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BlackGoddess -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (3/26/2004 10:03:57 AM)

"The One" does exist. One may not believe it until it happens to her/him. I was exactly that way. I would hate seeing happy couples or watching romantic movies because I was miserable.

I finally have the one for me. After many failed relationships and a failed marriage, he came to me. I can't explain it: we are different races and he is 16 yrs my senior but we are soulmates.

When you least expect, when you stop searching for "the One", she/he will come to you.

Do we have arguments? yes. Do we have problems? yes, sometimes really serious ones. But we always work them out. Sometimes we stay "mad" at each other for days, because we are the type of people that need time to think and then we come back to each other to talk it out.

I really feel that we are connected in lots of ways. We are so alike but different in ways that count.



MistressDREAD -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 2:06:13 AM)

I laugh because every time I see someone speak about looking for their * ONE *
I am brought back to My freinds experiance in church about who is the
only *ONE * and I think damn just how many folks out there gonna
share this * ONE * is beyond Me..........

Damn this One

I want em ALL!!



Mercnbeth -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 8:34:49 AM)

Neo is the "One". Even though in "Revolution" the Oracle misled us, ultimately it turned out the 2nd episode was just to make money and not advance the plot. So yes - NEO is "The 1".

Now the question is; "The TWO - Fact or Fiction"?



GoddessJules -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 8:45:51 AM)

You are on a ROLL today! What did you spike your eggnog with? I need sum o' dat.



Mercnbeth -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 8:51:25 AM)

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You are on a ROLL today! What did you spike your eggnog with? I need sum o' dat.


It's the HOLIDAY SPIRIT(S)!

That & some Italian Anise Cookie and Chocolate Spice cookies that I made - YEAH ME! Outside it's 70 degrees - nice & Christmassy in Redondo. Picked some oranges off the tree in the back yard this morning. And the BEST is having my beth is kneeling naked beside me.

HO HO F'n....HO! And a RED BUTT New Year!



GoddessJules -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 8:57:01 AM)

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!! So from what it sounds like. . .*BETH* is responsible for your good mood. . . .I might have to go down and slavenap her. . .*evil grin*



proudsub -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 2:32:55 PM)

Funny this thread is revisited right when my older daughter is telling us she thinks her new boyfriend is "the one". We get to meet him on Sunday. He is staying for 5 days. I hope it's not a "Meet the Parents" experience. We are leaving in an hour to see "Meet the Fokkers" LOL.[:D]



MizSuz -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 4:02:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: proudsub

Funny this thread is revisited right when my older daughter is telling us she thinks her new boyfriend is "the one". We get to meet him on Sunday. He is staying for 5 days. I hope it's not a "Meet the Parents" experience. We are leaving in an hour to see "Meet the Fokkers" LOL.[:D]




Oh my! Good luck to you with that.

My son informed me this week that he intends to request his gf's hand tomorrow at her parents. <sigh> They do grow up.

I suspect it will be my turn to 'Meet the Fokkers' soon enough.



MistressDREAD -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 7:15:41 PM)

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100,000,000 sperm and YOU were the fastest?!?


HAHAHAHAH!!!
ANOTHER * ONE * Fact or Fiction.....................

I wanna Merc cookie too



proudsub -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 8:32:19 PM)

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We are leaving in an hour to see "Meet the Fokkers" LOL.


It was hilarious, i highly recommend it. Sorry it's Fockers not Fokkers.[:D]



realophelia -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/24/2004 9:47:28 PM)

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Because needless to say, i have yet to find “The One”. And to be quite honest with you, i don’t think he exists. Over time i have watched as what seemed to be perfectly matched “One” couples, in this lifestyle, split apart. i have submissive/slave friends, obedient, devoted, the epitome of servitude, that are alone. So someone tell me . . . . . .is this quest to find the ever mysterious “One” valid? Or is it simply a myth, fantasy or dream we tell ourselves to feel better?


I don't believe in the "one." And I don't believe that true love necessarily endures. I believe that people change and relationships change and that most of us get second and third chances to be happy.

Ophelia



cynnacent1 -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/25/2004 4:41:57 AM)

Fact ....

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I believe that people change and relationships change and that most of us get second and third chances to be happy.


i too believe that people change and that relationships change. i also believe that when two are truely commited and willing, they can find ways of adapting together, so as to grow together in the relationship, rather than allowing changes to result in thier growing apart.

i believe we can get second chances, and if we do not blow it by settling for less than what we know defines 'The One' for ouselves, third chances will not be needed.


Having two exs/two failed relationships, i explained to those who need to know (prior to meeting INSIDEYOURMIND, He is Master, He is ALWAYS right [;)]): "i'd never found my "Mr. Right". i had two examples of "Mr. He'll Do". Well, it turned out that they didn't "do', couldn't and wouldn't do. Neither were the one for me. i was not the one for either of them.

Seriously though, for me, the answer to whether "the One" truely exists or does not could vary from one person to another based on what an individual defines "The One" as being. The One for me, can not be the One for you, if He were, He'd not be mine. [;)]

1. To me the One can be defined as: He loves and accepts me for who i am. ALL of me, imperfections included (and if Master were capable of having imperfections ([;)]) the same applies to my love of Him).
2. For me, being the One includes the understanding that the relationship will evolve/change at times, yet anything needing to be done to ensure that the relationship flourishes still, and that the two continue to grow as a couple rather than grow apart, without a doubt, will be.
3. For me, qualifications of "The One" can be defined to include being capable of truely understanding the meaning of, as well as accepting, and honoring a lifelong 'commitment'.

i don't know that everyone will succeed in finding an individual to match thier own personal definitions of "thier One", i can only trust in knowing that i've found mine. To me it's not a question of fact or fiction. It's dependant upon luck, fate, ... serendipity. my One was found due to a 'fortunate accident' the day i wandered in and registered as a member of collarme and stumbled upon INSIDEYOURMIND's profile. Or perhaps it WAS simply fate. Perhaps the two can define the 'hows and whys' of our finding each other.

¸,ø¤º°cynnacent°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)



MissFem -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/25/2004 9:06:24 AM)

ok at the risk of sounding lame here.......I think one ...is the person we have at that given time.....I have yet to find the one....Im looking for the one that is right for me.....he doesnt have to be perfect.....but he will be perfect for me.......I for one am not searching...but when I meet him Im gonna know it......and so will he



realophelia -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/25/2004 2:49:03 PM)

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i believe we can get second chances, and if we do not blow it by settling for less than what we know defines 'The One' for ouselves, third chances will not be needed.


I'm not one for settling. But I have found that what I want in a person has changed over time. What was perfect for me twenty years ago or ten just isn't what I want (and have) now.

Yours truly,
Ophelia



cynnacent1 -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/26/2004 6:37:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: realophelia
I'm not one for settling. But I have found that what I want in a person has changed over time. What was perfect for me twenty years ago or ten just isn't what I want (and have) now.

i agree with this statement. The first post which i replied to did not seem quite as specific in it's example of the opinion voiced. Twenty, or even ten years ago i thought i knew what i wanted and needed. Today, those needs have evolved and i'm happy to be able to say, have been forfilled, and then some. my 'cupeth doth runneth over' [;)] Been there, done that, i know how it is... i can relate, and i agree. [sm=lol.gif]

¸,ø¤º°cynnacent°º¤ø,¸ (proudly owned by, and devoted to INSIDEYOURMIND)



Lordandmaster -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/26/2004 11:55:20 AM)

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sarbonn -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/26/2004 12:00:47 PM)

After a certain amount of frustration in searching for "the One", I often find myself almost willing to consider the "anyOne".



HRGreyDragon -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/23/2007 3:51:38 AM)

Soul mates would mean you believe in reincarnation and all that goes with it.  

It may or may not be, and it is a romantic to believe it is real.   But I also believe that complete strangers can find that connection that makes them feel like soul mates.  

In truth your soul mate would be a complete stranger to you till reconnected in this life. Think about it.  

But to look for your soul mate simply for the sake of looking, dooms you to never finding that one. For your looking for a preconceived idea and may very well blind yourself to the real thing.

jmho Grey Dragon



CuriousLord -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/23/2007 3:56:54 AM)

"The One" is a romantic ideal.  I'm not sure if it was born of estrogen or religious proganda (Karana knows it was probably a combination), but it's the ideal of having a perfect mate as a life partner out there somewhere that you're destined to find (although, if you fail to find them, you're screwed to a life of misery and lonilness).  From there, the concept proably gets watered down in different ways by different people.

And, no.  "The One" is not a valid concept from any scientific prospective I've yet encountered.  It's just some romantic superstition that's, I hope, simply humored by most.

PS-  I'd like to point out that, for many of us, there are a number of potentially good partners.  In all seriousness, there's, what, eight billion people out there?  If you couldn't happily live with at least two of them, you probably have some serious issue(s).  Now, chances you'll actually meet one of the people you are compatiable with?  Meh.  Depends on so many different things, but it's a moot consideration for this point.  Simply, there's not a "one".   There's just people who do and don't work.  It's incredibly unlikely that only one person could work.  Even if such was the case, that group being of a singular element was arbitrary to happenstance as opposed to a fact of universal truth.



camille65 -> RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction (12/23/2007 4:00:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: feline


Although i have only been involved in this “lifestyle” for about 5 years, since the beginning i have heard talk about the infamous search for “The One”. Ok let’s think about this here for a minute. “The One”. What exactly is considered “The One”? Our soul mate? That ever elusive perfect partner? That certain someone that we match so completely with that everything else in the world seems trivial? Really, i want to know. Because needless to say, i have yet to find “The One”. And to be quite honest with you, i don’t think he exists. Over time i have watched as what seemed to be perfectly matched “One” couples, in this lifestyle, split apart. i have submissive/slave friends, obedient, devoted, the epitome of servitude, that are alone. So someone tell me . . . . . .is this quest to find the ever mysterious “One” valid? Or is it simply a myth, fantasy or dream we tell ourselves to feel better?
 I don't think that the search for the 'One' is exclusive to the BDSM world, not at all. The magazines, movies and books often mention the search for that elusive One. Soulmates.. I don't believe in that because it implies immediate perfection to me. However I do believe that there can be a person that compliments and balances another.I believe that because I've been his for 8 years and he is my 'One'. Nothing is perfect but things can be close to perfect. [:)]If it were perfect I don't think there would be much growth and that bit is important to me, learning, changing & growing. Happy Holidays Everyone!



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