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DaddyDomsgirl -> need alil help (6/23/2008 1:24:08 PM)
i'm a submissive with 12 plus years in this lifestyle.....what i need help on is...my Daddy and i are in a LDR....W/we are in same state just hours apart and there are reasons beyound O/our control that stops U/us from meeting up R/T..... question is....what kind of things can i do to make Him happy R/T....to make Him understand that i do care deeply for Him,and show Him just how submissive and devoted to Him as i am....i just need alil help in ideas of things to do to show this...any adive would be takin in greatly.....thank You A/all

kiwisub12 -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:31:19 PM)
You guys never meet real time??????

DaddyDomsgirl -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:35:31 PM)
not yet....W/we meet thru collarme and have been together alil over 2 months online and are planning to meet R/T as soon as W/we can

softness -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:36:15 PM)
As one who does LDR to the extreme ... the only way its going to really really work ... is if its real time ... I am a companion to DV, someone to chat with and fill time with, I am obedient to His wishes, I offer Him love and comfort as best I can ... though I am His property, until I am with Him again, I am serving Him by being His friend.. but its nothing to actially being right there with Him. Be his friend, his companion, be there when he needs you, send him surprises, do whatever you can to keep yourself present in his life ... but get to him in real time. If DV and I couldn't betogether rt eventually and weren't working towards getting there... we wouldn't be together at all.

goodpet -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:38:35 PM)
Hi, wow LDR are difficult, * if you are able to mail things to him..snail mail.. then you can do all kind of stuff. send funny cards to brighten up his day. send flowers or fruit to him once in a while create a notebook of a topic he is interested in. collect news and articles on a subject he likes and summerize them, send them to him indexed for his review. Make friends with a local service sub and arrange for them to go clean his house for you. Take a self improvement course in something you want to learn and journal him online your progress in the class. Read a book he is reading and discuss the book in chat with him. Research something he is doing or a trip he will be taking and compile and index the imformation for him. make arrangements if that is possible. I'll keep thinking but that is a quick start. ~Ann

Daes -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:39:14 PM)
The most important thing here, and the most simplest answer is be yourself. Seems easy enough but it can be hard. Of course you want to be Good and obediant, but try to be who you are as you are to let him see You, without trying to impress or gain favor - if you know what I mean. Be true to who you are and you can never go wrong - and I'm sure he would tell you the same. I do, however, suggest talking about expectations and communicating what is and isn't acceptable for a first meeting. Personally I treat first meetings like vanilla dates, but it works differently for everyone. I believe a good talk is needed and it would help calm any anxiety you may have over pleasing him. I also wouldn't worry so much about it, if he knows what he is doing, you'll learn exactly what makes him happy in time and it won't even be a question.

DaddyDomsgirl -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:43:17 PM)
thank You everyone for Your help with this.....W/we are looking for Daddy to have a playmate near where He lives....since W/we are unable to be together 24/7.....plus W/we look for a playmate for me also(female only).....but besides that i try my best to be here for Daddy as often as i can....which seems to be everyday......i sit and wait for Him to sign on or even try to call Him at work and surpise Him by calling...and send Him offline messages telling Him how much i miss Him and stuff like that.

goodpet -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:43:51 PM)
Ok, just read your next post.. You have just met 2 months ago.. and have plans to meet soon. being a NEW relationship where you have not yet met.. try some journaling and writing about your views and feelings about differen topics in the lifestyle so he can get to know you better. Ask him to do the same, share what he feels and thinks. 2 months.. i would suggest just do things to get to know him better.. lots of talking.. send him some online kinky cards.. i would also suggest to slow down until you have actually met face to face.. or have been together a much longer time.

kiwisub12 -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 1:48:36 PM)
Oh, i so wouldn't sit and wait and hope that he signs on.That is so unhealthy, and a big waste of time too. I like Softness's answer(now there is a girl who does LONGGGGGGGGGGGGGG distance) - until you can be together, be his friend, and use this time to get to know him. As for serving him - wait until you meet.

Daes -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 2:01:00 PM)
My opinion has changed now that I've read your new post. Then again, I'm not one for poly relationships - So I am just going to say this. R/t subs require time and attention - i wouldn't be surprised if he becomes less available online should he acquire a R/t submissive. She will be first priority. If she's simply a play partner, it would be slightly different, but you have indicated that he wants a R/t relationship with a sub. I'd be very careful and think things through because there is a possibility that you could be hurt. I also have to wonder if he's looking for a harem as I suspect he would want to be involved with the woman you may or may not choose to play with. Even if you played with her, would this be a dominant woman or a submissive woman? If it were dominant than i think you may be more fullfilled, if it is a submissive girl I would be very suspicious of his intentions.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 2:01:46 PM)
I'm surprised you've got 12 years experience and you can't think of a million things on your own? Simply being who you are should be more than enough one would think, anything extra would be, well extra.

softness -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 2:04:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goodpet i would also suggest to slow down until you have actually met face to face.. or have been together a much longer time. If I had taken that advice ... I would never be where I am now. I would advise you to take it seriously. By that I would look at what you actually have ... is it wild cyber sex, or it it hours and hours of random chat about nonesense that you couldn't imagine having with anyone else? There can be things that are very "real" even at a distance. The support I offered to DV earlier this year with some difficult stuff going on in His life, the guidance DV has given me through my illness the last 3 years ... all of that was real and serious even though we only met in person face to face ... sorry .. face to back of head ... a month ago. quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub12 As for serving him - wait until you meet. service isn't all sexual ... and there is service that can be given from a great distance ... just looks for all the world like friendship ... mainly because there is a lot less anal sex returns to playing cyber nurse to the very poorly patient

DaddyDomsgirl -> RE: need alil help (6/23/2008 2:46:48 PM)
thank You A/all.....i will take everything in.....thank you softness,you sound like your kinda in the same boat as me.....W/we both take what W/we have seriously.....i am always looking for friends who are in same boat or have been where i'm at.....

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