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Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:02:31 PM   
MasoLilith


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Status: offline 		Thanks to those that replied to this post, however shortly after posting my Master read it and we discussed the issue, was agreed to not to "air dirty laundry".....was trying to delete the post..but its not letting me..so though to edit and thank those that did reply, and sorry to any inconvience.

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:09:25 PM   
JohnWarren


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Status: offline 		One thing I would like clarified is if he knew she was only coming for cock. 

I can only speak for myself but if someone told me she wanted a threeway with Libby and myself and then ignored Libby, I'd be rightly pissed.  Now, at first my "little brain" might overrule the main one, but once I'd gotten it out of the way, there would be words and apologies.  I say this because it happened several times at the beginning of our relationship until I required that new play partners get Libby's approval before getting a chance to play.

Now if he knew and didn't tell you, my personal feeling is you should let him know that you're feeling hurt.   That sort of thing if repeated can weaken a relationship

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:14:12 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		What he said.

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:24:37 PM   
MistressSybella


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Status: offline 		Are you a slave or a submissive? You say you are a slave but...how much of  your rights and free will have you given up? If you have negotiated that you are indeed a slave, be happy that your Master has found pleasure where he could. If you are submissive, and still have the right to negotiate, you should definitely say something.

All in all, it sounds like either your dynamics have changed a bit, or a new limit needs to be in place.

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:30:11 PM   
SlaveSimone


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Status: offline 		I don't think I'd be particularly happy about being told that I was to be apart of a three-way and then being left out of it. On one had, if he had known the girls intentions, and still led you to believe you would be involved, thats not so great. On the other hand, if he wasn't aware of it, it would seem like an appropriate reason to sit down with you afterwards and see how you were feeling about the whole situation, and possibly apologize for whatever misunderstanding there may have been. So IMO, you're not going crazy. Talk to him about it, as John said, this sort of thing repeated can do a great job of messing up a relationship. 

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:34:37 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		I don't know much about your situation but what I just read...

let me say, I'd think carefully however, about the person I was in a relationship with who decided YOU should drive, pick up a piece of pussy for him and then leave you alone in another room.. particularly when it was presented to you differently.

That said, if you're a slave.. suck it up.. if you're not.. then you need to have a conversation and think carefully about how that goes and what, if anything, needs to change in this situation...

it doesn't sound very nice to me.. slave or not.. it would be nice if you had been at least taken into consideration... frankly, if he wanted to fuck his ex, he should have done it some place else...

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 1:44:25 PM   
MistressSybella


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Status: offline 		Maybe it was a test or lesson of some sort.

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 2:17:58 PM   
CruelDesires


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Status: offline 		The op's profile says "registered slave".

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 3:49:09 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I loathe people suggesting that relationship orientation = relationship dynamic.  I guess they don't know any masters who WANT their slaves to do more than suck it up and communicate openly and WANT to give their slaves boundaries.

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/10/2008 4:27:17 PM   
SlaveSimone


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Status: offline 		Took the words right out of my mouth. Human first, Slave second, and no human relationship is going to work with out communication. 

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/12/2008 11:25:33 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Steel it is not Denmark. It is Ohio. As is show by this post some people will never listen to the voice of reason.

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/12/2008 1:42:13 PM   
daddysliloneds


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Status: offline 		of course he doesn't want his dirty laundry aired; then everyone would know what a dick he is, but then again, he seems to have manipulated your thoughts/feelings right where he wants them to be, thus the deletion of the post!

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RE: Losing my mind....i think - 6/12/2008 3:26:14 PM   
Madame4a


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ORIGINAL: SlaveSimone

Took the words right out of my mouth. Human first, Slave second, and no human relationship is going to work with out communication. 


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