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HardToTame -> RE: Does anyone ever stop and think--- (6/8/2008 5:56:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
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ORIGINAL: HardToTame
Some one said early the term 'my owner'. Things like that. Sometimes I think about that and think, it's a bit rediculous to actually call someone your 'owner'. I guess in the fun of it all yeah, but then to communicate with others about all this and to use these terms, I just find it a bit rediculous. Again, that border of fantasy and reality.
I think theres some saught of social aspect of this with me that just doesn't sit. I couldn't actually go and organise a 'session' because to me (with all due respect to the professionals) it would feel like visiting a brothel. If it were to happen spontaneously, in the heat of the momment, then it would feel right to me. And so, I just question the normality of having like, organised punishment.
Role playing games such as "Mistress and slave" can feel false and ridiculous. It depends on your ability to suspend disbelief and immerse yourself in the role.
It does help to be able to laugh at our own silliness sometimes. Some people get far too attached to their D/s identity and take the whole thing too seriously. I don't see anything wrong with knowing you are not really a slave, you are just pretending.
As long as you are having great fun, who cares if both of you are participating in a role playing game that is not "normal"?
Looking at it that way, you might find it easier to organise and enjoy your own sessions. You cannot go through life expecting every Mistress you meet will magically "make" you feel spontaneously submissive all by herself despite your internal resistance. Sooner or later you need to summon and control your own desire to submit.
Well thats exactly right, I completely agree. Theres a time and place kinda thing. Just sometimes when I see people who, aren't in the middle of a session, who are just socialising, and they talk about their partner like an 'owner' and stuff like that, it makes me feel a bit rediculous to be conversing with them, because I get the sense they can't fully seperate that fantasy from reality. But your right, as long as it's fun, then thats all that matters of course. Just, I'm very picky in this all about who I think does it for fun and who takes it a bit too far. Although, it's the same in any scene. For example, a music scene. Theres people who like a kind of music but then retain their own individuality, but then theres those who like that music, and wear the fashion and speak the language and even when they're not at a music event or something assosciated with that scene, they continue to act out those stereotypical traits that accompany that scene.
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