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mandalic -> Switching To Topping (6/23/2008 12:09:33 PM)
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For the most part I’ve identified as a bottom except for a few brief times where I was going to submit to specific people, or other times when I’ve thought about switching. I’ve always recognized that I do have some topping tendencies, but as far as who I am in a relationship with, I want a man, who is a Top. Him switching every so often would definitely be a plus, but in day to day life I don’t want a man who is going to be a "bitch all the time".
I’m with a man now who I have a kinky sexual relationship with. We don’t practice D/s (as that is not where I’m at in my life right now), but when we do kinky sex (S&M) he is always the Top. For a little while now I’ve wanted to do some ass-play with him like fucking him with a strap-on, but he is still working on being that comfortable with me doing that to him (he does solo ass play, but it takes him awhile to be able to do that with another person).
Recently I’ve opened myself up more to the idea of topping. Ichanged my profile to switch to better reflect my growing desire to do just that. I’ve always been interested in various things that generally go along with females topping males: face sitting, cross-dressing, strap-ons, spanking, and other things. I’ve just always had a hard time being sexually attracted to male submissives so I never heavily sought that out.Now that I am in a relationship that fulfills most of my 'major' needs I feel more open to also being with a man who is more submissive, because I wouldn’t have to deal with him the rest of the time***. I recently started talking to a man who is also a switch and we might make plans to meet, and have me top him.
I don’t really have any experience with topping though, and I’d love to hear some advice if anyone has any about just starting out as a Top, and topping someone who has more experience at being topped than you do at topping.
***My relationship is open, and b/f is okay with me topping others.
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