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Had to Leave my Lord - 11/5/2005 10:55:17 PM

intuitivesub

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I had to tear myself from my first and only Lord. I have been away with only two breif online chats for almost 3 months. It was not a good realtionship. I was warned, told by many in the community after they met him, to get out ASAP. I did not. I relocated twice after breaking up. I know logically this person is incapable of caring about me. I know I am happier most of the time without him. But yet I still do miss him sooo much. I miss the way he took charge of me, mind body and soul. Is it possible to have someone take charge of your mind body and soul and it still be healthy?
Broken Hearted Still.

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/5/2005 11:41:18 PM

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As my old buddy, Dossie Easton likes to say with a kind of side-way's twisted smile, "Another fucking opportunity for growth."

Congratulations for having the courage

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/5/2005 11:56:18 PM

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Also Congratulations from us for taking that big hard step but now you have added more to your knowledge and wisdom in the lifestyle.

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 12:06:46 AM

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Is it possible to have someone take charge of your mind body and soul and it still be healthy?

Yes, it is possible. However, you're clearly still in mourning over the breakup of your relationship, even though you know it was best for you, and three months isn't really all that long. Give yourself time to get over your ex, and use this time to figure out what was wrong about your relationship, what was right about it, and what you've learned from it that you can use to make sure your NEXT relationship is the one you really want. Figure out what YOUR expectations are for a relationship, and it will make finding the right partner MUCH easier.

Hang in there. You can do this.

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 6:39:26 AM

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As my old buddy, Dossie Easton likes to say with a kind of side-way's twisted smile, "Another fucking opportunity for growth."

Emphasis on the Phucking hah! LMAO, M

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 6:49:08 AM

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Is it possible to have someone take charge of your mind body and soul and it still be healthy?

Dear Intuitivesub,
I believe it is possible to have a responsible, caring, and not-entirely-narcissistic/predatory-asshole take charge of your body and soul and still be healthy... Otherwise, probably not.
I admire your courage in leaving, I hope you will keep that spirit (even when it hurts deep within) to continue with your efforts toward self preservation and maybe even advance to sufficient self love to stay away from that which you know is not healthy/good for you.
Good luck, and welcome to the boards. M

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 6:59:03 AM

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I went through tormoil for nearly 4 months deciding to leave my last Master. NO one warned me in the community, but some new he was a known predator , hindsight, i guess. It goes deep when you fall in love with your Owner/Master, and is very hard learning to walk away. I was his slave , and if i felt i had to leave i felt like a complete failure, to Us, him, myself and my oathe of submission. I understand your grief, it runs deep , and i can only hope the one true Master who collars me someday , will cherish the submission and love i give and not use it , to hurt me . Best of luck to you, truelly i mean that , because i understand your pain.

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 5:22:51 PM

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Is it possible to have someone take charge of your mind body and soul and it still be healthy?
Broken Hearted Still.

Yeah. But not if you're still clinging to the past.

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 6:23:33 PM

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Is it possible to have someone take charge of your mind body and soul and it still be healthy?
Broken Hearted Still.

Yeah. But not if you're still clinging to the past.

major ditto. very well said.

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RE: Had to Leave my Lord - 11/6/2005 8:50:03 PM

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One of the hardest things is to let go. It's our dream that we separate from and when it isn't there it makes us doubt our thoughts or being.It can feel like a cold lonely place. You will wane and you feel like wanting him is unreasonable because the attachment is so strong with Dom sub relationships, but know that you do have the strength to move on and missing what could have been will only make you miss what is there or what can come.

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