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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 4:25:37 AM   
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Relationships very seldom just happen - they are built. Two people find they have enough in common for a beginning and they start building. It happens over time and it's a give and take thing and you begin to feel the love grow and realize that what you originally thought was the deepest most sincere love, in no way compares to the love that has grow for the other person. As the love continues to grow you eventually find that you can't give enough of yourself, and then one day you realize that the other persons happiness and welfare is more important than anything else and you want to give them the rest of your life. That's when you realize that you have found "The One."


i don't believe in "soulmates" or we would be destined to love only once or maybe not at all.  There are a lot of potential "perfect" partners and there are a lot of "One(s)" out there.  i think we run into trouble when we have expectations of fairytail romances and relationships without effort.  We live in a society of microwave dinners and instant everything but for me the best relationships are the ones tended to like a garden. 

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 4:34:18 AM   
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Anyway...for some people, there's the One.  For others, it's the Two.  For me, I guess it's the Few.  I'm like the Marines.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 4:41:50 AM   
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Although i have only been involved in this “lifestyle” for about 5 years, since the beginning i have heard talk about the infamous search for “The One”. Ok let’s think about this here for a minute. “The One”. What exactly is considered “The One”? Our soul mate? That ever elusive perfect partner? That certain someone that we match so completely with that everything else in the world seems trivial? Really, i want to know. Because needless to say, i have yet to find “The One”. And to be quite honest with you, i don’t think he exists. Over time i have watched as what seemed to be perfectly matched “One” couples, in this lifestyle, split apart. i have submissive/slave friends, obedient, devoted, the epitome of servitude, that are alone. So someone tell me . . . . . .is this quest to find the ever mysterious “One” valid? Or is it simply a myth, fantasy or dream we tell ourselves to feel better?

 
Good morning, feline. It can be both.  I think there can be a "one" out there, or even more than one "one" . Having said that, even if you find that person, there's no promise that it'll endure.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 4:45:58 AM   
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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 5:53:00 AM   
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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 6:08:05 AM   
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What an old thread!  Anyway, I still have some thoughts on the subject so here goes.

I don't necessarily believe in "the one" but I do believe in soulmates.  I believe we can have many soulmates - people who deeply touch our lives for a given period of time, but who do not necessarily remain in them, as we are always changing, always evolving.  So a soulmate may come in to our lives for that particular time in which we can affect each other, and then we will continue on our seperate paths.  I believe close friends can be soulmates; not just "lovers" or "life partners". 

As for "the one", well, I thought I had married "the one".  Perhaps he was "the one" for that particular time.  I believe we can have more than one "the ones" (does that twist your brain, or what?) just as we can have more than one soulmate. Each "one" has a purpose in our lives at a given time, and while we may hope and plan on that "one" being a "forever" one, that may not be what is best for us in the long run.  So when people feel they have found "the one," it is my belief that at this point in their lives, they have indeed found the person they are meant to be with.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 6:45:53 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

Neo is the "One". Even though in "Revolution" the Oracle misled us, ultimately it turned out the 2nd episode was just to make money and not advance the plot. So yes - NEO is "The 1".

Now the question is; "The TWO - Fact or Fiction"?


Dang, I thought Bilbo Baggins was the One. or wait.. did he just carry The One? Was he just the One-Holder? I'm confused....

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 7:18:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do not believe in "the one" or a single "soulmate" or other versions fo the Fairy Tale Syndrome.   -Do I believe some folks only find one person who truly suits them in their lives?  Yes, but that is a different thing entirely.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 7:37:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I've not seen feline around in ages.




She's back, spoke to her yesterday.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 7:38:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, without reading the rest of the pages here, I'd like to comment on the search for the ever-illusive "One."  I think I have found my "One" in missfit, and she sees hers in me.  But it took us both a bit of growing up to find our relationships with each other.  We learned in the past how and when to compromise, make concessions, etc. which are needed to keep a relationship harmonious, keep the irritants out, as much as possible. 

I think a lot of people searching for their "one" are not ready or able to find him/her/them.  Someone who is so completely like you or compatible with you that no compromises are necessary is unlikely to exist, and until you learn the skills of social interactions, your search will only hit brick walls.  But once you learn those skills (not saying you or I ever master them completely -- always more to learn) finding your "perfect" mate is much more likely.

But to me, at least, my perfect mate does not mean she can encompass everything I want, nor do I want her to be everything I want, ergo -- I am looking for a slave to augment both of us in our pleasures.  Our other "one."


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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 7:44:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

What an old thread!


oh geez, you're right!  lol  I didn't even notice the start date on this thing.  oh well, old questions never die, eh


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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 10:00:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		I have used the phrase "my One", it does not mean the only one in the universe to me, it means the One I submit to at this particular time. I only submit to One at a time, no more than that. More often I refer to him as Daddy or just plain Sinergy

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 10:05:38 AM   
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I will offer this opinion. You can indeed find the ONE. But he or she can be completely wrong for you and yet still be the ONE who continues to make your heart beat and you can ache for them in ways that no other person can bring out in you. You can be in love with them, and they with you, but for other compatibility issues, you cannot really live a life with them.

But, you are pretty much doomed because you are each other's ONE in a passion sense, no matter how you try for it not to be that way, and that is not something you can ever really explain to anyone.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 10:31:50 AM   
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What exactly is considered “The One”?

I can, of course, only speak for myself. I have always thought of 'the One' as more of a soul mate. That one person who completes the puzzle that is 'you'. I don't believe in perfection though; no one is perfect, a person is only perfect for YOU.
 
I don't believe, though, that there is only ONE soulmate for us in this life. I believe that there are many, each with their own special characteristics that call to us.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 10:42:00 AM   
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I am not reading all the posts here as I do not want anyone thinking I am replying to them, since there are far too many sensitive souls on the boards lately.

I will offer this opinion. You can indeed find the ONE. But he or she can be completely wrong for you and yet still be the ONE who continues to make your heart beat and you can ache for them in ways that no other person can bring out in you. You can be in love with them, and they with you, but for other compatibility issues, you cannot really live a life with them.

But, you are pretty much doomed because you are each other's ONE in a passion sense, no matter how you try for it not to be that way, and that is not something you can ever really explain to anyone.

Ahhh Red...how perfectly stated.

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 10:48:51 AM   
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Although i have only been involved in this “lifestyle” for about 5 years, since the beginning i have heard talk about the infamous search for “The One”. Ok let’s think about this here for a minute. “The One”. What exactly is considered “The One”? Our soul mate? That ever elusive perfect partner? That certain someone that we match so completely with that everything else in the world seems trivial? Really, i want to know. Because needless to say, i have yet to find “The One”. And to be quite honest with you, i don’t think he exists. Over time i have watched as what seemed to be perfectly matched “One” couples, in this lifestyle, split apart. i have submissive/slave friends, obedient, devoted, the epitome of servitude, that are alone. So someone tell me . . . . . .is this quest to find the ever mysterious “One” valid? Or is it simply a myth, fantasy or dream we tell ourselves to feel better?

 
I dunno...
When I consider the phrase, "The One", I tend to roll my eyes in exasperation. With all the discussion I've seen about it, I get the impression that there's this mystical bell that goes off in your head when you meet such a person, and all you have to do is sit back, do nothing and it'll happen to you when it's time. Sad, really. Most people that I've met are only really happy when they've worked at it, chased it down and found it. I think it's all how you go about it. You tend to value those things that you work for than what is simply given to you, right?

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RE: "The One" Fact or Fiction - 12/23/2007 7:08:59 PM   
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I dunno...
When I consider the phrase, "The One", I tend to roll my eyes in exasperation. With all the discussion I've seen about it, I get the impression that there's this mystical bell that goes off in your head when you meet such a person, and all you have to do is sit back, do nothing and it'll happen to you when it's time. Sad, really. Most people that I've met are only really happy when they've worked at it, chased it down and found it. I think it's all how you go about it. You tend to value those things that you work for than what is simply given to you, right?


I've read many of the posts about "The One," also. I'm not as cynical as some. I do indeed, believe that such a person exists for me. And sappy as it seems, I believe we'll both know that we are each "The One" to the other. No questions asked. It will be as apparent to us as the sky is blue. (At least, on Earth.)

Now, will we have to work at maintaining that relationship? Hell, yes. Will we have to evolve as a D/s couple. Hell yes. Will we have to evolve as a couple outside the lifestyle?? Hell yes!again. To me, finding "The One" just happens; keeping her (or him) is what takes time and much, much effort.

My .02 zlotys. Your milage may vary.

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