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Padriag -> RE: new master needs help (10/31/2005 1:15:44 PM)
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I'll second what Lucky advised and add...
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ORIGINAL: DanB2
I see that calling myself a master is probaly wrong but as i previously quoted im new to this.
Only because you're still figuring out what a Master is... some use it as a title, some use it to describe a style of dominance, and in some places its what you call a young man. Its a good idea to know what you mean by something before you say it.
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I now realise my initial question was extremly vague. I would like to know if there are different styles.
Yes there are different styles. And there are at least two ways to look at that question.
One way is to be very specific in which case you could say that every dominant has their own "style." That's probably not very useful to you however, except to point out you will at some point need to work out your own approach to things, and that's alright.
The other way is to be very generalized, in which case things can be put into some broad categories. Some examples...
Some are only interested in fetish play without engaging in power exchange dynamics.
Some only want limited and conditional forms of power exchange.
Some want a complete a power exchange as feasible.
Some want service only, which doesn't include sex.
Some just want a sex slave.
Some want a combination of services (service, sex, companionship, etc.)
Some include a loving relationship as part of what they do, others do not.
Some want pets (in a literal sense, treating their slaves as animals).
So the question then becomes, what appeals to you, what are your goals, what kind of relationship do you seek? Once you sort that out, you can start sorting out what "styles" will be helpful in achieving those goals.
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I know by reading subs profiles that there are many types of domination, was wondering if there are some that are better than others or some that require specialist equipment.
Some things, like pony girl play, will require specialized equipment (tack and harness, sulky, etc.) and although technically a fetish, its complex enough that it could also be considered a style (there are plenty of people who build their relationship around that one fetish, which makes it both a fetish and a style of relationship). Puppygirls are another such fetish, though requiring far less in the way of specialized equipment. For simply dominating someone, all the tools you really need come from within you.
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I realise that domination is very oriented around the control of the subs mind do i need to read up on psycology or is best to experiment.
Yes... it can be very helpful. I've personally found reading Alfred Adler, B. F. Skinner, A. H. Maslow to be particularly useful, as well as John Maxwell for improving my own leadership capabilities. But it is a good idea to read broadly, you never know where you will find useful ideas... I still keep my copy of the Boy Scout Field Book for a variety of reasons (knot tying, rope work, etc.). There's also a number of authors who write within the lifestyle you might want to look into such as John Warren, Jack Rinella, Guy Baldwin, Dossie Easton and others.
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