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3 Pillars of a potentially successful relationship; laundry, bakery and sodomy
 
DV said to me this morning, “I am just a simple guy, all I want is laundry, bakery and sodomy”  … and I think here He might have hit on something.
 
Disclaimer  - this is a bit of fun, not a one true wayist agenda
 
Laundry
We all have lives, our personal choices about sexuality and orientation do not remove the need for jobs and taxes, bills and dental appointments. Somewhere, somehow life interferes and has to begin again. Simply put we all have stuff that just plain has to get done. Like laundry. Ignoring it doesn’t do any good, and pretending it isn’t there wont help either.  Eventually the smell of socks will become overpowering.
 
Laundry covers every thing from your working life, to dealing with shit that just cant be changed. Health problems, ex-partners, allergies to hemp, whatever it is that just has to be dealt with, deal with it and move on. Laundry covers the fairly generic stuff in a relationship; its either clean or its not – essentially, the pretty much the same thing will work for most people. Just like Laundry powder.
 
So when going through the laundry pile some garments can just be tossed in the wash, others need a little extra work. When making a relationship work in conjunction with life, some things just fall into place once you start to get on with things. Other parts of your relationship take more work, more time, more care, more attention, to maintain them alongside what you are doing. Just like you decide if you can be bothered buying anymore dry-clean only sweaters that require extra upkeep, you need to decide whether someone high maintenance is going to be worth the investment.
 
Bakery
I don’t know about you, but bakery for me is half natural flair and half practice. Some people it’s all practice, some people its all natural flair, and some people it’s a smoke filled kitchen and awkward conversations with the fire department. The bakery part of the relationship is knowing what works for you, what tastes you have and finding someone who either loves you for the fact you can burn water, or adores you for your home baked biscuits (both literally and metaphorically).
 
Bakery is something personal, it’s the bits of your relationship that aren’t generic. You can’t always follow a recipe for this bit, and even when you do – sometimes its just doesn’t work. A recipe you get from your best friend, that works every time for her, will turn into a gloopy mess on your kitchen counter. Likewise your “throw it all in the bowl and see what happens” maybe exactly what works for you, and causes her to shake her head in fear and wonderment.
 
Each relationship is totally unique to the people inside it. Embrace that. Don’t seek to make yours just like the one someone else shares, don’t fret because you followed the same steps and something totally unexpected happened. Don’t throw away the recipe either, maybe your ingredients where just off in some way, maybe next time the recipe will turn out just right. Sometimes something will be amazing once, and never work again. Sometimes it will just always work, and sometimes (the best times) something which never works, one day just turns out perfect and surprises you both.
 
Sodomy
Sometimes, something wonderful is on the other side of something uncomfortable, awkward, and maybe even a little shameful. Every relationship has something to overcome eventually, something to deal with, that one or both of you might not be all that excited about, wanting, or perhaps maybe even dreading. Going through with it though, well the reward is there, if you decide that it is.
 
Sodomy is something that shouldn’t be rushed (even for birthdays and special occasions). Taking your time, communicating … keeping the end goal in sight but not sprinting towards it. Relationships need that, they thrive on it.
 
Not all relationships are about pushing the outer limits, sometimes it’s the inner limits that are the most rewarding to examine. Looking back along the path you have travelled, seeing what you worked around, stumbled over and dealt with, can be one of the most bonding experiences a couple can share.
 
 
DISCLAIMER
If this doesn’t work for you then fine, am not being one true wayist … no flames please!
 
So there you have it … laundry, bakery, and sodomy .. the three pillars of a potentially successful relationship .. kinky, vanilla, or otherwise.