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Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:03:15 AM   
KaineD


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Status: offline 		I've been going to a website where people share "extreme" porn such as BDSM and rough sex.  They've opened up a section for humiliation, and a couple of guys have been bringing in their own girls posting pics and vids with the encouragement of the mod.

So, a lot of guys make requests for what they want to see these girls doing.  So of course, a lot of requests get really ridiculous and unrealistic.  I mean, I think some of these guys were the type to torture insects during childhood.  And taking the example of the mod, they sometimes take the idea of verbal humiliation too far.  I've seen the mod being very unfair to one sub already, going as far as banning her because she didn't want to shave.

Then I was reading through a topic yesterday.  Very cute girl posting her pics and vids, giving a good contribution.  She says she likes humiliation.  So what happens?  One of the other subs who has been at the site for a while proceeds to call her fat and ugly, and all sorts of shit.  So the girl doesn't like this and lets it be known.  So the sub that called her this stuff proceeds to tell her she's an immature child that can't handle it, etc.  The mod takes the side of the girl that's been there longer, implies the new girl isn't a real sub, and bans the new girl.

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:06:40 AM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Not really sure what the point is here...that the internet can be unfair maybe? Yup. the beauty of it is that anyone who isn't happy with it though has the ultimate control and doesn't have to subject themself to it....the little "x" in the corner.

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:07:37 AM   
Aileen1968


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Status: offline 		Ummm.  OK.  And...
Is there a question here?

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:08:44 AM   
KaineD


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Not really sure what the point is here...that the internet can be unfair maybe? Yup. the beauty of it is that anyone who isn't happy with it though has the ultimate control and doesn't have to subject themself to it....the little "x" in the corner.


I just think it's a shame that a website with a lot of potential manages to chase away every new girl because of a bunch of sickos that can't distinguish fantasy and reality, and a "Dom" that bans subs if they don't conform to his idea of what a submissive is.

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:09:59 AM   
KaineD


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

Ummm.  OK.  And...
Is there a question here?


I guess the question is, can this "Dom" really be considered a Dom?  I don't think it's how a Dom should be acting.

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:10:22 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		If they didn't want to be there, they wouldn't be there. The girl who likes humiliation can't start picking and choosing what kind of humiliation she wants. It's a forum. You ask stuff, you get responses. Sometimes you don't like the responses. That's what happens on a forum. I don't see the problem.

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:14:24 AM   
KaineD


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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

If they didn't want to be there, they wouldn't be there. The girl who likes humiliation can't start picking and choosing what kind of humiliation she wants. It's a forum. You ask stuff, you get responses. Sometimes you don't like the responses. That's what happens on a forum. I don't see the problem.


Usually when you don't like a response you don't get banned for it.  If a single moderator wants every sub to conform to what his ideas of submissiveness, then it makes the site very restrictive and rigid.  Everyone has a different idea of what submissiveness and humilation is and the mod should realize that

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:16:59 AM   
Aileen1968


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KaineD

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

If they didn't want to be there, they wouldn't be there. The girl who likes humiliation can't start picking and choosing what kind of humiliation she wants. It's a forum. You ask stuff, you get responses. Sometimes you don't like the responses. That's what happens on a forum. I don't see the problem.


Usually when you don't like a response you don't get banned for it.  If a single moderator wants every sub to conform to what his ideas of submissiveness, then it makes the site very restrictive and rigid.  Everyone has a different idea of what submissiveness and humilation is and the mod should realize that


When enough people get fed up with the way the site is run and stop using it and it is just a bunch of doms sitting around waiting for fodder then they'll either disappear or change.  Not really anything to lose sleep over.

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:17:49 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		Then why aren't you contacting the mod at the website?

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RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:18:13 AM   
SinLee


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Status: offline 		if the owner of the site is the mod, or chooses to have a single mod, then that is their choice. there are plenty of sites out there. that's like walking into someone's house and saying "make me food" and having them give you your least favorite food. if you then turn around and say "your cooking sucks" be prepared to leave the house.

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:19:25 AM   
    mistoferin


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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: KaineD

    quote:

    ORIGINAL: mistoferin

    Not really sure what the point is here...that the internet can be unfair maybe? Yup. the beauty of it is that anyone who isn't happy with it though has the ultimate control and doesn't have to subject themself to it....the little "x" in the corner.


    I just think it's a shame that a website with a lot of potential manages to chase away every new girl because of a bunch of sickos that can't distinguish fantasy and reality, and a "Dom" that bans subs if they don't conform to his idea of what a submissive is.


    I'm sorry but life is just so fast paced and full that I can't even imagine that something like this could ever be a concern that would take up more than a fleeting moment in my head. Not to mention that there are literally millions of websites out there to choose from....if I don't like one I just find another.

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:34:42 AM   
    OmegaG


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    I like humiliating but weight is an off limit subject for me, simply because I've battled eating disorders and I don't want to go down that road again.  With that said, I've been honest with my problem and have encountered only understanding and support with that regard, however, I would not stick around in a place or with a person that chose to play with my mind in that way.

    Slaves and submissives aren't (or shouldn't be) some helpless little creatures that have no ability to advocate for themselves, especially when that advocation simply an act of changing the page on their screen or walking away.  I honestly don't understand how people can get so worked up by a monitor.

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:47:23 AM   
    TNstepsout


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    Status: offline     		His webpage, his house, his rules. That's the way the internet works. My son plays an online video game that he's very good at, and is played in private servers. He is constantly being banned from servers because he's better than the other players and they don't like getting killed.  They own the servers, they pay the fees, if they don't like someone, for whatever reason, they are banned.

    Eventually if enough people get kicked from the site, this Dom won't have any more friends to play with. Kind of like when my son kills everyone in the game. *shrug*

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:53:41 AM   
    celticlord2112


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    quote:

    Then I was reading through a topic yesterday. Very cute girl posting her pics and vids, giving a good contribution. She says she likes humiliation. So what happens? One of the other subs who has been at the site for a while proceeds to call her fat and ugly, and all sorts of shit. So the girl doesn't like this and lets it be known. So the sub that called her this stuff proceeds to tell her she's an immature child that can't handle it, etc. The mod takes the side of the girl that's been there longer, implies the new girl isn't a real sub, and bans the new girl.

    Well, no shit.

    Girl says she likes humiliation.  She gets humiliation.  She complains--indicating humiliation is taking place.  Turns out she doesn't like humiliation.  Wah Wah Wah.

    The reason you have to be careful about what you wish for is that sometimes....you actually get it.


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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 5:57:50 AM   
    MasterHermes


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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: KaineD

    I guess the question is, can this "Dom" really be considered a Dom?  I don't think it's how a Dom should be acting.


    Moderating a website and being a Dom is entirely different things , and I am sure you know that. Collarme had moderators too but you dont see them walking around kicking users out who refuse to entertain them. Being a moderator is a ( unless its your personal website ) and like any other job if you abuse your power for personal gains , you are in a wrong doing. So we cant say he can be considered a Dom or not. All we can say, this is not the right way of managing a website. This being said if it is their personal space , you cant really complain about it. Well actually you can complain about it, but by visiting this persons website you are already accepting his rules. You can start your own website and manage it the way you see it right , for example. While there will be many problems attached to it, thats how societies advance in freedom. Do it better when you see something wrong. Or if you dont want to bother you can just find a place more suitable for you. At the end being kicked out from somewhere you dont belong at the first place is not a punishment (in this case for those girls since you didnt get kicked out)

    Enjoy it
    Hermes

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 6:03:27 AM   
    GreedyTop


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    quote:

    One of the other subs who has been at the site for a while proceeds to call her fat and ugly, and all sorts of shit. 


    so.....where's the dom thats out of control?  or did I miss something?

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 6:14:07 AM   
    Floggings4You


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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: KaineD

    I just think it's a shame that a website with a lot of potential manages to chase away every new girl because of a bunch of sickos that can't distinguish fantasy and reality, and a "Dom" that bans subs if they don't conform to his idea of what a submissive is.


    There's no 'reality' at the website you're describing, whatsoever.  
     
    It doesn't seem that anyO/one goes there with any hope of ever meeting any fellow member(s) face-to-face, let alone forming any kind of r/l relationship.
     
    It's all fantasy at this place, and assuming that every "new girl" is actually a girl--when 'she' is just as likely to be a fifteen-year-old boy (or a bored, sixty-year-old submissive man)--is probably wishful thinking.  

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 6:46:46 AM   
    laura2161


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    quote:

    ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

    If they didn't want to be there, they wouldn't be there. The girl who likes humiliation can't start picking and choosing what kind of humiliation she wants. It's a forum. You ask stuff, you get responses. Sometimes you don't like the responses. That's what happens on a forum. I don't see the problem.


    As usual I agree with MissMagnolia.

    If you don't like what's happening at the site, then leave the site.


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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 7:33:49 AM   
    peppermint


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    Status: offline     		Perhaps the humiliated, banned submissive will get a new ID and reappear on the sight as another submssive...or even a Dominant tomorrow.  This is online.  Stop taking it all so seriously.  Each person who goes onto that sight may or may not be who they say they are...including the Dominant moderator who may be neither Dominant or submissive in the real world. 

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    RE: Website with an out of control "Dom" - 6/24/2008 7:38:13 AM   
    Mercnbeth


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    If you don't like what's happening at the site, then leave the site.


    But first provide the link!

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