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Real time or online - 6/7/2008 7:18:55 AM   
smudge2006n


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Joined: 12/3/2006
Status: offline 		is every mistress/ domme on this site not really looking for the real thing? so far i have been on this site for ages and all i have found is one genuine mistress but i lost her due to a technical glitch with my phone. apart from that every mistress i have spoken to either, talks but then when it comes to arranging a meeting they disappear or they are only intrested in online slaves or just want to use bdsm to make money. instead of wanting a genuine sub/slave to own and experince the life with. or is there a trick to attracting the real thing.... am i just looking in the wrong places. i know a lot of people would be put off by my age as most people my age seem to only join these sites to wind people up. but there are a few of us who are genuine and have no like/ chance. it would be really great if someone could help me with this whole getting a real mistresses attention or even better if there is anoyone real out there who see's this post and is actually intrested would be great to hear from you

nick
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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 7:23:36 AM   
LadyPhoenixRisen


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Status: offline 		I see the same thing from Domina's..how there aren't any "real time" slaves out there.  I don't know how you attract others to your profile, I just write what I think and go with it.  It does seem like you have been on here a long time, but I have seen it take longer for the real thing to happen (my poor dominant friends :) ). 

Not sure where you are located, but maybe getting out in the community is a good idea for you. 

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 7:34:05 AM   
MySweetSubmssive


Posts: 1139
Joined: 2/7/2006
From: Lehigh Valley, PA
Status: offline 		I looked at the text of your profile.  Respectfully, it seems out of touch with reality.  You should trust a domme 110%?  You would relocate anywhere?  You believe in no limits?  (what is that tagline someone has about no-limits slaves?)  For me, those statements don't seem well-rooted, which reflects negatively on the person who wrote them.

Also, it takes time and patience.  Proper grammar doesn't hurt.

Mss

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 7:40:27 AM   
subsdmn


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Status: offline 		I'm having the same problem, although I have only been on here a few months so patience is needed for me.

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 7:44:27 AM   
Madame4a


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From: Washington, DC area
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

I looked at the text of your profile.  Respectfully, it seems out of touch with reality.  You should trust a domme 110%?  You would relocate anywhere?  You believe in no limits?  (what is that tagline someone has about no-limits slaves?)  For me, those statements don't seem well-rooted, which reflects negatively on the person who wrote them.

Also, it takes time and patience.  Proper grammar doesn't hurt.

Mss


Here are my no limits responses:

1) so I can put ground glass into one or both of your eyes, right?
2) I can cut off your genitals and make you eat them, right?
3) I can shave all your body hair, paint you blue and tie you to a tree, naked outside of your workplace?

no limits my ass.. *smirk*

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 7:57:52 AM   
smudge2006n


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Status: offline 		that is what im basicly trying to say though if there is 110% trust the the D/S relationship a sub/ slave can be no limits as the trust both ways would mean that the domme in the partnership will also be looking out for there sub/slaves welfare. if the domme would put her subs life in danger in such a way thats past the bdsm life style that is psycotic. if there is 110% trust both ways that means there is no need for limits as the domme wouldnt put her sub in a position where the sub will more then likely die  .what your talking about is  the hostel films.

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 8:00:44 AM   
smudge2006n


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Joined: 12/3/2006
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MySweetSubmssive

I looked at the text of your profile.  Respectfully, it seems out of touch with reality.  You should trust a domme 110%?  You would relocate anywhere?  You believe in no limits?  (what is that tagline someone has about no-limits slaves?)  For me, those statements don't seem well-rooted, which reflects negatively on the person who wrote them.

Also, it takes time and patience.  Proper grammar doesn't hurt.

Mss


thank you for your response. after re-viewing my profile with that in mind i can see maybe my wording is wrong. again thank you for your response

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 8:05:28 AM   
Madame4a


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quote:

ORIGINAL: smudge2006n

that is what im basicly trying to say though if there is 110% trust the the D/S relationship a sub/ slave can be no limits as the trust both ways would mean that the domme in the partnership will also be looking out for there sub/slaves welfare. if the domme would put her subs life in danger in such a way thats past the bdsm life style that is psycotic. if there is 110% trust both ways that means there is no need for limits as the domme wouldnt put her sub in a position where the sub will more then likely die  .what your talking about is  the hostel films.


Actually having no limits, to me,  is a ridiculous and romantic silly notion.. everyone has them, yes, even you...you might not recognize them as such.. but they are likely there

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 9:46:16 AM   
Usako


Posts: 697
Joined: 7/29/2006
From: NYC
Status: offline 		Things that stood out, to me anyway;

1) No picture.
2) 19 is fine in my eyes but being so young and already claiming to have been "looking for ages" and sounding so desperate to find the "one" just seem like a turn off to me.
3) Having no experience is fine, but having said that in your profile then saying you're already wanting a live in 24/7 experience and will move anyway just seems like...I dunno...

Romantics are fine but it seems like you're in a romantical fantasy and not too grounded in the reality of how relationships, life and things work. Not saying you are, just how the profile comes off. Mind you, it has no pic so I probably would never have even read it unless you posted here since filters are set for pics only.

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 10:14:01 AM   
Misstoyou


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako


3) Having no experience is fine, but having said that in your profile then saying you're already wanting a live in 24/7 experience and will move anyway just seems like...I dunno...





That would be my point as well. I've had two real time relationships of over two years with submissives I've met through CM, but since I don't look for live-in, neither would meet your definition of "real deal". While I never think people should just settle when they know what they want, you should understand that your definition would keep those of us who are not "all or nothing" from contacting you even if something in your profile caught our eye.

But as an aside, I also enjoy former military men as submissives ...something about the way they've learned to say, "Ma'am" and mean it. lol


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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 6:21:27 PM   
smudge2006n


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako

Things that stood out, to me anyway;

1) No picture.
2) 19 is fine in my eyes but being so young and already claiming to have been "looking for ages" and sounding so desperate to find the "one" just seem like a turn off to me.
3) Having no experience is fine, but having said that in your profile then saying you're already wanting a live in 24/7 experience and will move anyway just seems like...I dunno...

Romantics are fine but it seems like you're in a romantical fantasy and not too grounded in the reality of how relationships, life and things work. Not saying you are, just how the profile comes off. Mind you, it has no pic so I probably would never have even read it unless you posted here since filters are set for pics only.


Thank you for your advise, i have uploaded pics but maybe they are slow getting approved. i have been looking since i was legal in my country (16) but i also have spoken to other sub/slaves who have been looking a lot longer then 3 years. again thank you for your message  

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 6:33:43 PM   
smudge2006n


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Misstoyou


quote:

ORIGINAL: Usako


3) Having no experience is fine, but having said that in your profile then saying you're already wanting a live in 24/7 experience and will move anyway just seems like...I dunno...





That would be my point as well. I've had two real time relationships of over two years with submissives I've met through CM, but since I don't look for live-in, neither would meet your definition of "real deal". While I never think people should just settle when they know what they want, you should understand that your definition would keep those of us who are not "all or nothing" from contacting you even if something in your profile caught our eye.

But as an aside, I also enjoy former military men as submissives ...something about the way they've learned to say, "Ma'am" and mean it. lol



I agree my wording may have been wrong on my profile. I have just wanted this life style for as long as i can remember so. idealy 24/7 is what i am looking for, i know there are a lot of Mistress's who are seeking the real thing but not a live in sub/slave. but the only ones i seem to get contacted by are either only intrested in Money and more to the point taking money via the internet where there is no garentee they are even who they say they are let alone a garentee they are for real or i get people who are only intrested in online. i just get a little frustraighted with these people and wanted to make it clear through my profile i was not intrested, however i do see your point i could have sabotaged my chances of meeting genuine people through my wording.

and yes when i say ma'am i do mean it lol I have served both with the British ARMY and the Royal Navy so everything from politness when speaking to timing and genral house keeping is second nature through a few years of having it drilled into me lol

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RE: Real time or online - 6/7/2008 10:15:41 PM   
Usako


Posts: 697
Joined: 7/29/2006
From: NYC
Status: offline 		I think you should make your profile more well rounded, about you as a person and not just a sub/slave/whichever you are. If you want to live in with someone, it might help that they know your other interests and hobbies.

Also, not everyone wants live in but if you're willing to relocate for that "right person" perhaps you should I dunno...mention it? Like getting your own place near them? I don't know.

ALSO, skills as a sub? What can you do for her? Massages? Cleaning? Cooking? There are more subs/slaves than dom/mes so you have to do any and everything to make your profile catch attention. Whether you message them or they message you; they're always going to base first impressions on the profile.

Bright colors, good grammar, interesting details...something catchy.

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