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tsatske -> RE: A potential domme wants me to be more "gentlemen like" (6/25/2008 11:37:37 AM)
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I do understand, however, that this question can be differant than other 'expectations', to some people. I personally believe that the essence of subs is to be trainable, P(if they feel the connection and they wish to be), so i would prefer to be with someone open to training on what they want.
However, to some people, whatever it is that they think of as 'gentemanly' is, in their opinion, intrinsic to who and what that person is - their core values, their worth, the most basic self. I am thinking of my daughter, at 18 or 19, who worked at a factory. Now, my daughter prefered to date younger men, so it is a good thing she was a virgin at that age she'd of wound up in prison <joke>. She told me that an older man gave her a carpool home regularly, and she liked him as a friend, but he kept asking her out, so she just told him that she found him to old.
But she told me - 'He is not that much too old. I would go out with him, but - when he drops me off at home, he leaves before i even get in the door. and i could never go out with someone who would do that. And if i tell him thats why i won't go out with him, he will quit doing it - but he will still be the same person, a person who would do that.' (remebering, my daughter was no Domme).
I am only saying - perhaps she prefers that the change be more basic, instead of just following directions, not just about actions, but finding those actions for yourself and instilling the values that go with them.
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