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weirdsub -> Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:47:19 PM)

I'm definitely not a bad girl, I never want to hurt anybody, I always help people out as far as I can. I'm very well educated.

But I always hurt the ppl who are in the relationship with me. I always cheat on my partners(no matter I love him or not), and I don't feel guilty at all. I tend to tell them the truth, but its because I think its fun to know the result, not bcos I feel guilty.





hlen5 -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:49:24 PM)

No such profile.



weirdsub -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:50:39 PM)

no profile doesnt mean im not real

having a profile doesnt mean she is all authentic



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:52:11 PM)

I dont cheat, so I wouldnt know. It is, however, the easiest way to make sure you are single again.
Why bother with a relatonship if you are just going to ruin it?



hopelessfool -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:52:54 PM)

I do not cheat. Ive never felt the need to cheat. Ive never cheated in any relationship. If my partner can not give me what I need, and I need it more then my affection for him. I find a partner who can give me what i need.



weirdsub -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:53:44 PM)

its all just a process. like life itself.

are you saying since we will die anyway, then we shouldnt be living now ?



celticlord2112 -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:56:42 PM)

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slaveluci -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 9:59:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hopelessfool
I do not cheat. Ive never felt the need to cheat. Ive never cheated in any relationship. If my partner can not give me what I need, and I need it more then my affection for him. I find a partner who can give me what i need.

I have cheated in various relationships.  Recently started a thread about it and, before it got totally derailed and off topic, was very interesting.  I am of the opinion that one doesn't necessarily find every single thing they need in one other partner.  One can care very much for someone and want to be with him/her but still need more.  Sometimes it takes more than one partner to get what one needs.  Just a thought.

There are tons and tons of those who would respond to that: "Yeah, it's ok to do what you need to but it has to be totally above-board and out in the open.  Deception is never right."  To them I say, "for you."  I'm glad you've always obviously found yourself in relationships so open and accepting that you can discuss fucking others over breakfast.  Until this one, I never had one of those.  Therefore, I did "cheat" and did get needs met from more than one partner at a time.  Somehow, I think there are many, many others who have and still do that and, as I've said time and time again, "cheating" is not always the horror it's made out to be.  There are many different circumstances and not all of them are "bad."

I know what you mean, OP, I cheated alot and never felt guilty.  It didn't mean that I didn't care deeply for my primary partner.  I wasn't fortunate enough back then to have an "open" relationship so, yeah, it wasn't above-board.  Doesn't make me the scum of the earth though................luci



came4U -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 10:15:10 PM)

If being unfaithful floats your boat, up to you.

But, there may come a day when your emotionless admittance of some 'cheating' occurance may cause some man to cause you physical distress.

aka, bitch slap you silly or even worse.



kinkypuppy2 -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 11:09:01 PM)

One of the biggest tenants in this lifestyle is TRUST.
Trust means if your going to fuck someone else do it in front of your partner



WyldHrt -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/21/2008 11:37:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: celticlord2112

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Agree, but with the caveat that there is a huge difference between "my partner tries to please me but I still go after strange behind his/her back" and "my partner cut me off physically/emotionally years ago, won't talk about it, and won't try to fix it.
Just sayin.



slaveluci -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/22/2008 9:50:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: came4U

If being unfaithful floats your boat, up to you.

But, there may come a day when your emotionless admittance of some 'cheating' occurance may cause some man to cause you physical distress.

aka, bitch slap you silly or even worse.

Yeah, and she'd sure deserve it too.  Everyone knows that "cheating" is waaaaayyy worse than "bitch slapping" someone or "even worse."  That's such twisted logic.  It's almost as if you're saying, "Keep it up until the day someone finally puts you in your place."  Yeah, "cheaters" deserve whatever they get, eh?[8|].............luci



christine1 -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/22/2008 10:07:06 AM)

you think it's fun to know the result of your cheating and that is the only reason you tell your partners about it?  i hope there aren't many people out in the world like you. [:'(]



ResidentSadist -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/22/2008 11:17:23 AM)

I’ve been poly and honest since I was 15… I am a lamer when it comes to cheating I guess. 



beargonewild -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/22/2008 1:27:42 PM)

It's almost impossible to feel guilty when both of us are open about playing with others on the side.



trappedinamuseum -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/22/2008 1:34:33 PM)

No, I don't cheat.  I also don't get into relationships because I would probably cheat on a partner whom I do not live with.

I don't think the question should be "if" I feel guilty, but why you feel like you should, and don't, and why you are pleased by hurting them.  To do that to another makes me wonder if you are as nice as you say.



came4U -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/22/2008 2:05:33 PM)

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Yeah, and she'd sure deserve it too.  Everyone knows that "cheating" is waaaaayyy worse than "bitch slapping" someone or "even worse."  That's such twisted logic.  It's almost as if you're saying, "Keep it up until the day someone finally puts you in your place."  Yeah, "cheaters" deserve whatever they get, eh?[8|].............luci


"it is like I am saying??" "cheaters deserve what they get??"

What do you not understand that puts you in charge of concluding that I think she deserves to be beaten?

I don't imply anything except she can carry on with her desire to fuck on the side all she wants...

There might be a day when someone doesn't tolerate it and she gets hurt.

Where do you see that I advocate this as a sport?

Save your eyeball rolling for something worthy, are you not able to take words and comprehend them or do you just see certain sentences and jumble some sort of insanity from them?



Manawyddan -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/28/2008 5:49:39 AM)

I cheated only once.

I don't feel all that guilty about it ... but I do feel ashamed of myself.



kiwisub12 -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/28/2008 6:05:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: weirdsub

I'm definitely not a bad girl, I never want to hurt anybody, I always help people out as far as I can. I'm very well educated.

But I always hurt the ppl who are in the relationship with me. I always cheat on my partners(no matter I love him or not), and I don't feel guilty at all. I tend to tell them the truth, but its because I think its fun to know the result, not bcos I feel guilty.






anyone that hurts deliberately the people that they love has issues way beyond ones that this board can offer advice on.   I feel sorry for you -you are deliberately sabotaging any chance you have of having a mutual and fufilling relationship.  Or for that matter - long term.
And you don't sound very submissive to me -  a submissive that deliberately causes pain to her dominant is not a submissive.



fluffyswitch -> RE: Do you really feel guilty when you cheat on your partner? (6/28/2008 8:04:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

quote:

ORIGINAL: weirdsub

I'm definitely not a bad girl, I never want to hurt anybody, I always help people out as far as I can. I'm very well educated.

But I always hurt the ppl who are in the relationship with me. I always cheat on my partners(no matter I love him or not), and I don't feel guilty at all. I tend to tell them the truth, but its because I think its fun to know the result, not bcos I feel guilty.






anyone that hurts deliberately the people that they love has issues way beyond ones that this board can offer advice on.   I feel sorry for you -you are deliberately sabotaging any chance you have of having a mutual and fufilling relationship.  Or for that matter - long term.
And you don't sound very submissive to me -  a submissive that deliberately causes pain to her dominant is not a submissive.


i both agree and disagree. i haven't cheated so i can't comment on that area but i have been cheated on (i suspect more than once in relationships prior to the one that i'm in now). i used to play the sabotage game-- sometimes it's a matter of feeling like self-preservation whether it really is or not. i find myself trying to play it now too. but does that make one not a 'twue' sub? not really. it means that there's something going on larger than the relationship dynamic (or so i've been told in cough cough therapy). or at least it means that it *could* be something larger than that dynamic, as in how the individual approaches any relationship. my opinion anyway is that that's one of those situations where you have to know what's going on in the person's head before you can start questioning their submission. big caveat: just my opinion, your mileage will vary blah blah blah...



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