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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 5:40:31 AM   
denika


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Status: offline 		what a great question! I had never played before I bottomed to Knight of Mists. I was very limited to what I knew as 'acceptable' behavior, but after seeing Him play alandra at the first public event I had ever gone too made me realise the vast diffrences in play styles. The emotional release of being able to yell, and fight back and wrestle out personal demons and dump stress I some times don't even realise I'm carrying is truly a gift. For me, I don't think I could stay quiet, at least not for long *s* I have screamed, called Him names, bit , begged and even cried, infact letting the tears show was one of the hardest and most freeing experiences I have had in a long time. A good Master/Top/Dom will build you up in play.

denika of the lake


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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 6:08:26 AM   
undisciplined99


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Status: offline 		I don't think I could be silent during play. Am not always coherent, either Being told to be silent has always been one of those "set up to fail" games. the longer I manage to stay quiet, (an occasional whimper or grunt is allowed) the harder she swings...until I can't anymore. Lotsa fun!

tom

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 6:26:31 AM   
denika


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Status: offline 		That does sound like a fun game.. hmmm I think I might have done that foot in mouth thing again tho, lol

denika of lake

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 7:57:27 AM   
kyraofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: denika

That does sound like a fun game.. hmmm I think I might have done that foot in mouth thing again tho, lol

denika of lake


hmmmm... oh yes, I think that would be an excellent game to play when I try out.. I mean He tries out my new oak paddle. *eg*

kyra

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 10:41:15 AM   
aurora31


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Status: offline 		kyra and denika once again you guys have brought a smile to my face. Please keep up the though provoking posts I always learn something from them. BTW kyra I found an oak paddel to be quite fun *eg*

aurora

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 11:44:04 AM   
denika


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Status: offline 		Eeeekk, oh er sorry, mouse, yes, mad mouse running amok. No strangled screams at the thought of oak. kyra, did you know there are 6 very good places to hide in that Room? And on a wonderful change of topic *EG* I have noticed that some feel that as soon as a sub/slave/bottom becomes non-verbal during play that the scene should stop? Personally, I have become non-verbal but am still okay to carry on. The non-verbal space is an incredibly focused place to be. The Dom has a lot to do with that as well tho, that they are safe and know your limits as much as you do.

denika

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/6/2005 9:52:11 PM   
harderpls


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Status: offline 		I am rather bratty so I am always making smart ass comments and acting out in a bratty way.

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/7/2005 1:16:02 PM   
stephanne84


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Status: offline 		when I play my reactions vary with who I am playing with, though the most recent scenes I have been able to yell, scream, talk what ever I wish and I have though most the time trying to think of things to say that make sense dose not happen other than “fuck that hurt” or “owie boo boo” with a lil pout …. But all I can do at least as of the last month or so is laugh… a lot… making it very hard to do any talking…

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/7/2005 3:25:15 PM   
mistresscandi


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Status: offline 		Subs being allowed to react and make noise as they wish seems to have been the way I have enjoyed playing with subs, and my current live in slave. It's easier to get off the reactions and make it more enjoyable for both parties, unless otherwise told so of course.

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/7/2005 3:31:48 PM   
KnightofMists


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Status: offline 		It is without question that I very much enjoy a primal and free flowing style of play. The people I Top are encouraged to allow themselves to be uninhibited in their behaviors and reactions. In my play I seek to gain the pleasure of dominating and controlling the person I play with. When a bottom considers their reactions and behaviors without the direct instruction or force of my will, they are in effect creating an illusion that I have control of them. I very specifically instruct the people that I play with to avoid thoughtful consideration of how they want or should act. If they think it…Do it… Don’t consider it and then make a decision if one should do to it or not. If I do not like the behavior or reaction … I will seek the means and methods to inhibit the behavior or reaction. Like wise, if I enjoy the specific behavior or reaction I will seek to encourage and initiate acts that will result in those behaviors and/or reactions that I enjoy. Through this approach to play, I maximize the pleasure and enjoyment that I can gain by controlling and dominating those that I play with. In effect their behaviors and reactions often appear to be chaotic and radical, but yet I effect control them and harness the energy they produce and focus it in the manner I choose.

I view play like riding a wave of energy. I surf that wave until the power of its energy is exhausted by my own controlled power and I thus incorporate its power into my own and dominate it.


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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/8/2005 5:26:12 AM   
SoulBelow


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Status: offline 		I always cry when my master is particularly rough with me. It just seems to be an involuntary reaction but is not just about the pain. I find it all so cathartic and all my emotions, everything I'm feeling can come out given a little pain and a little torture. He loves it when I cry and whimper and he slaps me round the face and tells me to stop sobbing but thats just a power exchange thing. I think he loves it when I cry

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/8/2005 9:29:29 AM   
lonewolf05


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Status: offline 		what little actual stuff Mistress does,...which is basically only spankings once in awhile......

and that's about it.......since "I" am not...........into..........any s/m stuff........

i like to hoop n holler as loud as i can...i HATE pain.........aint no matter what kind it is----i HATE it.!!

wolf


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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/8/2005 6:24:57 PM   
denika


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Status: offline 		Crying is a great release . I have a hard time crying at the best of times, even more so if there is anyone around. Having that release in play, letting yourself feel without thought is amazing. Good play can push away alot of the emotional clutter that we all carry around.


denika

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/9/2005 8:40:07 AM   
lonewolf05


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quote:

Good play can push away alot of the emotional clutter that we all carry around.


denika

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is this like, a girl thing? i have NEVER felt any better after crying. i still know there are problems and issues in this world.......and crying doesn't change it. just like my ole pappy told me,.....saying sorry doesn't fix that lamp ya broke. sorry doesn't feed the belly or pay the bills. standup, be a man. quit your sniveling.


it has all been a lot of b.s. to me.--- i have never understood it.


but this is just MY life...

wolf

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/9/2005 11:01:41 PM   
denika


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Status: offline 		wow, that is really a negative, duragative comment. I don't know if it's a girl thing but I do know it's a human thing. A good cry doesn't make or change a problem but it can help release pent up emotions that might make looking at the issue a little easier. Sometime just crying for the sake of it, for the feel of pain for the pleasure of pain. To give your tears to your Top/Master/Dom can be a gift. Crying, giggling screaming, they are all a release and if it works in a scene, all the the better


if it is all b.s. to you why are you bothering to comment aside from being judgmental?

denika of the lake

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RE: Behaviors and Reactions During Play - 11/10/2005 4:37:28 AM   
chgodomcouple


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Status: offline 		well this post maked me giggle.. its funny how in every relationship things go sooo different
I'm very vocal, i dont think i would ever be able to be quiet, and Daddy loves it, he loves to make me squirm , and when I beg for more, or made facial expressions of pain... well by now he knows what each reaction and face expressions means.. and Daddy loves it.
Same goes to me, when im with a women i like them being vocal and like them to be able to express what they feel, i think its a big turn on.....

A.S.

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