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RE: male submissives :) - 6/14/2008 9:44:44 AM

rubberpet

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ORIGINAL: bekaness

Hello out there all you male subbies, this question is for you, although I must ask that other female submissives don't post flaming posts on this question pretty please ^^

I have been bekaness on this site before, always listed as submissive, never switch. I post what I am like and hoped (before I met someone) to find a dominant seeking what I could serve.

It really blew my mind how many male subs do/would message me and I don't mean just friendships. I mean long nice profiles, trying to get me to top them.

I know I am in no way fit to top or even try.

This isn't a bitchfest but just trying to understand the world around me better.

Male subbies, can you please explain to me why you would message a submissive that has it written all over their profile how submissive they are?

I mean honest reasons. I really want to know.

Thank you in advance,

~Beka

Unfortunately, most male submissives on this site are simply stupid. They don't read profiles, they seem to only look at pictures, and they are too busy playing with their "mouse" to realize that you are a submissive looking for a dominant, too. The "male subs" you are referring to are the cellar-dwellers and trolls that give genuine submissives a bad name. They write to any and every female they can find, often using either one-line messages or form letters.

The best thing I recommend is to either use the collarme filters or delete messages from male subs unread. Maybe that will make them think twice before writing to you again.

Good luck...I hope that helps.

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/14/2008 10:04:13 AM

Puppy4goodHome

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When i see a comant like this i cant stand it you think its just the male submissive its female submissive and dommes and doms also that don't read profiles and just email you because of your picture they see
this happens to me all the time also i hear it happens to friends
so its not just the submissive men in really irritates me when i hear this stereo typical from somone
i don't mean to be offensive just really tickes me off some don't seem to get the part that its not just the men its the women and also not just submissive bot the dominants also that do this
for instance you know how most the Dommes say they can not stand it when they get a 1 sentence Email
well i got a email from a Domme a month ago and it only had 5 words in it it was where in Ohio are u i send back a email saying in Cleveland then i sent another email because i wanted to see what her response would be because i read her profile and she said no one sentence emails in first contact so i asked her what would she say to a submissive that sent a one sentence email and she said what ? i said it again she got really rude real fast come on we all are the same way but some just choose to say its the submissive men that do this well its not that way we are not all the same and some ruin it for the others

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

quote:

ORIGINAL: bekaness

Hello out there all you male subbies, this question is for you, although I must ask that other female submissives don't post flaming posts on this question pretty please ^^

I have been bekaness on this site before, always listed as submissive, never switch. I post what I am like and hoped (before I met someone) to find a dominant seeking what I could serve.

It really blew my mind how many male subs do/would message me and I don't mean just friendships. I mean long nice profiles, trying to get me to top them.

I know I am in no way fit to top or even try.

This isn't a bitchfest but just trying to understand the world around me better.

Male subbies, can you please explain to me why you would message a submissive that has it written all over their profile how submissive they are?

I mean honest reasons. I really want to know.

Thank you in advance,

~Beka

Unfortunately, most male submissives on this site are simply stupid. They don't read profiles, they seem to only look at pictures, and they are too busy playing with their "mouse" to realize that you are a submissive looking for a dominant, too. The "male subs" you are referring to are the cellar-dwellers and trolls that give genuine submissives a bad name. They write to any and every female they can find, often using either one-line messages or form letters.

The best thing I recommend is to either use the collarme filters or delete messages from male subs unread. Maybe that will make them think twice before writing to you again.

Good luck...I hope that helps.

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/14/2008 10:17:30 AM

rubberpet

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Hey, pup, I'm not sure if you were directing your comments my way or toward the OP, so I'll just offer my opinion on it.

My comment was strictly in response to the OP, which was asking about male submissives and why they write to her. No gender or label is free from stupidity. Some dom/mes and subs, male and female do that type of "blind writing". They are just game players and toilet bugs...plain and simple. It makes things extremely difficult for those genuinely searching for someone.

So feel free to step down off your soap box because I agree with your point.

***pats you on the head and gives you a Milk-Bone***

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/14/2008 10:24:15 AM

Puppy4goodHome

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Im sorry i was the bad one here i just get a bit defensive at times and also get a little uptight aspecialy with just having one of these emails come to me 3 hours ago was a bit heated im sorry just that i got a email from a submissive asking me to be dom about 3 hours ago and i just got a bit heated im sorry please take my apology and thank you :)

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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

Hey, pup, I'm not sure if you were directing your comments my way or toward the OP, so I'll just offer my opinion on it.

My comment was strictly in response to the OP, which was asking about male submissives and why they write to her. No gender or label is free from stupidity. Some dom/mes and subs, male and female do that type of "blind writing". They are just game players and toilet bugs...plain and simple. It makes things extremely difficult for those genuinely searching for someone.

So feel free to step down off your soap box because I agree with your point.

***pats you on the head and gives you a Milk-Bone***

grabs the milbone out of your hand yummy jumping up on your with dirty paws trying to get more atention :)

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/14/2008 10:26:18 AM

rubberpet

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Hey pup, don't worry about it! It's all good!

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/14/2008 10:53:45 AM

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I'd offer up that most of these guys are not submissive, they are bottoms, but there is no "label" for that on CM.

And even if there was, I'm sure many wouldn't use it because they don't understand anything beyond the fact that they want kinky sex and want a female to give it to them.

Truthfully, I've only received one actual email asking if I wanted to get in touch with my domme side, to which I responded that I didn't have one to get in touch with. I don't top.

I have had several "sub" males who emailed me to "be friends" and I responded with a "no thanks" because I knew what the ploy was.

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/15/2008 1:54:05 AM

subboi3382

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yea i always wondered to...maybe they are taking a flyer out on you, hoping u will dom the right guy, since they seem to be having trouble finding a domme

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RE: male submissives :) - 6/15/2008 3:35:02 AM

Aiden

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Some guys play a numbers game. The idea is to solicit anyone without a Y chromosome until by force of statistics you get a hit. Its the written equivalent of yelling yelling at women from cars for sexual favours. They might need to do the math on that one over again re effort to rewards ratio; historically has any woman ever flagged down the car and jumped into it?

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