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Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 10:16:02 AM

slavedevotion

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I have a simple question regarding various honorifics used by submissives/slaves/pets/etc when addressing their dominant counterparts...What does he prefer? What do you use in public? What do you use in private, if different?

I am not looking for a discussion regarding differences between the various titles used.. only an individual can truly define themselves and typically require more than one label.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 10:19:27 AM

abcbsex

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I use "sir" in private and some public activities. When the D/s dynamic is inappropriate (in the company of family), I call him by his given name.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 10:51:44 AM

Daddyslilpookie

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I call him Daddy and Master in private. In public I call him by his name or baby, honey ect.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 10:55:14 AM

SirKaton

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My subs call me Daddy in public and private, depending on the company we are keeping. My Beloved calls me Sire. When the crowd is too vanilla, by my first name. If it is another sub addressing me or if they are addressing another Dom/me, it is Sir or Madame.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 12:44:23 PM

servantheart

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Sir is His general preference, though Master and His real name are also acceptable at times.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 12:47:22 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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i call Daddy "Daddy" (or "Doctor" just to be funny with him) 24/7/365. i don't like using His real name ...feels foreign whenever i say it.

now with the dominant i'm dating - haven't chosen his name yet though he likes it when i call him "m'lord" however i use his real name until i think of something permanent.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 1:36:18 PM

Mercnbeth

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quote:

What does he prefer?

He hasn't set a requirement for this slave to call Him anything specific. He has no special affection for being called ANY particular honorific, especially "Lord" or "Daddy". this slave is most comfortable calling Him Master...because He is, and that is fine with Him.

quote:

What do you use in public?

"Master", if we are somewhere like the store or just walking down the street.
if she is speaking to vanilla people about Him, she uses their relationship with Him that forms the connection as the point of reference. for example, if she is speaking to His children, she refers to Him as "your father", to His parents, "your son", to her Mom, "the most wonderful man on the planet" and they all know who she is referring to.

quote:

What do you use in private, if different?

in private, sometimes this slave will embellish "Master" with appropriate adjectives like "wonderful", "handsome", "sexy" or "sadistic".

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 1:49:59 PM

pinkwind

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When we are out at an appropriate venue i call him Master, or Master Andy, whilst at a "vanilla" venue just Andy.

At home when we have a session i call him Master, with you bastard, fucker and the like thrown in at high points, and the rest of the time we go back to Andy.

Sometimes, in our day to day lives i do manage to call him what he also calls himself when he has done something daft or stupid, but then i qualify it by saying something like "you're a prat of the first water", or something similar. It saves my hide!

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 3:16:21 PM

peppermint

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In public...Gary or sweetheart
In private...sweetheart

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 4:11:02 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Anything and everything- though the vulgar ones are said in private quiet voices. Really, people don't care.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 4:40:47 PM

kiwisub12

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My Sir prefers "Sir" - duh!

I call him Sir pretty much everywhere, to the extent that when my adult ums are around i sometimes slip and call him Sir infront of them. They haven't ever commented on it - yet.

He doesn't like Master - thinks its a bit pretentious, and i have to admit, i would feel a little silly calling someone master. At least until i was used to it.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 5:16:18 PM

Usako

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I don't much like titles or labels and that would be discussed before hand with any person.

Daddy is a personal favorite though, but it doesn't fit every guy or situation. I don't like the term "Master" at all so that's out. I dunno, it depends on the person and what we agree upon. I have no problem with just using their name.

As for myself, I like Princess the best! Sometimes kitty or kitten and maybe will go with Mistress or Miss, maybe. It all depends. But I don't like Goddess or Queen or Ma'am or whatever.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 7:41:07 PM

slaveluci

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12
He doesn't like Master - thinks its a bit pretentious, and i have to admit, i would feel a little silly calling someone master. At least until i was used to it.

We don't think it's pretentious or silly and that's what I call Him. However, for the first little while, it was an odd word for me to verbalize. I mean, "Master" is just not a word that I ever used and then to suddenly say it in reference to someone all the time....it was a bit difficult. It got easier and easier and that's all I really refer to Him as. It's what He likes and it's what He is to me.

I say "Yes Sir" alot - in private and public - but I never refer to Him by His given name except on rare occasions when speaking with family and coworkers where I have to. I never say His given name TO Him, however. Usually, as Beth stated, I'll say "my husband," "your father," or, most often, "Him."

luci

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 9:04:19 PM

smilingjaguar

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I call him Sir virtually everywhere, even in front of the ums. I've been asked by others why I do it, and I simply say I'm trying to get the ums in the habit.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/10/2008 9:07:47 PM

fairerthanshe

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Greetings,

I am allowed to call him by his name, SJ, Jefe, Dominus, Sir, and when I'm in trance I can use Master. He doesn't much care for the term though and prefers one of the other titles.

Every once in a great while I slip in "babe", when I'm feeling a bit cheeky. Though since he recently referred to me as Smithers, I may take to calling him Mr. Burns.

well wishes ~ fairer than she

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/11/2008 12:51:17 AM

bashfulhuck

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When i was collared, I used Domina, or Maam. Occasionally in scene, when things would start to get pretty intense, the word "BITCH!" would slip out, which would only make her giggle sadistically and turn up the heat a bit LOL.
In public, i still used Maam, or Miss Shelly.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/11/2008 2:25:11 AM

Littlepita

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I call him Sir in public and Daddy in private. I call him Master when he puts my collar on and sometimes when we play or have sex. I call him Joe when I speaking about him to other people.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/11/2008 2:51:25 AM

Aileen1968

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Hey you works. So does Frank or Bob or Elliot.
Actually...it would be very uncomfortable for me to have to call him one of those "titles" like master or sir. First name is just fine.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/11/2008 3:00:53 AM

BBWnNC72

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In public and private i call my Dominant by His first name. We have both agreed that Master, Sir, myLord, or anthing like that is so common, that is doesn't fit Him.
i have jokenly called Him Awesome Guy, which He loved.

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RE: Respectful addresses - 6/11/2008 5:43:57 AM

Dnomyar

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When Aileen drinks a lot she has trouble remembering names. Op it seems that we all argee that it depends on the company that your with on what you call him.

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