softpjOS
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Some Dominants responded that the act of being served by subs in a non-sexual way (essentially skilled and unskilled manual labor) was fulfilling and to some, under the right circumstances, arousing.
The sub is performing these services in the context of a D/s dynamic. In the sub's mind he or she is "serving" mistress and it is fulfilling to the sub to serve and please the mistress.
This question then to the Miss, Ms., Mrs., Maams, Mistresses and other female dominants (and anyone else, really) :
If you are pleased or satisfied by such service, how do you demonstrate your pleasure to your sub?
Is it necessary for you to demonstrate pleasure or satisfaction?
I'm interested in the thinking and actions that transcend a favor for a friend or spouse into an act of submission.
If only you knew how many times Mistress and i have had this very same discussion lol.
I tend to have difficulty seeing many of the things i do for Her as *service* as they are things i would do for a friend as well, which allows me to question my *service* to Her.
What finally got me to stop beating myself up over this was Her sitting me down and explaining WHY She saw it as me serving Her.
1. She is an extremely independant person, and as such typically will not accept anyone doing "favors" for Her.
2. The tasks She gives me, She EXPECTS them to be done. A favor for a friend is something you do on your own terms, in your own time. Something you do for your spouse can be over looked without consenquences. Now, that does not necessarily mean that there is punishment dished out if i do not get something done, but i do feel like i've let Her down if i do fail to complete something.
3. Some of the things i do for Her are done to Her specifications/ in Her way. IE: laundry is folded a certain way, Her bedroom is kept a certain way, Her vehicles are maintained/cleaned with very specific products.... so when taking Her truck for an oil change, jiffy lube might be closer and less expensive but i know if i do not take it to Her prefered service department...there will be hell to pay lol.
I guess it all comes down to (as many have said) mindset as well as Her expectations and my desire to please Her.
As far as reward goes, She is most generous with both the verbal "thank you" along with putting aside special "us" time and yes, even the occasional gift She will surprise me with :) A new collar, or a frog to add to my collection.
< Message edited by softpjOS -- 6/18/2008 8:51:57 PM >
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RE: Turning a task list into acts of submission - 
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