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pr5sa1 -> Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 8:15:45 AM)

Hello,

I am a need a Code of Conduct from another master, or a refrence to a site where I can get one.

Regards.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 8:18:46 AM)

Why not write up one of your own? Make it personalized, so it fits the relationship rather than being generic?
Googling it finds you a few different ones, but they are all very basic and nonspecific since they are one size fits most, not actually pertaining to your slave,your relationship and your training.

DV



Archer -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 8:25:35 AM)

One really good idea I have seen is simple and easy to use.

Start off making a list of things you expect the person to do. (Keep the list short to start with)

Then try and experiment with how you want those things done. (again keeping it short)
Remember you can adjust the how.

You can only add to the list up to the point that you can consistantly enforce those rules.




OmegaG -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 8:59:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pr5sa1

Hello,

I am a need a Code of Conduct from another master, or a refrence to a site where I can get one.

Regards.



If you use the same on the one who collared her uses, it would probably be easiest for her.



FRSguy -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 9:28:43 AM)

It wouldnt work for ya... follow Archers advice.  Each Dom is different and the differences are extreamly important to the Subs. Start out with what you percieve to be the basics and experiment from there. If you cant identify what it is that you like and want you are going to run into some seriouse issues so think shit out... if you wonder if your going over the top or not on some issues then befriend a couple of Doms or post you concerne publicly and get opinions on it however... I think you will find we vary so much on what we feel is correct incorect conduct in a household it will do you know good. Its your house and you wont succeed at anything until you can first succeed there otherwise its going to be a big lead weight on your ass when it comes to everything else.



Leatherist -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 9:29:39 AM)

There are no short cuts. Use your mind, or fail miserably.



Archer -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 9:41:46 AM)

The biggest and best use of other folks examples are to remind you of things you might not think of easily.
but early on the biggest problem with them is that they have you scattered thinking of 1,000 things rather than thinking of the top 10 things and then adding anything else as things progress.



Leatherist -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 10:22:05 AM)

The master needs to have a clear idea of how HE likes to live.

Then let the slave decide if that will also work for her.

Hopefully, the Top is not off in la la fantasy land, and can make practical decisions and prioritize.



Quin -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 1:21:12 PM)


I'm sure someone is going to laugh or shred me for this, but here goes anyway...

Usually, when I take on a new girl, I like to start very simply. I give her a copy of the "128 Basic Slave Rules" and go over the instructions with her. I then give her 2 weeks to read, re-read, and re-re-read them. She then gets another 2 weeks to number them in the manner he suggests. Once numbered, we move through each rule, usually only about 5-10 a day, talking about what the rule means to each of us, rewording them if necessary, until we've finished them all. (Bear in mind that I've gone through the list and know what my own #1's and #2's are that I expect from a slave).

I then take all this information and develop my own rules just for her based on the insight I've gained and my own expectations and preferences.

If you want...here's the link... http://www.128basicslaverules.blogspot.com/



Archer -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 2:07:04 PM)

You're right anytime someone even mentions that rediculous 128 rules thng i have to laugh.

But I laugh a bit less after seeing that you at least take it and chop away at it and rework it a bit.







allcatsaregrey -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 2:13:11 PM)

While its nice to have a prefabricated base upon which to build, your slave is going to be uninspired and ultimately bored with cookie cutter rules which came from someone else's mind and heart. If you are serious, you'll sit down and think about what your needs are and how she can meet them in a way which is beneficial to you both. Otherwise, your slave will feel unappreciated - unless she's a mindless drone.



pr5sa1 -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 2:52:17 PM)

Thx for all you giuys input.  I think I m going to write my own mixed in with some basic rules.  She is very new to this and I would want her to read what the lifestyle is and what a "slave" actually is which alot of people don't know from experiance.  again thx for all you help.





xxblushesxx -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 5:47:29 PM)

Part of the besst contract I ever signed said that the slave will respect the master even when he doesn't deserve it.

(I prolly couldn't have held to it, but it was funny!)



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 9:39:53 PM)

"Find a decent person you admire, do what they do"

Tada.



darkpassenger434 -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 9:44:42 PM)

Probably have to figure this one out pretty much on your own. Drawing from your other post in polyamory, I would imagine any potential contract would be even more of a job. I do find it helps me to organize my thoughts by envisioning a day and writing down how I want each situation handled.
-R



GreedyTop -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/17/2008 9:56:10 PM)

it's the post about having a slave that isnt his, because she's collared to someone else, and married to yet another (who is vanilla) that makes me wonder... but hey.. they aren't my shoes...



goodpet -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/18/2008 4:51:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

it's the post about having a slave that isnt his, because she's collared to someone else, and married to yet another (who is vanilla) that makes me wonder... but hey.. they aren't my shoes...


GreedyTop, i thought the same thing.. the OP wants to give this confused sub/slave owned by a Master and had a vanilla relationship all of his stuff.. I wonder if he even talks to or knows the owner of this girl he wants to train.

On the other hand.. a code of conduct or a code of ethics is a good thing to have. for yourself and/or for yourself in the realationship.

~ann



GreedyTop -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/18/2008 4:54:13 AM)

agreed :)



sirsholly -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/18/2008 4:55:16 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

There are no short cuts. Use your mind, or fail miserably.


writing this one down...love it!! [sm=writing.gif]



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Slave Code of Conduct Contract (6/18/2008 5:20:29 AM)

is this the same "she" who is confused, owned by another and has a "vanilla"? merely curious.

to answer your query, if there was a written code of conduct & contract, most of us wouldn't be able to live up to its standards. that's the beauty of this kink - you can make it up and personal to your relationship.



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