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TysGalilah -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 7:19:25 AM)

Hi Stella
 
  My sexual attraction primarily seems to be to males.  I love being intimate with females, yet it feels like a different kind of sensuality than what I feel with men.
  My submission seems only reactive to a dominant man. 
And, I tend to be the dominant one in my relationships with women.  (Granted I have not been in a situation of submitting to a dominant female and so do not know if I would or could not submit.............probably need to find that out LOL )



Wildfleurs -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 9:04:31 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: stella41b

So if you're bi or bi curious, irrespective of whether you're male or female, do you have a preferred gender or will only submit to one gender? Why? I'm also curious from the Dominant perspective too.


I'm bisexual but I strongly prefer men. I can and have gone a few years at a stretch without being with women, but I can't imagine doing the same with men. And while I enjoy women sexually I can't quite picture having a serious relationship with one.

However I don't mind bottoming to women although in terms of dominance and submission for the most part my interactions have been fairly power neutral - I can't quite picture myself submitting to a woman.

C~



persephonee -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 9:28:17 AM)

i can bottom to anyone but i feel at this time that i can only be truly dominated by a man.
This theory of mine, along with my insistance on bisexuality as opposed to lesbianism lost me my dyke membership and more than a few friends. Apparently there was little room in my circle of lesbian friends (formed over the course of 15 yrs) to allow for sexual growth or change. (humorless and rigid they were....long gone and not missed now).
So i can bottom to and sub alongside a woman...and love doing both. But if the day ever came to really submit 24/7, my thinking is that it would be with a man.
i really hope that this way of thinking is not the first step toward Rightwing thinking....cuz id hate to lose my ACLU card along with my Lesbian card. im hoping my need to be beaten overrides any threat of traditionalism....altho i always had a thing for the way June Cleaver looked, acted and dressed....shhhh dont tell.



daddysliloneds -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 9:56:18 AM)

i am not bi or bi-curious and i could easily submit to any gender.  submission, for me, has absolutely nothing to do with the physical gender of a person and everything to do with how they make me feel mentally.



slaveluci -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 10:01:30 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stella41b
So if you're bi or bi curious, irrespective of whether you're male or female, do you have a preferred gender or will only submit to one gender? Why? I'm also curious from the Dominant perspective too.

I am female and am bisexual.  I would say I'm equally as attracted to women as men if not slightly more so in most instances.  I can only imagine ever submitting to males.  I see no woman as someone I would submit to for various reasons.  Being with another woman for me is an egalitarian thing.  No one is dominant.  With men, however, they must be dominant.  I am now only with Master but in years past all men I've been involved with have been dominant. 

Whatever floats ones boat is great.  For me, however, the idea of another female attempting to take control of me is just laughable and totally not hot.  I really don't enjoy seeing dominant females in porn, either, whether they're dominating men or women.  It just doesn't ring true for me.  Shoot me but I'm being honest as to what appeals to ME.................luci



hejira92 -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 1:36:55 PM)

I have always been bisexual, although I have fallen in love more often with men. In terms of BDSM, as someone said earlier, I feel I could be topped by either sex, but only owned/Dominated by a man. And, like Luci said, female domme porn does nothing for me- whether topping men or women.
 
I actually feel more dominant with women- I want to be the one doing things to her. Not domme-ing, per se (I have no sadism in me- I think [:D]), but controlling, sensual and teasing.



BeingChewsie -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 2:09:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: stella41b


So if you're bi or bi curious, irrespective of whether you're male or female, do you have a preferred gender or will only submit to one gender? Why? I'm also curious from the Dominant perspective too.


I'm a female who identifies as bisexual but lesbian is far closer to my true identity. I need/want to be owned/managed so I belong to a man because I don't ever feel submissive towards females, no matter how dominant they believe they are or others perceive them to be. I do feel very submissive to very powerful men. So that is why I submit to men and not women even though I strongly prefer a woman sexually over a man.



tigerseye -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 2:38:29 PM)

i've only recently began exploring and accepting the bi-side of me (growing up being anything other than straight was a sin against nature *rolls eyes*).  but i can find that i can only be in a relationship with men.  i am very picky about the girl that i'm with, even just friendships.  90% of my friends are guys, and most girls i just can't get along with.  but the few girls that i have become close to, i'll cuddle with and snuggle up to, but i honestly couldn't see myself in a relationship with one....i love guys just too much....as difficult as they like to be ^_~



persephonee -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/22/2008 2:57:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveluci

quote:

ORIGINAL: stella41b
So if you're bi or bi curious, irrespective of whether you're male or female, do you have a preferred gender or will only submit to one gender? Why? I'm also curious from the Dominant perspective too.

I am female and am bisexual.  I would say I'm equally as attracted to women as men if not slightly more so in most instances.  I can only imagine ever submitting to males.  I see no woman as someone I would submit to for various reasons.  Being with another woman for me is an egalitarian thing.  No one is dominant.  With men, however, they must be dominant.  I am now only with Master but in years past all men I've been involved with have been dominant. 

Whatever floats ones boat is great.  For me, however, the idea of another female attempting to take control of me is just laughable and totally not hot.  I really don't enjoy seeing dominant females in porn, either, whether they're dominating men or women.  It just doesn't ring true for me.  Shoot me but I'm being honest as to what appeals to ME.................luci


THATS IT....THATS IT!!!!! sorry.....i got all excited there for a minute...thats exactly how i feel....whew....



OmegaG -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 5:34:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hejira92

I have always been bisexual, although I have fallen in love more often with men. In terms of BDSM, as someone said earlier, I feel I could be topped by either sex, but only owned/Dominated by a man. And, like Luci said, female domme porn does nothing for me- whether topping men or women.
 
I actually feel more dominant with women- I want to be the one doing things to her. Not domme-ing, per se (I have no sadism in me- I think [:D]), but controlling, sensual and teasing.


That is me to a T. 



epiphany -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 6:47:31 AM)

I am bi-sexual with a stronger preference for men sexually.

I break neutral or Dominant with most men and women, but am completely submissive with my owner who is male.

I am both a maso and a sadist, but top more than I bottom. I am comfortable topping almost anyone of either gender if the energy is good, but there are only a handful I will bottom to ( either gender, thats not the issue)

Submission  is something I have felt with only a few, all of them men...total surrender I have felt only this once.

There is one woman that I will get on my knees to and am comfortable serving. It is a long standing friendship and I have enormous respect for her as a person, dominant, and woman...she is just  an amazing Lady!

Damn, that all sounds crazy written out like that, but there ya go

epiphany



metalmiss -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 7:26:46 AM)

i am 100% bisexual when it comes to my sexuality.. But i only "submit" to males.
When i say submit, i mean give my submission completely. i have bottomed for Dominant Women many times, and i have throughly enjoyed it. Often much more so than most of my experiences with their male counterparts..
But i have only ever found the chemistry for a dynamic on any level with a male.. Though i don't discount it ever happening with a woman.. There's time yet.



Bloodrose88 -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 8:35:48 AM)

This is where I am rather different than many of the lovely ladies that have so far posted on here.  While I do love some men, I do not have submissive feelings towards them.  I can date them, love them, and enjoy sex with them, but they do not inspire submissive feelings in me at all.  Women on the other hand...even in "vanilla" relationships, I find myself falling into the submissive role.  In a D/s relationship, this feeling is heightened, and I submit easily and completely.
Just me two cents.



littleone35 -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 8:45:47 AM)

I am not bi or bi curious  i have always and wiillalways like men.  Women do nothing either mentally or physically for me.  I have very good frendiships with woman but freindship is as far as it goes.  I submit to only men, and now only to one man my wonderful Master.

Now i am not knocking anyone if they lean another way.  I say if you get what you want out of the relationship  more power to you.

Matt's littleone



tsatske -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 9:05:23 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl
yet i get lots of emails from couples and sub men...amazing isnt it?


Yea, whatevah, have you looked at your picture lately?

I am very, very bi. what that means, for translaiton, is, - at the point where i met Master, i was really having to ask myself if i were really bi at all or not. I was thinking, maybe i am more of a Lesbian who happens to prefer to bottom to men.

because, really, when it comes to looking, ect - women do it for me, a lot more than men. I would have no problem being in a relationship with an impotent man, and not seeking outside male playmates. Most of my partners for the last ten years happen to be impotent and i really just couldn't care less.

yea, Master pretty much changed that tune. but i still have about zero interest in other men, besides Master. If i play with another man, it is because it is socially a good thing to do, or because Master wants me to - i don't mind, i just couldn't care less. Though i strongly prefer not to have sex with other men (beyond giving an occasional blowjob), and have recieved Masers permission that i do not have to orgasm with any men other than Him (which I do on His command only, anyway), and that some of my 'alternates' - my 'older littles', if that makes sense - do not have to ever play with other men.

OTOH, i have very little to no interest in bottoming to women. And zero interest in topping anyone past puberty. (I can say 'clean your room' and 'eat your vegitables' in a variety of languages, however.) My interest in women is strictly sisterly. I am not adverse to dating women in a vanilla way, either. But no desire for power exchange to exist between me and a woman.



PonyGirlMagic -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 9:46:04 AM)

I mainly identify as a bi-switch in the ageplay subculture. This is because of my general preference is for Daddy types and Little Girls. I am not really into doms or dominas though. I am not a heavy bottom or service orriented submissive. I respond to nurturing discipline and fun and games more than dominance or sadism. Outside of ageplay, I am enjoy bdsm as a top/domina into femme subs.

In the bdsm lifestyle, I am into female subs (bois and girls). I am not drawn to vanilla girls at all. I wouldn't seek a girl friend or lover. So, I use the word "leather-dyke". . I am more into bdsm than sex. Sexually, I am mainly into guys, but I am not really into male doms or male subs. I don't really seek out male partners very often. Some people would argue that I am strait because I don't have "sex" with women. But I do engage in my definition of lesbian "bdsm" sex with women and primarily seek relationships with women.. So I don't care.



Daes -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/23/2008 2:18:25 PM)

I love men, and i can only submit to a woman if she a dominant mommy type. Bitchy/snappy dommes dont go well with me.



MasoLilith -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/24/2008 4:45:06 PM)

i find it rather amusing, i submit to my Male Master, yet when it comes to anther women...i tend to be more domniate.  I am a 24/7 slave, and looking for a sister slave...that i will look on as equal...but if she tries to Dominate in any form then i get a ....not really a dom. streak...but a "blunt back-off or i'll stomp your face" kinda mode.....yet .i am bi, and i am attracted to women as well as...so go figure that one out. lol



Skully7000 -> RE: Bisexual, but only submissive to one gender? (6/24/2008 8:51:00 PM)

1) Sexually: mostly straight...if I'm attracted to a guy then I have no problem hooking up(even dated a few times) but males that i'm sexually attracted to are VERY few and far between.

2)Play: I am fully gender neutral. I will Dom based purely on the chemistry I have between me and that person. with that said... my styles of Domination are Generally very different between the two sexes. if its a female: i'm more daddy dom...not any less sadistic but definitly more daddy tendencies... if its a male...I'm much more traditional in my domination.

but as always those are generalities...everything is subject to the individual chemistry between me and the person(s) i'm playing with.

Cheers
Skully



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