anything anytime. (no only got a cell phone number)
he has asked me to marry him. We havent met. The meaning is,Im going over seas to meet him in a near future.
But for that,we need money. With my former, I sort of rented myself to some, and thats on the line again, but
more proffessional this time,but only for some time,until i got some savings for moving and such.
I dont mind nothings there.
But,he wants me to get a joint account together with him,when we meet. I dont know the details. But the plan
is to save money that way because of me moving. but isnt that strange? almost all my expences is going to be
at my country. ( I will make a lot of money)
What do you say about this?
I f I say something to him, he gets upset. start to argue whether I trust him or not.
Or,tries to calm me at first.
he also wants me to get a hotel when there. because he wants to be with me, and its two hours drive,from the apartment where he lives. he has a house,that has tenants,where were supposed to live later.
(its a M/s relationship and with control about everything including money)
I dont say, i dont trust him, i say I havent met him yet, and that there are a risk.
But I know,that he wouldnt take it that way.
Also, when I express my thoughts. concerns. It wont take long,before he says, ihave said that ten times,
and when it camed up about weight, and I said that i thought my former that wanted to change me into a barbiegirl werent right, he then said that he took that as a threat or warning.
and said do you have a problem with that and that he could do whatever he liked. that was not what I ment.
we have had similar discussions before, where he didnt understand me and sort of did like this in different manners.
then he only says he corrects me. but he know, I dont mean that way. Is that to misunderstand at purpose?
I dont think thats fair. sort of like he doesnt want to hear,what im saying. or what do you think?
that has nothing to do with that he decides or not or can do what he like to or not
The love between us well I hope its real. but I do have common sence.
Please,tell me your view on this.
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