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SlaverNZ -> the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/11/2008 9:02:07 PM)
I am a Master in far away New Zealand looking to find a slavegilr for 24/7 TPE ... and just struggling with how to start converstaions with slavegilrs willing to relocate ...what information they would like / need ??

DiurnalVampire -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/11/2008 9:04:52 PM)
Before you find out if they are ready to move to you, try talking to them and finding out what they are interested in and if they weould be willig to make a move like that if you two were a match interestwise. Get to know them, slave girls are still people. Theyd need to know an awful lot about you before giving up what they have where they are and relocating, so give them a bit, and open the field for questions. Dont hold back and tell them anythign they want to know. Most arent shy when it comes to asking. DV

peppermint -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/11/2008 9:46:46 PM)
Your age, family, hobbies, religion, habits, employment, pets, how active you are, what kinds of movies you watch, etc...in other words everything you'd share with a regular date with whom you were hoping to form a LTR. On top of that you'd add your definition of slave and Master, how you expect to treat a slave and how you expect your slave to act, any special requirements, whether you are poly or monogamous, if you share your property, if you are a sadist, if you have any special fetishes, whether your slave is expected to work, how finances will be handled, etc. In other words, she needs to know everything you can tell her. As DV has said...slaves are people. Remember when you are just getting to know each other that she is not your property yet. She is a person with her own needs, wants, and desires. She'll want to know yours, but you also need to know what makes her tick.

Viridana -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 4:28:28 AM)
Get to know them as a person first before you start talking about relocation or collars.

Dnomyar -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 4:40:03 AM)
If they are already in your country then I see no problem. If not then you had better check your immagration laws. It is a big hassle trying to move to another country.

SephandElena -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 6:47:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Dnomyar If they are already in your country then I see no problem. If not then you had better check your immagration laws. It is a big hassle trying to move to another country. Seconded! Even when the immigration laws allow it can Still be a hassle trying to get everything sorted. My girls in the UK and techincally legal and we're only half way through working out if she's even going to be allowed to work legally here or not yet! sighs Still... it's worth it if you find the right one :-D Seph

xxblushesxx -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 7:35:14 AM)
You have to be people first. Get to know them as friends; you know, kind of like if you were interested in a vanilla girl...would you begin talking about marriage and children on the first date? Just take your time, get to know them, and let them get to know you. And BE PICKY. There are a lot of people who will take advantage of you. You are not looking for a submissive. You are looking for the submissive that is right for you. Finding someone with a good heart is a very nice start. (although there are plenty of other factors to consider as well.) Good luck to ya.

wandersalone -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 8:11:52 AM)
Rather than making things more complicated could you simplify it a little and start looking closer to home? Are there local groups you could join, munches you could attend? Initially I would suggest contacting people whose profiles you have read and liked, make a few comments about things in their profile which interested you and see what happens.

Dnomyar -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 9:13:44 AM)
If the woman has a nice breast covering a good heart all the better. Like wandersalone said checkout your own backyard first. I know that there are women in your area because I talk with them.

JohnWarren -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 12:12:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wandersalone Rather than making things more complicated could you simplify it a little and start looking closer to home? Are there local groups you could join, munches you could attend? Initially I would suggest contacting people whose profiles you have read and liked, make a few comments about things in their profile which interested you and see what happens. I can state from personal experience there are groups in New Zealand. When I ran Diversified Services, one of my most prolific authors came from there and described the local scene in glowing terms. Her name was Toya and she wrote a number of nonfiction books including Subspace and Bound.

BitaTruble -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 12:39:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaverNZ I am a Master in far away New Zealand looking to find a slavegilr for 24/7 TPE ... and just struggling with how to start converstaions with slavegilrs willing to relocate ...what information they would like / need ?? What's your favorite color? Do you like chicken? How do you like it prepared? What scents attract you? Do you like a woman to wear make-up or do you prefer the natural look? How do you like your socks folded? Do you want your shirts to go into the dryer or be hung up to dry naturally? Do you like to fish? What sort of bait do you use? What kind of cigars do you smoke? Do you always want dessert after dinner? How about a salad before the main course? What kind of salad dressing do you prefer? Can you use chopsticks? Do you like to play cards? That's the sort of information I would require in order to serve well. That allows me to determine whether or not I'm capable of meeting your expectations in the way you need them met. I want to know what path you walk to see if it's a path that I can follow comfortably without stumbling too often and skinning my knees on errant rocks. Other slaves will want other sorts of information so, really, it's up to you to determine what it is that you want them to know because you'll be the one holding the reins and making the determinations on how, exactly, you're served. The more transparent 'you' are, the more likely you'll find a compatible partner who wants to serve the real you.

ProtagonistLily -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 5:22:57 PM)
quote: I am a Master in far away New Zealand looking to find a slavegilr for 24/7 TPE ... and just struggling with how to start converstaions with slavegilrs willing to relocate ...what information they would like / need ?? 1) Can you cook? 2) Can you run a lawn mower? 3) Can you move 10 cu yards of mulch every spring? 4) Can you do laundry and do you iron? 5)Are you willing to behave and be reasonably pleasant most of the time? 6)Do you mind weeding the %^(&& garden weekly after you put down that mulch? 7) Will you 'DIY' house projects in an attempt to save money and not farm it out? 8)Are you ok with not playing every second because you are too damned exhausted by real life? 9) Are you willing to go to work, contribute to expenses and still do all of the above and more? This is TPE, at least from where we sit. Yes, I know, it makes us look so....vanilla. But, I think this is the reality of TPE, in the real, tangible world. Yes, I know, I must be doing something wrong. I should be on my knees, eyes down, hands behind my back, legs pleasingly spread..... While you are looking for your slavegril, you might want to start by looking for a friend, because if you are really looking for a 'relationship' like you state, it's a good idea to be able to relate to the whole person, not just the slave/bottom. PL For most of the people I know, who are in 24/7, TPE relationships, life happens. There are some who live a more 'naked and chains' existance, but for the most part, from what I know RL and what I've heard here, we seem to be the norm.

kiwisub12 -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/12/2008 5:30:55 PM)
the smart arse answer would be " um.... are you interested?" - but i would never be smart arsed because that would get me a smarting arse. I know NZ airline tickets aren't cheap, but talk to kiwis, find one that you like, fly them in or fly to them and see if you two connect. Honestly, you could have a great relationship on line, but not have any chemistry when you meet. For that matter, try Australia. Geographically speaking it isn't too far away. Talk to potential subs as people. Yes we really are. And we need to know that after the scening that there will be something to talk about other than bdsm. good luck with your search

Dnomyar -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/13/2008 5:13:05 AM)
Celeste. Amber,Yes, Kill it first, Womens,Natural,In half,Naturaly,24/7,Worms/Minnows,Free ones,Yes,Yes,Blue Cheese, Yes,Yes Lily. Yes to all 9

OldBastardly1 -> RE: the right way to ask a slavegirl if she is interested ? (6/13/2008 8:37:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaverNZ I am a Master in far away New Zealand looking to find a slavegilr for 24/7 TPE ... and just struggling with how to start converstaions with slavegilrs willing to relocate ...what information they would like / need ?? I would suggest starting with " Hi/Hello/Good day, etc " I am assuming that you have had conversations with people before, right? [sm=doh.gif]

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