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I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetration? - 11/6/2005 5:41:41 AM

sensuouscity

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Hello Im new to being sub but find it all very erotic and exciting.

I'm firendly with a Dom (my first) he wants me to go along for interview/ role play session with him with his wife as voyeur...I am a straight sub so no would not want fem involved with me... but he has permission to play from her which seems very fair and the power shift is what intrigues and i fund erotic. Her submission to his Domination which allowing me to be 'interviewed" by him seems quite erotic, albeit I have told him limits my, play no pentration by him. Please comment on what you think of this situation. Is it a good way for my sub training to commence?

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 5:47:22 AM

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If everything is exactly as you say it is.......it has the makings of a memorable experience-- that experience could be good or bad... only time will tell that, and the doing thereof.

lotta people start somewhere and you will too.

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 6:36:10 AM

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If you don't have a problem with playing with a married man, and everyone involved (including wife) knows and consents, than go for it, have fun, and please come back and tell us how it was for you. M

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 8:37:01 AM

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If everything is on the level and it sounds like a situation you would all thoroughly enjoy, then go for it.

Just try and make sure that this really is as it seems and not just what you want it to be.

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 8:42:54 AM

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Please comment on what you think of this situation. Is it a good way for my sub training to commence?

Would have to know the people involved to specifically comment on them, I think.

As for the 'type of situation,' I'd suggest knowing him, AND her, before venturing into any scenes. I have a friend that ventured into play with a "couple." Her limits were to enjoy only one of them, in scene, and the other was to "watch." As she was tied up, and blindfolded, it was MORE than apparent that both were participating. She was violated, and "both" saw nothing wrong it what they did. They felt "she wanted it" but was too afraid to articulate it. A violation of trust is hard to recover from sometimes.

Know your partner(s). If you're unsure, don't get together. If you have questions for them, ask "them" now, and not after, and enjoy yourself, if you feel it's right for YOU! Don't let either one of them push you into anything that you're not comfortable with doing.

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 10:11:42 AM

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First off, there really isn't any general "sub training". The duty of a submissive is to please his or her dominant. Whatever training there is should be aimed at that end. Since the needs and desires of dominants vary widely, until you know to whom you wish to submit you don't know what training you need.

Second, as I read it, they want her there as an observer. You are willing to have that as long as she doesn't participate. As long as that is clear and everyone stays with the plan, it sounds good to me. As for the "no penetration" rule, that's not an uncommon situation with poly couples who are fluid bound

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 2:00:00 PM

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Her submission to his Domination which allowing me to be 'interviewed" by him seems quite erotic, albeit I have told him limits my, play no pentration by him. Please comment on what you think of this situation.

As long as his name is not William Clinton, i say go for it and have some fun.
Could be lots of fun.

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 10:43:47 PM

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Well, true...unless Her name was Hillary Rodham....:-D

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/6/2005 10:43:54 PM

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Well, true...unless Her name was Hillary Rodham....:-D

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/7/2005 2:55:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sensuouscity

Hello Im new to being sub but find it all very erotic and exciting.

I'm firendly with a Dom (my first) he wants me to go along for interview/ role play session with him with his wife as voyeur...I am a straight sub so no would not want fem involved with me... but he has permission to play from her which seems very fair and the power shift is what intrigues and i fund erotic. Her submission to his Domination which allowing me to be 'interviewed" by him seems quite erotic, albeit I have told him limits my, play no pentration by him. Please comment on what you think of this situation. Is it a good way for my sub training to commence?

i'm pretty much in agreement with what's been posted. make sure that the arrangements are really what you think and be clear as to your expectations and those of the others involved. as to training, it is very individual to the parties involved, so what might train you for one mightn't train you for another. i wish you well with it.

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/22/2005 1:51:01 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sensuouscity

Hello Im new to being sub but find it all very erotic and exciting.

I'm firendly with a Dom (my first) he wants me to go along for interview/ role play session with him with his wife as voyeur...I am a straight sub so no would not want fem involved with me... but he has permission to play from her which seems very fair and the power shift is what intrigues and i fund erotic. Her submission to his Domination which allowing me to be 'interviewed" by him seems quite erotic, albeit I have told him limits my, play no pentration by him. Please comment on what you think of this situation. Is it a good way for my sub training to commence?

it sounds like the Masters' already has obligations to another and not to you which makes for a hard situation, my advice would be to find a more suitable Dom for you ......good luck in what you seek. =)
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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/22/2005 7:19:02 AM

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I think it could be a memorable experience for you as long as you take everything at face value and have no further expectations. This man is dominant you said, but not *your* dominant, therefore the connection starts and stops at this pending scene. It is not uncommon for a person, (submissive or otherwise but it tends to happen faster with submissives) to become attached on many levels. The margain for misunderstanding is great if these things are not negotiated carefully. I would also like to say that in my opinion, this would be an experience, not training. Best of luck to you no matter what you do! : )

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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/22/2005 8:08:44 AM

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Hello There,
I'd say the married thing is no big deal if he has her aware he's seeing others even if you did have sex if all agreed to it.
I don't think an open relationship is a bad thing if all agree and are aware of it.
I'd also say you said you don't want her to participate, but she's sitting in on your meeting. That's contradictory. Is it you like her to watch, but just no touching? I'd also like to say if she's always around when you play with him how are you going to feel if you have to play with him around her all the time.
Just some things you need to decide for yourself.
Sincerely,
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RE: I'm a sub...tempted by a married Dom but no penetra... - 11/22/2005 5:15:53 PM

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if a couple asked me to join them in play like that, i would definitely jump in. nothing is better than a couple being so open with eachother that they will share eachohter with others.

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