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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 8:25:00 AM

wipmebeetme100

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Can somebody help me?

You are lucky. It looks like you know exactly what you want and need. That is the first step. Now the harder part....finding the sub/slave that will be the "best fit." I don't mean to discourage you when i say it is the "harder part", i only bring that up because so often i see people make concessions when choosing a partner...and not getting the "best fit."

Best wishes....cathy

P.S. for what it is worth.....all of your requirements and/or wishes seem perfectly reasonable to me.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 8:41:04 AM

wipmebeetme100

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Maybe you will find someone who has no self worth or self-esteem who will accept the position of your trying to fill. To me being your abused cleaning woman you want to stomp in the heart, mind, and body is only going to be found in someone who needs mental help..
My advice is to RESPECT THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION and value the slave that would serve you. We slaves are people with hearts, feelings, and needs too. Maybe if you show some respect, you'll get some back.

I have plenty of self worth and maybe a bit too much self-esteem....and have no issue with any of the activities listed. I also need no mental help.
GIFT OF SUBMISSION??? My ass!!!! Give this gift bs a rest. There is no gift being given. We do what we do.....BECAUSE WE LIKE IT, IT FEELS GOOD....bottom line. Hedonistic behaviors.
You want someone to value the slave that would serve them....and according to you would serve them only in the way "they" feel is appropriate. Where is the service in that?

cathy

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 8:48:16 AM

wipmebeetme100

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All i can say to you is good luck. In my experience subs i have met are intelligent women/men who have pride in themeselves and the Master they are serving. I don't know many if any that want to be a doormat.

You want to humilate this poor girl in public then expect het to serve you with devotion and love? You may but i think it will be hard for you to find someone who will do that. of course i could be wrong.

And what is wrong with public humiliation? I have participated in this numerous times and hey....look at me, i am ok. Still living, still breathing...none the worse for wear. I am a highly intelligent individual with plenty of pride in myself and the one that i belong to. Even in all the objectification play....i have never been a doormat.
I do appreciate the fact that you mentioned you could be wrong.....you were.

Peace,
cathy

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 8:55:56 AM

wipmebeetme100

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This is where your approach really bothers me. IMHO you want some one to treat like crap that will then care for you when necessary and keep their mouth shut. Why would you want to spend your time training & caring for a walking talking doormat that you only scrape the dregs of your affection on?

I would HIGHLY suggest reading websites & books to educate you that this is not how your average BDSM arrangement works...

You are absolutely correct....what he describes would not be an AVERAGE BDSM arrangement. I don't know about anyone else.....but i don't want AVERAGE. I am not AVERAGE. Anyone can be, anyone can have average. I want MORE...MUCH MORE!

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 9:02:26 AM

wipmebeetme100

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Seems so many think dominance is about what they see trailer trash guys in the movies doing.
What he described i, in my humble opinion, don't consider dominance but abuse.

What is dominance to you? Is a good Dominant someone who will require their slave to do whatever their slave consents to do? Where is the power exchange there? Be careful what you label abuse....it is too strong a word to throw around lightly.

cathy

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 10:44:40 AM

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You thought i was wrong others may not think so but hey it is a free country we are all entitled to our own opnions. So please don;t try to force yours on others.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 1:06:41 PM

wipmebeetme100

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You thought i was wrong others may not think so but hey it is a free country we are all entitled to our own opnions. So please don;t try to force yours on others.

You were the one who brought up the fact that you might be wrong, not me....i just agreed with you. I don't believe i was forcing my opinion on anyone...i was just posting my thoughts on the board, same as everyone else.

You know what they say about opinions...they are like assholes, everybodys got one.

Peace,
cathy

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 1:19:50 PM

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Can somebody help me?

Your dream slave can be found here: http://realdoll.com/dolls.asp

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/4/2005 3:58:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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Can somebody help me?

Your dream slave can be found here: http://realdoll.com/dolls.asp

LMAO!

haha, great site.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/5/2005 6:11:20 AM

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Good for you for speaking up wipmebeetme100. I must admit, I am a little surpised at some of the reactions I am seeing. Much of the vanilla world at large would see anyone with an interest in any form of BDSM as sick and twisted and wrong, and would be more than happy to tell them so. I am a little surprised to see that kind of judgmental activity from the inside. Just because its not your thing, doesn't mean there is someone out there that does not like it. And just because its not your thing doesn't mean that someone that does enjoy those activities is a doormat, or abused, in need of counseling or a walking shell of a human being. It just makes them someone that gets off on something you don't understand.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/5/2005 6:51:20 AM

BeingChewsie

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ORIGINAL: rayjmaster

There seems to be all types of slaves - and each have their own set of rules. I don't really understand this beacause I thought the idea of being a slave was to totally please the master.
My understanding of what a slave should do is as follows:
1. Cook, clean - general domestic duties
2. Wear the clothes of my choice
3. Give me sex on demand
4. Allow me to sexually experiment with them. For example I dream of waking up with a slave at the bottom of my bed who will take me to the toilet and clean my ass and drink my piss. Is that asking too much?
5. I also like the dea of making her cry, from verbal and/or physical abuse - and making her beg for mercy - kissing my feet to apologise
5. To allow me to humiliate her in public - call her names and generally make her look stupid
6. To be my friend and confidente when needed.
Can somebody help me?

It would probably be better to say that this is what you want a person in your service to do for you. I'm not sure that there are any general "slave should do's".

Can you find the things you want? Absolutely. It takes time and patience.

Good luck.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/5/2005 7:04:13 PM

fyreredsub

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good luck in your searching.

i know i would not want a master that tears me down ecspecially in public.

as to wiping someone's ass, i raised my children to do that for themselves,
and damn if i'll drink piss.

i guess thats why their is someone for everyone and to each their own w/ the kinks dept.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/6/2005 9:45:32 AM

rayjmaster

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Thanks for your input guys - I suppose I'm really looking bfor a 24/7 maid that I can have perverted sex with when I like and who's into torture and humiliation. I'm sure there must be someone out there who's interested. As to what they get out of it...I'm actually quite a nice and amusing guy - when I'm not thinking about deviant sex I would enjoy the company of an intelligent and imaginative woman. I've got a great place over here in the UK, swimming pool tennis court, villa in Spain - all of that shit - so we could have a great time together if I found the right one!

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/6/2005 10:08:49 AM

fyreredsub

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ORIGINAL: rayjmaster

Thanks for your input guys - I suppose I'm really looking bfor a 24/7 maid that I can have perverted sex with when I like and who's into torture and humiliation. I'm sure there must be someone out there who's interested. As to what they get out of it...I'm actually quite a nice and amusing guy - when I'm not thinking about deviant sex I would enjoy the company of an intelligent and imaginative woman. I've got a great place over here in the UK, swimming pool tennis court, villa in Spain - all of that shit - so we could have a great time together if I found the right one!

soon there will be new search features on the site perhaps that will be of some assistance to you when its available.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/8/2005 6:01:51 AM

SoulBelow

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5. I also like the dea of making her cry, from verbal and/or physical abuse - and making her beg for mercy - kissing my feet to apologise
APOLOGISE FOR WHAT???? YOU BEING ABUSIVE????
Hello Sir,
Verbal and physical abuse is not welcome in my BDSM world. Impact play and pain are. There’s a huge difference in the two.
A good Master does not abuse his slaves, he disciplines, nurtures, and controls them much like a good King would.
What do you get from being abusive? Hurt feelings, that’s what you get.

Most of the friends in the life I have find pain and pleasure a journey the two take together and not abusive or intended to be abuse.
Wipe your feet elsewhere thank you very much.
The way it works for my Master and I is he uses pain play to take me to the edge of myself and back on a journey he controls.
Abuse is what an ass who hides under the title of Master but isn't one does. Usually the abusive Masters are ones who lack confidence, structure, and discipline practice.
Maybe you will find someone who has no self worth or self-esteem who will accept the position of your trying to fill. To me being your abused cleaning woman you want to stomp in the heart, mind, and body is only going to be found in someone who needs mental help..
My advice is to RESPECT THE GIFT OF SUBMISSION and value the slave that would serve you. We slaves are people with hearts, feelings, and needs too. Maybe if you show some respect, you'll get some back.

Sincerely,
sub suzanne

Very well put I think. My master knows I am his property, he knows that I will do as I'm told but I trust him, I trust the person he is and thats why I accepted his collar. I trust that he would never do anything I was really opposed to. I've drank his piss before but I wanted to, I've slept at the foot of the bed before but I have offered these things to him so he knows that he can take these things without upsetting me. I wait on him hand and foot but thats because I love to. It fulfills me. It's really all about compatibility.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 11/9/2005 7:57:43 AM

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you can expect whatever you want of a slave .. finding one that will give you that is a whole nother ballgame .. I was taken aback a bit by the [asrt of abusing her ... this is not a place of abuse .. pain is another story but when it turns to abuse . thats just wrong on many levels ... 9 times outta 10 you'll only make the lil slut want to run from the lifestyle or become sour to the rest of us that are not so abusive .... there are ways of punishing . they are ways of giving pain .. abuse implies something that should not be around tho.

one thing I know for sure .. one thing I have learned ... this is an alternative lifestyle thus by defineition there is always an alternative with the thus and so on's being in place I imagine there is someone out there who fits your bill . maybe the easter bunny?? ..... good luck

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 6/19/2006 12:56:22 AM

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i would have to agree with Tamerofwild1s...this is NOT a place of abuse .. pain is another story, but when it turns to abuse . that's just wrong on many levels ... and when you state:

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5. I also like the dea of making her cry, from verbal and/or physical abuse - and making her beg for mercy - kissing my feet to apologise

you are stating plainly that you enjoy abusing. BDSM should never be used as an excuse to abuse. The title Master comes with responsibility...to yourself and your submissive/slave. You may be able to find someone who is interested in the things you list, but with responsibility comes consequences. Be prepared for the consequences that come with the decisions you make.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 6/19/2006 1:25:39 AM

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I totally agree with wipmebeetme100, I mean there is no one definition of what is or isnt. I think however I would be weary of public humiliation, unless it was in public but maybe not seen by many in a hidden corner...but its dangerous as you might end up arrested I would guess. I say keep looking and good luck...hmm villa in Spain? interesting...I love costa del sol, and will be in Marbella myself visiting with family...

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 6/19/2006 3:22:46 AM

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5. I also like the dea of making her cry, from verbal and/or physical abuse - and making her beg for mercy - kissing my feet to apologise

I can't say that this one didn't give Me pause. I'm not going to disrespect the lifestyle choices of others, but I am going to say that this is indeed a fine line to walk. Venturing into psychological warfare to break down the self is best explored within a relationship grounded in trust, empathy and responsibility. You are responsible, as her dominant, for her mental, emotional and physical well-being. By taking this to a different realm - one you readily call abuse, here - I do not see how you demonstrate a concern for any of the three. Quite honestly, I would be concerned that with an emotionally vulnerable slave or one with existing co-dependent tendencies, you would do damage far deeper than what you presume. Regardless of how strict the M/s dynamic may be, it remains that your slave is ALWAYS another human being. If you willingly set out to destroy her thoughts and feelings for the pure pleasure of doing so, IMO, you should be aware that you wear another name tag: abuser.

Apologies if that sounds harsh or judgemental, but I have dealt with too many abused, broken, and abandoned to have respect for someone seeking to do this with no thought to the emotional and mental consequences suffered by their plaything.

JMO.

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RE: What can I expect a female slave to do for me? - 6/19/2006 4:03:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: rayjmaster

Thanks for your input guys - I suppose I'm really looking bfor a 24/7 maid that I can have perverted sex with when I like and who's into torture and humiliation. I'm sure there must be someone out there who's interested. As to what they get out of it...I'm actually quite a nice and amusing guy - when I'm not thinking about deviant sex I would enjoy the company of an intelligent and imaginative woman. I've got a great place over here in the UK, swimming pool tennis court, villa in Spain - all of that shit - so we could have a great time together if I found the right one!

From his profile...

quote:

I am an English millionaire living in Herts looking for slave wife or daughter to spoil and to abuse and humiliate as I see fit

I don't think he wants a relationship. I think he wants someone to do his shit work and take shit without any connection or responsibility. I think he believes his "millionaire" status somehow has an effect on this.

I also don't think he's done much research, I think he's read a little about it somewhere and decided that's what he wants.

All I can say is, you owe it to yourself, ray, to educate yourself. Get out and get involved in your local group. You must crawl before you walk.

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