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DesFIP -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/9/2008 7:04:47 PM)
Are you aware of it happening? Because if you aren't, then ask him to tell you immediately when it's happening, and then talk about how you're feeling right then. Are you under stress, feeling afraid etc? You need to connect what's going on to your emotions, and that may mean you need his help to identify the culprits.

favesclava -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/10/2008 8:32:36 AM)
as brooklyn girl, i have an attitude. i also will argue a point to til proven wrong. which rarely happens. but being mouthy is not a good idea around Master. i can talk and argue , but i cant be bitchy . if i tried it i would be banished for a while . both Master and i would be upset if that happened. so i dont fight or become bitchy. Master listens to His girls. even when pmsing and lack of sleep i wont act up. the punishment is way too much.

SirKaton -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/10/2008 9:01:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thespiritedsub I am a new sub, I have a horrible time being quiet! I am mouthy at times...I dont mean to be, its just part of my personality and I just cant help it sometimes. I am trying to be a good sub, but it is very difficult for me at times to not be bitchy. Any thoughts on how to stop my mouthyness? In my experience, all that mouthiness is a mask for something else going on. You use this particular response to build a facade so it is hard for anyone to see it past all the words. When does that mouthiness typically occur? I am sure if you look at it, there are specific instances that trigger it, and most likely have to do with something you are insecure about. We can't really tell you how without knowing you, but figure out the "why" of it and you'll have a better idea how to stop.

defiantbadgirl -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/10/2008 9:02:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thespiritedsub I am a new sub, I have a horrible time being quiet! I am mouthy at times...I dont mean to be, its just part of my personality and I just cant help it sometimes. I am trying to be a good sub, but it is very difficult for me at times to not be bitchy. Any thoughts on how to stop my mouthyness? How about a one word hint? "MMPPPPHHHHH!!!!" Seriously, if you want to see mouthy check out my profile.

mzbehavin -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/10/2008 9:57:48 AM)
Fast reply~ Your ego is in charge when you act out. Its all about control. (Your ego) If your pain body gets activated all bets are off and you will snap. Learning to observe your own reactions without getting sucked into them is paramount. The power of now by Eckart Tolle helped me alot.

selena123 -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/11/2008 11:16:53 AM)
Learn to trust your partner and you will be able to share emotions instead of the manifestation (bitchyness) of the emotion.

Archer -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/11/2008 11:31:26 AM)
My favorite way of handling unconcious mouthiness is to simply look them directly in the eyes and say: "Excuse Me, how would that sound in protocol?" The wording can be adjusted to suit but the idea is to simply cause them to first stop, and then to consider who they are speaking with, and what tone is appropriate.

thespiritedsub -> RE: ok....you can shut up now.. (6/11/2008 12:02:15 PM)
great ideas everyone. thank you I appreciate it

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