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heavensdaughter -> different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 8:16:39 AM)
while i am extremly estatic at the moment, i also find myself in a bit of a prediciment. i was given a task last night that while seems easy enough, has proven to be a little difficult for me. i've been given the job of finding an appropriate title for Ma'am. Mistress is out because our relationship hasnt quite reached that level yet, and i hate useing Ma'am cause i want something a little more respectful. She has left it up to me to find a title at this point, but it must be approved by Her. Does anyone have any ideas?

DiurnalVampire -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 8:23:06 AM)
There are as many prper titles as they are variations to the relationship. What sort of relationship do you have? My boys call me Mommy, if they bother using a title at all. Or Maam. Thats about it since thats all that fits. Any title need to fit the relationship AND the person. Keep that in mind. DV

heavensdaughter -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 8:33:56 AM)
right now i would say we are in the beginning stages of a D/s relationship. She is more than just some random person that i talk to online, but at the same time, hasnt yet agreed to collar me. we dont share a Mommie/sub role. the only title that She said She did not want me to use was Mistress.

BoiJen -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 8:34:56 AM)
Umm...naturally I started off calling MsKitty "Lady"...like "Hey Lady!" as a joke but it evolved into a title while I got my "street cred." with Her. She reserves the title of "Ma'am" for those She owns personally. And everybody else (in the scene) if they are D-types tend to address Her as "MsK" and if they're friends "K" or "Kitty"....and for those who are s-types, if the don't know Her it's "MsKitty" and those who do it's "MsK". She doesn't like "Mistress" because ...it's kinda...generic. I got the privilage of calling Her "Ma'am" only just recently...as in Jan. (at that point in time we'd been living together for about a year and a half.) So we take our time and figure out what works for us. I still call Her "MsKitty" and "Lady" at times and She enjoys those things as something that no one has done with Her personally. That's us...hope someone's expereince helps for ya.

rubberpet -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 9:00:00 AM)
For the beginning part of a relationship, I've used personal addresses like "Miss ....." or "M'lady". It's endearing and personal without the formality of "Mistress". Hopefully that helps. [:)]

MissSCD -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 9:02:16 AM)
I don't like being called ma'am. My given name is Mistress_Jan. That is what my slave calls me. Regards, MissSCD

darchChylde -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 9:34:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BoiJen Umm...naturally I started off calling MsKitty "Lady"...like "Hey Lady!" as a joke but it evolved into a title while I got my "street cred." with Her. Why am i picturing BoiJen in a tuxedo, doing a Jerry Lewis impression? As for the OP, i'd have to ask if there is an impulse within you to call her anything. How does looking at her, being around her, serving her make you feel? i myself always called my Owner "Ma'am", i never really had drama about what to call Her (except once when i had to get Her attention across the way during a vanilla function. Every woman in the area would have responded in some way to "Ma'am", and i just swallowed a called out Her namel; which just felt wrong); i remember at one time what She prefers and don't remember Her precise response. From very early on, i simply saw Her as Ma'am; and could not imagine Her as anything else. Another side note (i'm just in one of those moods, apparently). There was a time or two at lifestyle events where i'm asked who my Owner is. The first time was fun, because i didn't know what to say, i started to say "Ma'am is", but that wouldn't work. It looked to them as i couldn't remember Her name, while i was trying to think of how She's known in our community. i finally said that i was "the Imp's pet", but the women who asked me were greatly amused.

BoiJen -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 10:12:51 AM)
The first thing that came to mind for MsK was the short lived show "Fat Actress"

MasterFireMaam -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 1:16:24 PM)
Titles other than Mistress I have heard: Miss Misses Ma'am Master M'Lady Lady Domina Divine Goddess Priestess (I'm actually beginning to kinda like this one) Madam Maitres Baroness Daddi Syr Sultana Queen Sensei That's all I can think of for the moment. Master Fire

Madame4a -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 3:27:54 PM)
I actually doubt a bunch of strangers can pick this name for you.. if you were given the task, why are you asking others? Sorry... seems kind of weird to me, I give someone the name they should call me.. they don't actually pick it...its often something very personal to me and the person I am with...and no two people have called me the same thing...

jonathan -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 3:49:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam Titles other than Mistress I have heard: Miss Misses Ma'am Master M'Lady Lady Domina Divine Goddess Priestess (I'm actually beginning to kinda like this one) Madam Maitres Baroness Daddi Syr Sultana Queen Sensei That's all I can think of for the moment. Master Fire This is a good list, a couple i've never heard before.....but, if i may venture, i think She is asking you to pick a name to call Her as part of capturing your reaction to Her as a dominant. When first approaching someone, it's usually Sir or Ma'am and then they *tell* you what to call them. Once communication starts moving, i actually ask out them what to use, out of good etiquette. you indicated that the two of you are just online, you've never met? That's a shame, a reaction to someone's physical presence might help. my $1.25 (inflation), do some Google on titles of royalty, not just European, other cultures as well. Or see if She reminds you of a figure in literature, history, or mythology. It may turn out to be more than a title, it might actually be a name. For instance, one was my Faery Queen, another reminded me of a mythic Celtic warrior princess. i hope you have a little time to research before answering Her. Good luck & be creative.

MsStarlett -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 4:01:53 PM)
That's an interesting task. Not one that I would set, but interesting. Personally, I prefer 'Ghoddess' because that's what my first sub called me. Although, he doesn't have to use the silent 'h'. Everyone else does. I generally tell my boys that it is unimportant for them to know why it must be used. The truth is that the 'h' is to separate the term (Ghod or Ghoddess) from referring to our heavenly Father. It is there to show respect for Him, even if the person using it doesn't realize it. I picked up the habit back in the late 70's when I worked with a Fanzine. The point of the story is that you may wish to take an existing title and CHANGE it in some way to make it unique between the two of you.

MistressSybella -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 5:11:03 PM)
Is the problem that you want a title of respect that can be used in public? If so, how about calling her Dia. It means goddess but you sometimes hear it as a given name so no one will flinch at it like they might if they heard the word Mistress. Miss 'Bella ServeMeWell

MySweetSubmssive -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 7:52:52 PM)
I think when things come about spontaneously, they can be the best because they feel the most personal. I tend to address submissives with "puppy," but one I called poppet and he treasured that. To add to Master Fire's prodigious list: Diosa (Spanish for goddess) Gotin (if you want to go Teutonic) Empress (someone spontaneously called me this one, and I adored it) Enter into it with joy, affection and fun! (smiling) Mss

michaels4ever -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/9/2008 8:03:48 PM)
Mademoiselle? or perhaps just Boo? :)

MistressRouge -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/10/2008 12:36:26 PM)
I do quite like Madam, aswell as Ma'am [:D]

ElanSubdued -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/10/2008 2:23:16 PM)
heavensdaughter, Your question is such a personal thing between you and your Domina. At the stage you are at in your courtship, I rather like "Miss", but your Domina may not. Just to stir up the pot a bit, I've got a Domina friend who would be very disappointed if I didn't call her "Bitch". This said, of course, many Dominant women are highly offended if someone uses the B-word in their direction. I think this is something you and your Domina must work out together. Perhaps, seeing as you've been asigned this task by your Domina, come up with some titles that you think she might like and suggest them to her. Follow her lead, ask (politely) for feedback, and I'm sure you'll come up with something that pleases her. Elan.

khantengri -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/10/2008 3:39:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam Titles other than Mistress I have heard: Miss Misses Ma'am Master M'Lady Lady Domina Divine Goddess Priestess (I'm actually beginning to kinda like this one) Madam Maitres Baroness Daddi Syr Sultana Queen Sensei That's all I can think of for the moment. Master Fire Sensei is an interesting choice. I've never heard anyone use that title before.

khantengri -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/10/2008 3:43:10 PM)
I personally prefer Master or Khan (meaning leader/ ruler/ governer in Mongolian/ Turkic languages) in reference to myself.

smothered69 -> RE: different ways to address a Domme (6/10/2008 8:49:28 PM)
well ma'am is short for madam. which madam is away to address a woman with respect and politeness.

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