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Your opinions, please... - 11/4/2005 10:01:26 PM

liltwisted1

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Hi everyone,
I've written this short story and would appreciate any of my slave peers opinions as to what they would do, how they interpret this, any feelings in general, etc. My sincerest thanks in advance for any and all who read this.
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As with every new beginning, fresh and unblemished, all was right with the world. The wait was over, two were now one, embarking on a future filled with insurmountable physical and psychological pleasure. Our couple eagerly started their honeymoon period but alas, their good fortune was short lived; a rocky and treacherous path loomed in the not so distant future.

Our happy couple lived in a tiny village called Vanillaville, a nice place with wonderful people. This couple carried out their daily routines as professional workers, returning in the evenings to their carefully guarded erotic secret. The Master, a seasoned professional and his slave, a FNG, seemed a good match. The slave had never experienced anything as intense or addictive as her Master, thereby wanting him all the time. Her poor Master had to tell her that: "Yes, a good slave was to always be ready for her Master, dripping with desire for him. And yet, it is the Masters place to say when, where and how such encounters would occur." The slave reasoned anything that good was worth waiting for and kept her peace.

In a short period their interludes grew fewer and farther between. A report of the slaves growing frustration combined with rapid dissipating arousal, emerged. The inability to question her Master about their play cessation didn't help. One day when she could no longer tolerate it, she asked him if this was about her or if he was vanilla. Enraged, her Master retrieved the implements that had always delivered such a magical mixture of pain and pleasure and used them on his slave. This surprised the slave as she had not seen nor felt these toys in a long time. Later the slave reported that this was the best she had ever received at his hand yet, something was missing. When questioned further, she stated that it felt as if she had berated him into giving her what she wanted and, that thought sickened her.

Last report indicates that the slave still loves her Master, they live in the same house without speaking, the slave doesn't want the toys used on her and, orgasm for her might be a thing of the past...

Ok group, is there any way to fix this mess? If so, how would you, as a slave, go about fixing it? If not, how would you bury this sad story?

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RE: Your opinions, please... - 11/5/2005 3:06:44 AM

sweetpettjenny

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talk about it with him ....simple as that

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RE: Your opinions, please... - 11/5/2005 5:12:54 AM

Mercnbeth

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Ok group, is there any way to fix this mess? If so, how would you, as a slave, go about fixing it? If not, how would you bury this sad story?

hopefully, this statement won't offend anyone, but this slave isn't into being struck BY ANYONE out of ANGER.

if Master ever came at His slave "enraged" and used any of the toys on His slave in ANGER....well, that is something that this slave could never fix and most likely would be the end of our relationship. this slave was in a previous vanilla relationship with an abusive jerk who couldn't control his anger and the ONLY successful way this slave could "fix the mess" was to finally throw Him OUT on his keester and crawl into a proverbial corner and lick wounds for a couple of years.

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RE: Your opinions, please... - 11/5/2005 5:13:25 AM

JohnWarren

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Sadly this happens more often than one would hope. For some people the search is more exciting than the capture and as Spock put it "To want is better than to have."

I've seen it mostly in novice couples and particularly novice dominants who are exploring their fantasies for the first time. After all, what we do can consume a lot of energy and imagination and everyone has limited amounts to expend.

If BDSM is just another checkmark up Abraham Maslow' heirarchy of needs for a given individual, once it has been "accomplished" the person may shift priority to the next level. Taken in a nonsexual area, how many people put a lot of effort into building "the dream house" but then let the trash accumulate and the windows go unwashed?

It is possible to get the uncaring individual to reassess piorities by making it clear that the other is unhappy with the status quo but it has been my experience that this "making clear" has to be firm and unequivocal. Hinting isn't going to cut it.

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RE: Your opinions, please... - 11/5/2005 6:36:58 AM

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You guys need to focus on the underlying issue- is this really what will fulfill you? Are you just being passive and making him do all the work? Are your expectations matching up and realistic?

Otherwise you will just continue this cycle of frustration.

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RE: Your opinions, please... - 11/5/2005 1:43:57 PM

justjenn

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You said "the inability to question her Master about their play cessation didn't help." Perhaps I'm just spoiled and/or lucky, but I have never had a Master that wouldn't at least allow me to ask. Granted, he may not always decide to answer the question, but I have always been allowed to ask a question.

You also said "if this was about her or if he was vanilla" - perhaps that could have been phrased a little differently and achieved a different result? I would recommend something more along the lines of "Master, I realize that my primary responsibility is to please you and see that your needs are met; however, it is my understanding that it is your respsonsibility to see that my needs are met also. I understand that sometimes our busy lives may interfere with this, but lately my needs are not being met and I would like permission to speak freely about this, so that we can hopefully resolve whatever issue is behind this."

And I do have to agree with Mercnbeth - your Master should NEVER come at you in anger.

I wish you the best of luck in this!

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