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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 4:11:07 AM   
rubberpet


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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: Politesub53
Hi Ma`am How about a subtle hint ?  If he is submissive he will respond ( trust me lol ) If he isnt he may not get it. The trick is being subtle enough not to be blatant, but i will leave that to You ( since i dont have a clue )


The only thing, Politesub; is that you also have guys like me.  i generally can't catch a hint if i'm beat upside the head with it.  You know what an effective hint is to guys like me?

"ME WANT HURT YOU!!!"

As a matter of fact, some men really are that dense.  i prefer to call it naive or innocent (now stop laughing), but i know the truth.



Darch, you are very right.  I'm the same way...dense as a lead pipe!  Flirting is cool, but if a domme wants me for whatever reason, please no cat-and-mouse game.  Just tell me that you want me and you want to do dirty, naughty, evil things to me that will make me shriek like a 12-year-old girl on helium who just saw Hannah Montana singing a concert in her backyard!  Or that you want to do things to me that will make me swallow my tongue and lose my ability for a coherant thought!
 
Subtle...nah!  This subby loves an aggressive, take-charge domme...and this subby can't wait for that aggressive, take-charge domme to take him when She arrives July 7th (our one-year anniversary)!!!

***darch...naive and innocent???!!!  that's rich!!!  next thing you know, i'll be saying i'm six-foot-five!!!*** 

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 4:53:59 AM   
DominantJenny


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ORIGINAL: Aimtoplease101
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*gives you award for best sig line* I love that one!

Also, excellent advice. (Although I agree with later comments that some guys are far too dense to pick up on it!)

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 5:26:38 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		MsStarlett your shy. Who knew. Quit acting subbie. Be your Domme self. Ask the guy for a date.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 6:32:25 AM   
MsStarlett


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Status: offline 		*giggle*  The thing that's been holding me back is the fact that everyone there knows that I'm married.  I don't mind people knowing that I'm a little kinky... I just hate that old "Cheating SLUT" label that vanillas tag on those of us who know how to separate our kinks from sex.

I think I'll just put an extra flogger & chains in the trunk with my police gear & deer spine.  That way, the next time I see him hanging upside down... I'll just wander over and ask him "Would you mind staying right there while I fetch my flogger?"  If I get the wrong reaction, I'll just give him an evil giggle and walk away.  If I get the CORRECT response, I want to be prepared!


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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 9:22:47 AM   
HarryVanWinkle


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Status: offline 		Look for the guy with the choke chain locked around his neck.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 9:31:45 AM   
BLKMADONA


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Status: offline 		When a guy has to talk to u, but he wont look u in the eye(excluding being blind and Im serious folks) and he keeps adverting(I think this the way u spell it-My mind is on emergency power yall-night shift ya know!) his stare to ur shoes or below ur breasts(if hes looking at ur breasts-hes just admiring them-not totally a submissive) then he is a submissive.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 9:51:16 AM   
Domin8tingUrDrmz


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Status: offline 		Averting the eyes doesn't necessarily mean a thing.  Some people are simply socially awkward, some are too shy to look into one's eyes.  Shyness doesn't necessarily equate to submissive.

MsStarlett, I think having your flogger handy is a great idea

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 2:57:41 PM   
darchChylde


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ORIGINAL: rubberpet


***darch...naive and innocent???!!!  that's rich!!!  next thing you know, i'll be saying i'm six-foot-five!!!*** 


Damn, rubber; you're looking freaking tall.  But seriously, ask anyone who knows me personally.  i may not be able to lay claim to the adjective "innocent", but "naive" certainly fits me like a glove.  Besides i'm the good one!!!


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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/20/2008 3:44:54 PM   
Steponme73


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Status: offline 		You might not be able to spot a submissive, but you might catch a foot fetish guy while trolling...an more than likely he will be a sub. Just watch his eyes as you wiggle your foot, dangle your shoe, etc...

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 2:24:13 AM   
MaamJay


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ORIGINAL: GimpinDenial

Seriously, ask him out, then take him to a BDSM themed club or event....who knows....
take a shot


A few practical problems there ...
1. This is a small country town ... so nothing stays under wraps for long!
2. This is a small country town ... so there aren't any BDSM clubs or events (other than the recent night ourselves and the only other D/s couple We've met here had a mini play party at Our house!)
3. He knows Me as part of a couple with Master ... he's already had a severe shock when My Birthday came up and he nows I am 52 and Master isn't quite 37 yet LOL ... I think the thought of getting into something with Me with My 6'4" built-like-a-brick-shithouse Master is around would be a tad off-putting to him LOL
4. Since I mostly visit the shop with Master I probably present as a peculiar mixture of Domme and sub as I tend to be Domme when talking with others but more subbie and acquiescent with Master. So he's probably not sussed the situation here.

However, it really didn't quell My fantasies when the whole age thing came up and I found out he likes older women ... apparently in his late teens he had a lover not much younger than Me! And his partner was 8 years older. Now he's late 20s ... hmmm would that be too much of a cradle snatch?

I'll just have to work on My hints ... mindful of boys like darch and rubberpet for whom hints are a lost cause LOL!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 3:22:46 AM   
iwearpanties


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Status: offline 		so dose seeing the bois panty line count as spooting him in public?

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 8:44:23 AM   
jonathan


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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Do you ever see those guys in your life that you just wish you could beat them?

*sigh* There is this Smok'n Hot guy at my gym. I know he's a UPS driver, but that's about all. He's a touch on the short side, but I don't care. He's got a bod like a Roman Statue. Dark brown tan. Pale grey eyes. (I prefer blue, but who cares? Pale is good.) Dark hair with a nice salting of grey. I could live without the tattooes... but it just makes him look a little wild and untamed.

A couple of weeks ago, he was hanging from GravBoots right in front of my 45 degree leg press. All his clothes were practically falling off that lovely slab of meat and all I could think of was "I'd love to flog the hide off that!"

Today, he was upside down again. THIS time his heavy silver chain necklace was exposed. Looked just like the choke chains I use for training collars. I have an undeignable earge to hand him one.

Sure wish there was a sure fire way to 'spot a sub' in public.


How do You know You haven't spotted one, Ma'am? Asked him out for a latte yet? You might be surprised. Take the chance, i do every time it's presented. Doesn't always work, but if ya don't take the risks, ya don't get the rewards. Sounds like You ought to take the risk. Give him the chance to show that he is a gentleman and take it from there.

Be well, good luck.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 9:52:14 AM   
darchChylde


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Status: offline 		Wouldn't cupping be the perfect method of "spotting" a submissive?

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 12:06:31 PM   
MistressSybella


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ORIGINAL: Madame4a

Hanky codes have a long homo tradition and have served the gay community for a really long time.. they're not that hard to remember... but personally, I hate having more than one in my pocket...


Just make sure you get the hanky on the correct arm! LOL!

My mind ran with this and I had a vision of a Domme wearing a hanky on the "submissive" side. Then she's confused and frustrated beyond belief when all these people try to hit on her by assuming she likes being bossed around! LOL!

There was this "boy" that worked at a supermarket near where I used to live. He was a bagboy and such a puppy. If he wasn't too young for me, I would have picked him up because he had "true slave" written across his forehead. He was adorable! And I found myself saying to myself, "I hope he doesn't end up with a bitch that ruins him." Young men are so vulnerable when their submissiveness is first exploited.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 12:21:04 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		I had 25  cupping marks on my back  then we all went to the lake . It was an umm interesting day . Some even knew what the marks were .I did answer the dumb  ass hats when questioned rudely about the mark , I said " I am NOT going back  near those  deep dam waters  points to back see  the giant squid marks?!?! i got attacked over there !! dangerous waters over there ... "

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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

Wouldn't cupping be the perfect method of "spotting" a submissive?

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 2:41:56 PM   
ThundersCry


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Status: offline 		Oh hell yes...
 
There are a few in the church I attend =L=
 
To bad they are married...
 
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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/21/2008 5:11:47 PM   
unforegvn


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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Just got in from setting up some props for another movie promotion.  The manager gave me a free movie shirt.  Black with just the word "WANTED" printed on the front.  Can't wait to wear it to the gym.  Maybe I'll get some comments from 'my boys' over there.  There are several who are very friendly, some quite flirtatious... but Mr. Smok'n Hot is polite and generally only talks to me about gym related issues.  


Ask Mr. Smok'n Hot OUT... Seduce him; have your way with him and turn him into what you want...  He will thank you trust me.

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/24/2008 1:39:04 AM   
at612


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ORIGINAL: MsStarlett

Do you ever see those guys in your life that you just wish you could beat them?

*sigh*  There is this Smok'n Hot guy at my gym.  I know he's a UPS driver, but that's about all.  He's a touch on the short side, but I don't care.  He's got a bod like a Roman Statue.  Dark brown tan.  Pale grey eyes.  (I prefer blue, but who cares? Pale is good.)  Dark hair with a nice salting of grey.  I could live without the tattooes... but it just makes him look a little wild and untamed. 

A couple of weeks ago, he was hanging from GravBoots right in front of my 45 degree leg press.  All his clothes were practically falling off that lovely slab of meat and all I could think of was "I'd love to flog the hide off that!"

Today, he was upside down again.  THIS time his heavy silver chain necklace was exposed.  Looked just like the choke chains I use for training collars.  I have an undeignable earge to hand him one.

Sure wish there was a sure fire way to 'spot a sub' in public.


More out of curiosity then anything, may I ask whatever [if anything?] - became of this?


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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/24/2008 1:58:25 AM   
Untouched1282


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Status: offline 		Bravo! I love the model shows :) I wish I was pretty *GIGGLES*

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RE: Spotting a submissive - 6/24/2008 6:25:35 PM   
DragonLady5


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ORIGINAL: darchChylde

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

Even if he isn't submissive you can turn him into one.  Seduction!

Akasha




If that doesn't work, there's always kidnapping and brainwashing.

Now you're talking MY language!

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