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DaddyMastersgirl -> Tell me about... (6/21/2008 8:55:17 PM)
Going from masterbating about your kinks to making them come true. How and what did you do?

SweetNika -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 9:03:43 PM)
Take it slow, be patience, be honest with yourself and those you encounter. Make a list of things that you enjoy but realize that not everything that seems fun will be fun. You may find that you do enjoy somethings while others you simply hate. Blessed be, Nika

d1ll1gaf -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 9:03:53 PM)
Simple. Learned to be open about my desires in relationships.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 9:05:35 PM)
I have never seen a reason not to enjoy my kinks. I have been pursuing them in my relationships since I started having relationships... So, essentally I got to age of consent. DV

NeedingMore220 -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 10:06:29 PM)
I did a lot of reading. I probably started out at literotica.com, which is a site for erotic stories. It's a alot of fantasy, but it was a place to start, when I realized that there were others that felt like me. lol I started searching google for terms like 'bdsm' and reading blogs and articles, etc. I started questioning myself, feeling myself out to see where I fit in, what felt right to me and what it is that I wanted. That process took probably a year. Then I found CM and started reading forums, got a profile, and went from there ... Your profile indicates you are looking to move slowly, and I think that's a good idea. Best of luck to you!

came4U -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 10:09:46 PM)
quote: Going from masterbating about your kinks to making them come true. How and what did you do? I insisted I capture the man I thought had the power to make me feel weak and tingly. So I did.

azropedntied -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 10:20:13 PM)
and whats wrong with masturbating ? Heck i just live , find others with common interests ,go to gatherings and events and jump in the kinky jello filled pool .

Leatherist -> RE: Tell me about... (6/21/2008 10:28:54 PM)
Found someone and gave them what they wanted. Funny how that works.

peppermint -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 12:13:49 AM)
To going from masturbating to making my fantasies come true, i went to munch, events, and found a partner.

shivermetimbers -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 12:29:00 AM)
I met someone (not a domme, sub, anyone into BDSM) who had a very particular fantasy she wanted fulfilled. It went way further than intended. But some of what did happen were masturbatory fantasies that came to real life, though I can honestly say, without having my specific consent of some of the activities that occured. Though that may sound abusive, not giving consent, and actually saying "no" at some points but being forced to go through with them, were more in line with my mind melding with my dick stroking late at night. So some of those fantasies were made real, and they were much better real. It was the night that brought me into this realm, if you will. So basically, how I did it was start out fulfilling someone elses fantasies, and what I did was learn to enjoy the fact that fantasies that were unintended to be fulfilled, were better, because they turned out to be ones I had.

VioletAshes -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 12:56:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NeedingMore220 I did a lot of reading. I probably started out at literotica.com, which is a site for erotic stories. It's a alot of fantasy, but it was a place to start, when I realized that there were others that felt like me. lol I started searching google for terms like 'bdsm' and reading blogs and articles, etc. I started questioning myself, feeling myself out to see where I fit in, what felt right to me and what it is that I wanted. That process took probably a year. Then I found CM and started reading forums, got a profile, and went from there ... Your profile indicates you are looking to move slowly, and I think that's a good idea. Best of luck to you! Same here...

summersprite -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 1:05:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NeedingMore220 I did a lot of reading. I probably started out at literotica.com, which is a site for erotic stories. It's a alot of fantasy, but it was a place to start, when I realized that there were others that felt like me. lol I started searching google for terms like 'bdsm' and reading blogs and articles, etc. I started questioning myself, feeling myself out to see where I fit in, what felt right to me and what it is that I wanted. That process took probably a year. Then I found CM and started reading forums, got a profile, and went from there ... Your profile indicates you are looking to move slowly, and I think that's a good idea. Best of luck to you! I read literotica too ;-) I realised long ago when my friends were fantasising about sex on a lovely tropical beach with Brad Pitt.... and I was thinking about being gagged, spanked and fucked quite brutally up the arse.... that my fantasies were not the same as theirs. When I saw a very interesting profile on a vanilla dating site that was 'oh so not vanilla' I saved it for 4 months before I got the courage up to approach him.... the rest is documented in my journal. I had no idea I could ever find someone this wonderful....

Deliena -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 2:13:30 AM)
I was dancing at a goth club in Leeds and a guy came over to talk to me, took me back to his place and beat the living daylights out of me. I loved every second. He apparently spotted in me something I'd fantasised about but never been able to ask for or knew where to look for. He introduced me to the local scene and I never looked back.

TMIk -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 3:37:06 AM)
Met the right guy. We're very open with each other. Honesty is very important.. Kristi

DominantJenny -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 6:02:39 AM)
FR Exit to Eden gave me a hint. When I got on the internet, that was the first thing I started looking for...people who were like me (or, rather, the counterpart to me) this way. I found websites and a chat room. Then I brought the subject up to my spouse of about a year and he agreed to explore and we were off and running...plenty of stumbles and such along the way, mind you, but it's some 12 years later and going strong.

bipolarber -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 6:12:09 AM)
Well, here's an "old school" technique: I answered an ad in a contact paper. (There were like CM, except they aren't on the internet... they were actually printed, like a regular newspaper.) The Domme I was interested in and I wrote letters back and forth, and then a phone call, and finally we met for lunch, and then she took me back to her house and worked me over to within an inch of my life. (Yay!)

Lordandmaster -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 6:14:13 AM)
One of the great revelations of my life was discovering that women love sex as much as men do. From that day onwards, making my kinks come true was just a matter of going out and making it happen. quote: ORIGINAL: DaddyMastersgirl Going from masterbating about your kinks to making them come true. How and what did you do?

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 6:20:46 AM)
To brutally honest, everything naturally started to fall into place. I had things that I was masterbating about to death. Then amazing thing is when find you and another person has similar interests in things. Just taking things at a natural pace, talking about a lot of things and doing them talking afterwards. I've done a lot of things, and there are things I still want to do. Yes, I still have unfillfulled masterbation kinks. I still masterbate over some things I enjoy and have done as well. I've had a few people encourage me to simply find a play partner to try a few of my unfillfulled kinks out with. I've been debating about that, since I don't know how honestly they are going to sit with me after doing them. If I Love them just as much as I love thinking about them and masterbating myself senseless over, OK.. new thing to add my Enjoys List. Takes time to fully explore your kinks, at times new kinks result from trying things. Limits tend to naturally get worked past. Some limits remain the same regardless. If anything else, if you have a kink that you are not certain about doing, and you have partner that feels the same way. It's nice to talk nasty about doing that kink while in the middle of playing. Basically some kinks, it's just a matter of mentally sharing them with another person, both getting turned on to no end. Call it two people fucking while sharing the same fantasy verbally with one another. Always Hot to do! Find a partner with similar interest and mindset. I will stress this time and time again, find somebody you get a long with, somebody with mutual interests. At least somebody who will take into account your interests as well as their own. Don't be a sucker for anybody's one wayesm. If they are telling you, you are not a true or real submissive. Fuck it, move onto some other guy. Keep looking. Submission is something pretty natural, not something taken by force nor can one simply mindless demand it. Get to know the person you are dealing with. Allow them to get to know you. If they don't seem like they care anything about you or don't want to let you get to know them. Fuck it, move onto somebody else. You want your experiences to be somewhat sane, nice and rememberable. You also are going to be faced with perhaps mental and emotions issue when actually Living out your Kinky Fantasies for the first time. Best thing to avoid Heartless Bastards that could give a shit less about you, unless that's all part of your kink.

kiwisub12 -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 6:58:55 AM)
I always thought my fantasys were just that - fantasys - until one day, i put a profile on a vanilla site, and the reply asked me how i would feel about ........ I didn't realise that people really did these things - and enjoyed them. I went on the internet , found collarme, put up a profile and met with the first dom that suggested it, and i haven't left him . Its been 2 1/2 years and i love it. I have found out so much about my self - i am a very sexual being in bdsm, whereas in my other life i always thought i was not high on the sexual scale. Not frigid but not a nympho either. I am not a competative person, and i find in bdsm a way to have a relationship where i am not being taken advantage of - and if you think that sounds strange you are right, but in a formal master/slave relationship there is a structure that ensures fairness in all things, because the important things are discussed before hand. i realise that finding the right person is paramount, and the search may be arduous, but what fun in the search! [:D]

charlie63 -> RE: Tell me about... (6/22/2008 1:57:23 PM)
Started surfing the Internet and reading everything I could find. Started writing about my thoughts in a journal, just to clarify for myself what I thought I wanted. Found CM, read the boards for awhile, then posted that I was looking for a Dom. Explored some ideas with a couple of people via e-mail, then was lucky enough to catch His eye. He is so great at helping me explore, and it's been a wonderful experience so far. Good luck and have fun!

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