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pinksugarsub -> RE: It seems............ (6/18/2008 8:45:20 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DDlover
That most of the female Dommes on here are professionals, which sort of cuts out a persons chance of finding a Domme women on here for an LTR. Do you feel that is an accurate statement?
DDlover, i'm not sure what You mean by a 'professional female Domme' nor do i have any idea how O/one would survey all CollarMe Dommes and Mistresses to determine the percent that are 'professonal'.
Rather than attempting to reach any general conclusions about all Dommes and Mistresses here, i urge You to focus on Yr search; self-awareness; self-improvement; polite introductory emails; and so forth.
Wikipedia defines a 'dominatrix' as:
A dominatrix (from the Latin dominatrix, meaning a female ruler or mistress; plural dominatrices or dominatrixes) or mistress is a woman who takes the dominant role in bondage and discipline, domination and submission or sado-masochistic sexual practices, which are commonly abbreviated as BDSM. The male equivalent is Master. A common form of address for a submissive to a dominatrix is "Mistress", "Ma'am" or "Maîtresse". Note that a dominatrix does not necessarily dominate a male partner; a dominatrix may well have a female submissive.
Professional versus lifestyle dominatrices
The term dominatrix is often used to describe a professional dominant woman (or pro-domme) who charges money to engage in fantasy play with submissive clients. In reality most dominatrices are not professionals, but lifestyle dominants. A lifestyle dominant is a person who is assertive and in control of their relationships both inside and outside the bedroom. Women who engage in female domination recreationally are known as Dommes, Dominatrices, or simply Dominants. A high percentage of dominants are lifestyle dominants, but some simply play the dominatrix role because it is a high-paying profession. It is common for professional dominatrices who are also lifestyle Dommes to have both paying clients and a "personal slave" or slaves, who are not paying clients. A personal slave will typically perform a Domme's housework and run errands for her. A personal slave may or may not live with his or her Domme. Professional dominants most frequently do not engage in any form of sexual contact with their paying customers, as this can be construed as prostitution in some places. Outside of their life as a pro-domme, they may engage in sexual behavior with a devoted slave, or not, as they choose. A common form of domination involves chastity where a dominant controls her slaves' sexual access, sometimes keeping them locked in a chastity device except for rare occasions.
The stereotyped image of a dominatrix is of a woman wearing a rubber or leather catsuit and thigh-length boots with high heels or, in a more elegant and teasing mode, black lingerie, stockings and high heels, or some combination of these two alternatives. Many professional dominatrices do indeed wear similar outfits for their work in order to meet client expectations. However, for non-professional dominatrices, the question "What does a dominatrix wear?" is best answered "Whatever she likes!"
http://www.answers.com/topic/dominatrix
i think You are probably facing a mathematical disadvantage -- so M/many P/pl have posted here that male submissives far outnumber Dommes and Mistresses numerically that i guess i have come to accept it as an article of faith.
If You see a Domme or Mistress profile that appeals to You, i suggest that you write a pleasant introductory email which includes a clue that You have read Her profile, not just looked at Her profile picture(s).
i wish You much success in Your search.
pinksugarsub
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