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Archer -> RE: Is this normal for Dom fathers to be? (6/8/2008 8:51:22 AM)
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In no way is his behaviour freakishly abnormal.
The man's entire view of his place in life is changing, (Talk about social conditioning how about the social conditioning crap that says a man shouldn't allow such things to change him).
It's a large mental conflict to shift thoughts from being a man in a relationship to being a Father, the social expectations along with the personal baggage that comes along with the change in roles is huge. We as western society do a poor job of prepareing our men for the life changes in general, let alone doing it when we are kinky.
I'll offer a small piece of advice for your Sir.
Time for a real serious internal inventory of values. Shifting to being a father from being a man, can often change the perspective on personal expectations, and values.
Tell him to take some time for himself to sit and think about how his values are changing and examining them in a maner that allows him to recognize the shifts and maybe think about if there may be a need to change the people/ characters he emulates, uses as a role model. Have him talk to men who have survived the transformation from man to father, and express the shifts in mindframe he's having.
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