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Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/22/2008 6:27:35 PM   
Roxable


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Status: offline 		I have a new sub in my life but unfortunately she is currently living a good distance away from me.  She has a girlfriend in the area to assist with various tasks, but I'm looking for some ideas of various things I can ask her to do for me.  She loves to have photos taken of her, but I'm looking for other ideas.  For instance I've asked her to wear something specific, go to a specific location and have her friend take photos of her.  I've also asked her to approach a stranger on a nude beach and ask the stranger to take photos of her.  These all received pretty positive responses.

So what else?  I figured some of you might have ideas of what you have tried.  What worked, what didn't?  Share your stories and maybe others could get some good ideas out of this topic.

Thanks.
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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/22/2008 6:33:06 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		Really this is about what you want her to do for you.  What you do enjoy that she could do for you from a distance. Think it over and see what you come up with as this is for you.

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/22/2008 6:36:29 PM   
Roxable


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Status: offline 		No I get that.  I'm not going to take others' ideas and directly duplicate them.  I'm looking for others' experiences and I'll use those ideas to build my own requests.  I fully expect to read some ideas which aren't even close to what I would desire and others which are really close.  It's the ability to adapt and expand on a simple thought which is where I will take things.  But to your point, I do agree.

Rox

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/22/2008 6:45:24 PM   
Sabella


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Status: offline 		The things you have her doing just sound like amusing wanker material to me. Nothing wrong with THAT! But how about tapping some useful skills she has, or you'd like her to learn? like research, learning your favorite recipes, learning a new skill you'd like her to have to better serve you? Required reading, essays, working on your ultimate music play list!

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/22/2008 9:06:45 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		I'm with Sabella on this.. sexy pics and kinky writing is fun but not very self-improving..

If you want to develop the relationship try developing the sub, improve her life.  Find out what she is good at, what she likes, what are her goals in life? do you know her goals? does she have personal goals or is it only to serve and make you happy?  if her only goal in life is to be your sub, that will get boring pretty quick if she is not an interesting person.. does she keep up with the news, read newspapers or listen to news. Does she read?

what about college, work skill imporvement, joining a club or activity group.

How about having her plan a vacation for the two of you? Plan on meeting at an event somewhere and do all the planning and arranging for it.


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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/22/2008 9:11:10 PM   
Roxable


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Status: offline 		All excellent points. She will be moving here in August and I'm confident there will be a lot of time to learn, discover and grow together.  In the meantime your thoughts have been helpful. 

Any other ideas or opinions outside of sexy pictures and personal growth?  I'm not disagreeing with anyone, just looking to stimulate a topic.

Thanks.
Rox

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/23/2008 1:54:02 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		August is not that far away..
How about having her make an outline of everthing that needs to be done. Add a time frame to each and have her create a time plan to get it all done before the move. You can do one online so you can be checking and helping on them as they come up.

She can do some guided writing for you. Give her a topic on Monday night in e-mail, she is to send back her writing on it by a set day. Has she written out her philosophy on why she is a sub/slave? Has she shared her view points on different terms in the lifestyle. does she have a code of ethics writting out? How about writting what different topics mean to her? the list goes on. Guided writings keeps her busy, thinking and focused. AND will be good for you to learn more about her.

~ann

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/24/2008 7:05:31 AM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		So what else?
 
Well, here's my experience.  In general, she is going to groove most heavily on what I've come to think of as "direct service" tasks... that is to say, things she can do which will directly and immediately serve you.  Mine and myself live together, but here's an example to make my point...  "Girl, go make me a green apple martini."  Is a very immediate service sort of command.  I'm thirsty.  She makes it.  I'm happy.  This is a lot different than "Girl, go mow the lawn."  which definitely needs to be done and serves me in a roundabout sort of "keeps the household going" kind of way.  Now, as others have said, so far you are using her for her sexuality and she's enjoying that... great.  But how about branching out a bit.  Think what else you need done that she has the skills for and you really don't like doing for whatever reason.  Make a list... presto.  Above all else, if she is new into all this, make her go out and read and learn on her own.  It will help her GREATLY to settle into things if she has inputs and viewpoints that don't all come from you.

Hope that helps.

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/24/2008 8:29:41 AM   
MasterDragon1963


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Status: offline 		If I was in your situation, I would be focusing more on her practising kneeling and serving positions, various serving styles, writing and researching information on the basic building blocks of understanding what it is to be a submissive, what kind of expectations she may encounter, and what types of rewards and experiences she discover. When I had long distance subs, I focused their tasks to positions, grammer, knowledge, and things directly related to the lifestyle on a mental level. A sub should have skills she can use to serve, please, and bring fullfillment. But thats just me.

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/24/2008 2:09:18 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		OP,
Reading your profile answers a lot of questions on your request.  Since you are looking for a bedroom submissive and for a younger submissive woman to explore and broaden their sexuality and to be open to experiencing new forms of intimacy with you, the sexy picture tasks are right up you alley.  

Asking on this "Ask a Master" list is getting you folks who are thinking on more of a Master/slave service relationship level, and while sexuality is a big part of it, it is only a part. So the tasks tend to be more about self imporvement, learning to serve, developing the bond and skill levels. Not about taking sexy pictures. But, since you are looking for a sexual toy, your requests are right on the market..

Oh, i like your refering yourself as an "older" man.. cute.. real cute


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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/24/2008 6:51:14 PM   
Saffleur


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Status: offline 		If you want a bedroom slut then why ask things from people who prefer a slave/sub full time? It's the whole square peg round hole issue all in a different box.

If you want self improvement then one of the things I always do is have the girl stand nude infront of a full body mirror for some time and look over themselves, then ask what she likes and dislikes, give her a schedule to stick to, get her ass in gear to better herself because you can lead a horse to water but sure as hell cannot make them drink.

Course that is wasted being as you pretty much are just looking for a lady on the streets and whore in the sheets.


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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/25/2008 6:35:29 AM   
Floggings4You


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Status: offline 		Much depends on how far you would like her to go.  Would you like her friend to go down on her in a public place, such as a bar or night club?  (Or, have her go down on her friend...?!)  Would you like her to expose herself in public, to strangers?  Let strangers fondle her?     
 
Such things can be very 'hot', but they are also very dangerous (both in terms of actual danger if the strangers can't control themselves, as well as being potentially dangerous to Y/your relationship, if you find out later that you can't handle the fact that she's done certain things with strangers...esp. if she found out that she enjoys such activities.)


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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/25/2008 7:14:09 AM   
Roxable


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Status: offline 		The threads obviously gone in a lot of directions... which I was hoping for.  And to clarify, I wasn't looking for any specific type of advice or suggestion.  As with any good brainstorming session, no opinion is wrong and no idea is stupid :)


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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/25/2008 9:13:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would add that make sure you aren't giving her "make work" stuff just to have her do things.  It can be quite tedious to be given tasks that have no real purpose, other than to give her a task.

Cali


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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/25/2008 3:33:10 PM   
RuheMaus


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Status: offline 		Have her write an essay detailing the things she most wants done to her, then play off that?  I mean, what better place for ideas than your own girl?

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/25/2008 8:43:28 PM   
punkass86


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Status: offline 		Re: RuheMaus:  
That kind of reminds me of one of my favorite assignments I've used in the past. This kind of accomplishes the same thing yours would...I've done both, and I like this method better:

I had my sub go online toy shopping...had her come up with a list of at least 10 items. Each item required a direct link to the item, and an acompanying brief exposition outlining why that item made the list/how she would like it used/etc...of course it's probably important to point out that this is not a shopping list...if you were to go out and buy that crap immediately, it would give the sub too much power, IMO. I find myself looking back at my slave's list constantly for an idea or two...

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 6/27/2008 4:41:02 AM   
lassnmo


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Status: offline 		Hello Sir,

i am apart from my trainer Dom i seek. There are many ways to be unique though cams, talking phone and more.  Althought he is Not that far any distance is Hard Limits.  

Keep her focus, and on task, breast bondage can be done via cams and rubber bands, kneeling, positions and more.  She needs to be what you need.  Just tell her and so be it.

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 7/10/2008 7:27:48 PM   
Jupiterfalling


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Status: offline 		How about making her get more creative? Make things for you? Thoughtfull gifts. Nude photos are great, but what if she actually had to make those photos a work of art?

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 7/10/2008 7:51:42 PM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		If she doesn't already read the forums, you could pick several threads that sound interesting to you and ask her to read them so that you can discuss them with her.

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RE: Brainstorming tasks for sub - 8/4/2009 10:45:37 AM   
Liadon666


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Status: offline 		i have only read the OP for this topic. but i would suggest perhaps have her work on a story she could write specifically for you. it has worked for me a few times. though sometimes it has been a horrid experience to endure reading the results.

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