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MstrssPassion -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 7:41:25 AM)
I concur with what many have said... it really depends on the situation. In my current relationship we spoke via online or phone for about 6-7 months prior to our first meeting. I have some people I have spoken to for as much as 10 yrs & we have yet to meet. I even met one man after a couple of hours for a blind date on New Year's Eve.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 9:07:55 AM)
I am all for meeting quickly----but distance can be an issue. Sometimes I have gone a year before actually meeting a long distance person f2f. I do go pretty quickly to the phone, though, if I feel that there is a connection. Ms F

Misstoyou -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 9:39:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Faramir One to two weeks. Ditto, when I was searching. And for me, personally, the phone is just something I use to confirm I'm going to be there. lol

KittenWithaTwist -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 9:48:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LordGntlFntsy I have met one person from this site after talking with them through the website and through a chat service online for about 2 weeks. We met strictly under vanilla conditions and had safecalls in place for both of Us. The safecalls make a huge difference in the safety feeling when meeting someone for the first time. I'm not sure why you replied to me with your comment, but I will take the opportunity to say that I've only done one "safe call" and it was when I went into a bathroom to call a friend and ask if he thought it was okay to ditch a guy that I thought was too needy and terribly unattractive. He said it was okay so I left. The end. I've done the crazy meeting already. There are few things less dangerous than what I've already done.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 10:16:25 AM)
Just as an FYI for Ms Kitten and others----there is an aspect of this software that makes every post a "reply to" if not to someone specific, then to the person who posted last. It does NOT mean that someone is necessarily talking to YOU or responding directly to your words. F

JohnWarren -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 10:36:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Just as an FYI for Ms Kitten and others----there is an aspect of this software that makes every post a "reply to" if not to someone specific, then to the person who posted last. It does NOT mean that someone is necessarily talking to YOU or responding directly to your words. F When someone wishes to reply to the OP rather than the last post he or she read, that person can scroll down, double click on the OP's post (it may mean going back a few pages) and then reply in a clearer context. It's strikes me as the courteous way to do it particularly if the new poster is making was could be considered a pointed comment or is using the second person singular. Convenience should not be allowed to trump either clarity or courtesy

Kasia -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/5/2005 1:13:16 PM)
I usually quote if i want to reply to someone particular, or state that my post is not reply to anyone, or I take the trouble and hit that small reply button by the OP nickname. I dont think its good manners on boards like these to come in the thread after third page or so, read couple of posts and then just hit reply without caring to whom it was.

slaveerik64 -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 1:20:32 AM)
Met my Mistress yesterday for the first time real life. This was exactly two months after my first email to Her. And yes there was a click and yes i am Her slave now and W/we are both quite happy with this situation. Erik

imtempting -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 2:40:28 AM)
It depends on the situation and the person.

orfunboi -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 4:48:56 AM)
i am not positive, but i think it was about a week. i had seen her profile and it interested me, so i followed her into a chatroom on AOL...started a conversation and met her for dinner about a week later.

Wildfleurs -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 5:33:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chicagoleo who you first 'met' online, either through this site or another: approximately how long did you, or do you, wait from the point of meeting online to meeting in person? When I was unowned I had a rule that if they weren't willing to meet within a month (give or take a few days) then they were probably never going to be ready to meet.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 6:14:58 AM)
quote: When I was unowned I had a rule that if they weren't willing to meet within a month (give or take a few days) then they were probably never going to be ready to meet. I like this, and feel the same way, but I'm curious if the person who owns you now did meet you within a month as you expected? To Chicagoleo, you will notice responses cover the entire spectrum of days-weeks-years-never. For me, if it takes a long time to meet, I consider it not-sufficient-interest, and therefore doomed, because I don't do "just okay" or lukewarm beginnings... I figure with life and everyday troubles, people lose enthusiasm over time anyway, so to start with little definitely is a bad sign of things to come. You should simply be open and willing to go with the flow (if hours before meeting feels safe/kool do it, if months are what you need, than go with that). This is one that will have more to do with the comfort and chemistry of the two people involved, than any standard reply you might get here. M

MistressJenna -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 3:06:50 PM)
Everyone is different so it's hard to say when. Once you both feel comfortable to do it than that's when you should meet.

substantialsub4u -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 9:34:37 PM)
Master and i met less than a week after our first email exchange here, which was almost five months ago. I'll have been proudly wearing His collar one month tomorrow.

bladerunner5 -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 10:36:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chicagoleo who you first 'met' online, either through this site or another: approximately how long did you, or do you, wait from the point of meeting online to meeting in person? I tend to want to meet people in public places first. A few weeks after I got started on collarme, I got to talking with a half-dozen local folks, and we talked about meeting up in person. A few weeks after that was a public event where I knew I'd be all day and could use some company, so I suggested to each of them that we meet up there. If it turned out we got on well, there was plenty of opportunity to talk. If we didn't so much, there was plenty else to do and plenty of face-saving reasons to move on. It worked out rather well, actually. Anywhere from days to weeks, for locals. I'd consider meeting people from farther away, but it's harder to work out the details. Bladerunner

jro2020 -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/6/2005 11:54:54 PM)
I've never met anyone from this site IRL. One sub says she wants to but seems to be jerking me around. However, it was about 2 months before I first tried to meet the woman who is now my wife after we met on sparkmatch. Of course we failed to find each other at the busy place we tried to meet at, though we did see each other (just couldn't get thorugh the crowds and stuff)

Morgaine289 -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/7/2005 9:37:13 AM)
We meet in June 2000 in a SM chatroom. The next evening we switched to the phone. The first time we saw each other was after more than seven months in February 2001. After three more meetings (all in all 12 days) we moved in together on the 4.8.2001. Two years later we married. We had personal reasons for waiting so long. From our first night on the phone, we stayed in close contact via phone, icq, email and chat. Although we both had to change a lot in our perspective lives it was and is the right decision.

Evanesce -> RE: for those of you who have met people who (11/7/2005 7:35:22 PM)
quote: who you first 'met' online, either through this site or another: approximately how long did you, or do you, wait from the point of meeting online to meeting in person? I've met a LOT of people from online in real life. How long it takes to get to the face-to-face is dependent upon distance and comfort level. With some, it took months. With others, maybe only a week. With Master, He had my phone number an hour into our first conversation and, because He lived 3 hours away, our face-to-face was about a month later. I will admit not all of my first meetings were "safe" meetings, by "community standards," but I knew I was safe with them.

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