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Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 5:51:39 AM   
DOMCPLVA


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Status: offline 		Are there any links,sites,or books I can get to get my girlfriend started? She has expressed an interest in owning a slave,but has no experience. I have had some experience with an ex,but could use a refresher myself! Any help is GREATLY appreciated!!!!

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 6:04:34 AM   
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The Loving Dominant
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Now then, where is Masterfiremaam with the ever so helpful link list... I know there are good ones in her sig still


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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 6:05:57 AM   
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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 6:32:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Asherdelampyr

BDSM 101
The Loving Dominant
(these are my favorite 2)

Now then, where is Masterfiremaam with the ever so helpful link list... I know there are good ones in her sig still



Thank you [grin]

Both can be found at www.greenerypress.com or at almost any online or brick-and-mortar bookstore

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 6:34:57 AM   
DOMCPLVA


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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 6:53:26 AM   
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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 7:09:37 AM   
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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 7:36:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

*waves hi to John and Libby, and makes note that it's time to replace my copy of TLD*


[waves back] Third edition has just come out.  The one with the collar/tag is the second.

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 9:03:16 AM   
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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 9:32:44 AM   
Quin


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Status: offline 		Try Black Rose, TES, or The Crucible
 
Other good books are The Topping Book, The Bottoming Book, Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual, Erotic Slavehood: A Miss Abernathy Omnibus, Training With Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners, Inside the Mind of a Sexual Sadist (by FifthAngel), Slavecraft, Ties that Bind, Urban Aboriginals, The Master's Manual, The Compleat Slave

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 9:51:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DOMCPLVA

How would one find them? Ive heard of the Black Rose, and never got a response from anybody there.


Google is your friend.   "BDSM" crossed with various place names in your area. 

Try Black Rose again.  Like most BDSM organizations, it's all volunteer and things slip through the cracks.

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 11:08:50 AM   
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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 11:13:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		The Master Slave Conference is also coming up in August in DC... you'll have to search for it, I don't have a link at my finger tips at this point.

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 3:32:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DOMCPLVA

Are there any links,sites,or books I can get to get my girlfriend started? She has expressed an interest in owning a slave,but has no experience. I have had some experience with an ex,but could use a refresher myself! Any help is GREATLY appreciated!!!!

Semi hijack here - ie, a different course to what everyone else is taking....
 
Given that the profile is of a "Dominant Couple", I'm just curious about the OP's role, if any, in his g/f wanting to get "started" and "owning a slave" etc.  Hasn't either of you had a sub/slave before?
 
Thing about a D/s dynamic is that you learn more from a complementing partner than you ever will from books and sites combined. 
 
But then, I've always found "Dominant Couple" confusing; that it may as well be "vanilla couple" if neither of them ever switch....
 
My head hurts now....
 
Focus.

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 8:49:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		Hi Focus,
Their profile (made about a week ago) is very kink specific.  It seems they've not really taken the time to think it through... Looks very "Fantasy Island" from my perspective.  All we know is they like hair pulling and ass play... Not much info there to figure out if there is anything that people would have in common with them.

To the OP:
Stick around, read the boards, try the poly board as well... and be patient.  A third person who complements your dynamic as a couple, you as a man, her as a woman, your third with you, your third with her, and all of you together is a very rare person... You might want to tell us about yourselves a bit.

good luck and happy reading.
 sunshine


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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/13/2008 10:40:44 PM   
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John.. since the majority of my library is in storage in CA, I'm not sure which edition I have.. I'm thinking first though.. could be wrong.. lol

*runs to check website to see how many trips to McDonalds I'm gonna have to skip to get the latest*

John..just checked.. the website is showing 2nd.. if I order it, will I automatically get 3rd?

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/14/2008 2:51:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Asherdelampyr

BDSM 101
The Loving Dominant
(these are my favorite 2)

Now then, where is Masterfiremaam with the ever so helpful link list... I know there are good ones in her sig still



Here I am!

See the sig. Also, get out into your local community.

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/14/2008 2:52:25 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

The Master Slave Conference is also coming up in August in DC... you'll have to search for it, I don't have a link at my finger tips at this point.


I am being SOOOO helpful tonight! ;-)

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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/14/2008 3:35:30 AM   
Asherdelampyr


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

quote:

ORIGINAL: Asherdelampyr

BDSM 101
The Loving Dominant
(these are my favorite 2)

Now then, where is Masterfiremaam with the ever so helpful link list... I know there are good ones in her sig still



Here I am!

See the sig. Also, get out into your local community.

Master Fire



bout time! :P


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RE: Begining couple... HELP!!!! - 6/16/2008 3:11:59 PM   
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