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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

I had a bit of a personal apithony this morning.  The result from chasing slave girl ass on the other side and recent email exchanges.  I have been somewhat at loss to why, I'm so damn open to different types of painsluts (super maso types), daddy little girls, sluts, and whatnot.  However, it goes past these stereotype labels.  I have been trying to figure out the basis for my Open minded nature regarding different things or combinations.  

Okay.  Hope You find what You seek, Sir.

Why should a Male Dom be this damn adaptive?  Meaning I should have a more set in stone idea of what things I'm looking for.    Not going back and fourth over the friggen menu trying to figure out what the Hell I want to order right?  LOL...

i disagree.  i think E/everyone has to struggle with this, especially P/pl W/who are not currently in a D/s relationship.

It struck me, that I'm into capturing the essense of a slave.  To become in tune with their nature and spirit and ultilize and build upon those things.

Eau de Slave, Sir?

I've also had been trying to figure out something else.  Why I'm big into wanting to know what turns a submissive/slave on.  What makes them tick.   In fact, this could be mistaken for a service top.

Naw, not in Yr case Sir.  *hugs*

Basically, me knowing and doing things that I know damn well exceit a sub/slave, is part of my way of turning them into a Dirty Slutty girl.   It's one thing to use somebody like a slutty girl, another thing for them to actually feel like a Dirty slutty girl.  I simply want to elevate their sex drive and desires.   In many ways, I'm simply taking control of things and working and building off from it.   Call it one of my many evil ways of shaping and molding.  I have to figure out what makes a sub/slave really tick inside to do this and do it well.

Interesting; so this really gets Yr motor running?

For instance, If I'm calling somebody a Dirty Slut that is not turned on, well.. it really does not have the same effect.. as if their clit is throbbing to death and I'm saying it.   Now, I have truely a Dirty Slutty Girl on my hands.  I've managed to capture part of her essence and manipulate it.  Yes, I said that dirty word.. Manipulate!   But it's true, so go ahead and shoot me for the bastard that I am.

Okay.  <Pow!>

However, all this stuff is not limited on a kink or sexual level.  It applies on the relationship or D/s level as well.  If somebody has a strong desire in the service department and I know about it.  I will run with it to the hilt.  I one desires a lot of micromanagement, I will run that to the hilt, provided it does interfer with things I need to get gone.  If something becomes an inconvience to me, I will not do it.   However, I want them to feel used and damn well used well.  To make it a point to remind them of well they are being used.  

Okay, makes sense.

In short, I try to take with the core essence of what I have on my hands, and build off from it.  I make good use of it as well.  I do have needs, wants, and desires that a submissive/slave should be able to fillfull.  But what are the extra add-on services or uses I can tap into.

Do Y/you mean what turns us on Sir?  i can't help much; i'm a pleasure submissive -- not the sort of girl You seem to be seeking.

In many regards, if I end up with a hardcore Maso girl, well this provides me with areas of deeper exploration.  Just how sadistic can I be within my own humanity?  What kind of limits in myself will I discover?  It's a bit like opening up Pandora's Box.  So with that said.   Things make a little more sense regarding my somewhat "open minded" nature.

Okay; i'm happy You are considering such things as a Sadist.  Seems very wise.

I'm interested in if anybody else thinks along these same lines?  I thought I'd make this post, because I've been at somewhat of a loss for a little while trying to figure a few things out.   Even more considering the range of possible options online. 

Dunno if You'd be interested in anything i might have to say in response Sir.  i'm not a slave; i'm not maso; etc.  But if You would like my comments, just lemme know, i'll be happy to try and make a sensible post later on this thread.

i very much doubt Yr ponderings are any different from Those who are real Doms, Sir.
 
Happy Father's Day!
 
*hugs*
 
pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

Maybe, like your chosen nic, you're trying waaaay too hard to the point of overcompensating for feelings of inadequacy? 
 
Not that I'm a shrink, mind you - perhaps you'd benefit by running it past someone who is...?
 
Focus.

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

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ORIGINAL: Focus50

Maybe, like your chosen nic, you're trying waaaay too hard to the point of overcompensating for feelings of inadequacy? 
 
Not that I'm a shrink, mind you - perhaps you'd benefit by running it past someone who is...?
 
Focus.

Actually this nic was created with the intent of busting somebody who was playing games with me.  I'm giving a raised eyebrow upon your comment.   The overcompensating part I accept, because I'm going back and forth sorting a few things out right now.   The whole lifestyle ReEntry I've been going through.  The internet explosion.   I'm having to crack off and shed the vanilla image I tried stuffing myself into for a decade.  The whole process of meeting somebody seems and feels backwards compared to real time.   Plus, some things have changed about me.   I find myself not simply picking up things where I last left off at with "the lifestyle".   Mind you, now... I'm faced with where I sort of fit in with the BDSM jello molds and stereotyping.  When communicating with others, what is the best or more accurate way to describe things about myself or share with others.  Things that are a little more solid compared being a little fuzzy or not so clear.   At times I'm going to the Left and then to the Right.  A bit of back in forth, as the result I tend to Over Compensate while sorting things out.  Even more so when probing at the depth.

In terms of inadequency that's not my issue.  I know I more then capable of anything or everything.  I'm actually going through this same shit with Music.  I've been writing songs using different Genres and styles now.  I'm exploring new Avenues I have never done before.  Such as Roctronical, Industrial Dance, NuMetal, Modern Country Rock, something called WeirdoCore as well.   I've played in traditional 80's styles Hair metal bands (cock rock), and done some alternative Punk Music, and Southern Rock bands.   All this is new territory for me, It's excieting and a bit confusing as to what Genre's I'm going to actually settle down into.  I really confident about playing Guitar, singing, laying out Synth and Bass lines.  

Both Music and BDSM, is a process of rediscovery.  I Love both, but when you have been out of it for awhile and return.. and start to explore things on level you had not.  Sure, it becomes a bit of a bitch.

This is probally a form of Mid-Life crisis I'm going through, and I'm aware of it... Choices and decisions.  A long term relationship can effect one for a number of years in life.  I only have so many years left.   I know that I'm running out of my youthful time you know.  LOL...

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

My friend, it's called POWER. It's something I understand about myself. What is wrong with that. I get off on the POWER to make a woman reach peaks of pleasure. Using pain, pleasure, force, some humiliation, love, superiority, whatever I want to drive her crazy and push her to new heights. I want her to discover parts of herself that she didn't even know existed.

If this is bad, then I'm very, very bad. But that is what is my primary driving force. POWER.

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When I was 12, my parents took me to a psychiatrist because I was involved with an "older" woman. She was 17. I initiated the relationship. I was in charge. The shrink said I was brilliant and mature, but was driven by power dynamics in a relationship. He said I had to be "in control". I was still laughing over him asking if I liked to masturbate over pictures of women in underwear in the catalog. So, while the urge for power may not fit the norm, it is also not "OVERCOMPENSATING".

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

What is important to me is that I have gotten into their heads and seen something that they have shared with no one else; sometimes not even with themselves. 

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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Basically, me knowing and doing things that I know damn well exceit a sub/slave, is part of my way of turning them into a Dirty Slutty girl.   It's one thing to use somebody like a slutty girl, another thing for them to actually feel like a Dirty slutty girl.  I simply want to elevate their sex drive and desires.   In many ways, I'm simply taking control of things and working and building off from it.   Call it one of my many evil ways of shaping and molding.  I have to figure out what makes a sub/slave really tick inside to do this and do it well.

For instance, If I'm calling somebody a Dirty Slut that is not turned on, well.. it really does not have the same effect.. as if their clit is throbbing to death and I'm saying it.   Now, I have truely a Dirty Slutty Girl on my hands.  I've managed to capture part of her essence and manipulate it.  Yes, I said that dirty word.. Manipulate!   But it's true, so go ahead and shoot me for the bastard that I am.

In short, I try to take with the core essence of what I have on my hands, and build off from it.  I make good use of it as well.  I do have needs, wants, and desires that a submissive/slave should be able to fillfull.  But what are the extra add-on services or uses I can tap into.

In many regards, if I end up with a hardcore Maso girl, well this provides me with areas of deeper exploration.  Just how sadistic can I be within my own humanity?  What kind of limits in myself will I discover?  It's a bit like opening up Pandora's Box.  So with that said.   Things make a little more sense regarding my somewhat "open minded" nature.

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ORIGINAL: chamberqueen

If a Dom/me does not care about whether their partner is getting something out of it then they are just a sadist or into the power trip.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Well it means you'll never be compatible with someone like me who embraced her slut self over a decade ago and never saw anything dirty about it.  So I'd be cautious equating that with "elevating their desires"

Most people enjoy reactions and making an impression on who they are with over time.  Ds is no different.  To me it is simply what love is- encouraging someone to be true to themselves.  There is no comparing how wonderful I feel when my partner will reach inside himself and feel that inner thread of steel when he needs to. 

But unlike what most of your post seems to say- I'm not into turning someone into a vision I have for them.  I am into creating a relationship in which we both become exactly who we want to be.